Who do I choose?

[Anonymous]

I have been talking to 2 guys online that both want to meet me and want the same thing as me for the future one is a little younger than the other

[Oliverlogan263]

Okay girl, this is tough when there are options! Here are a few things I would consider when choosing:

Compatibility - Who do you click with more on a deeper level? Do your values, interests and communication styles mesh better?

Intensity - Which connection feels more natural and organic? Sometimes the hottest flames burn fast and fizzle out. Steady warmth can last.

Lifestyle fit - Does one guy's plans and schedule align more with what you want long term in terms of family, career, etc? compromise is key

Gut feeling - Listen to your intuition. Which person gives you more excited butterflies vs uneasy ones in your belly?

Age - A few years can be negligible when feelings are there. But consider life stages too - are you both in similar phases?

Priorities - Imagine 5 years from now - do you envision building a meaningful bond and partnership with one over the other?

Trust your heart sis but don't rush into anything serious yet either. Keep getting to know them both for now. See who stands out as best matching what and who you really want down the road. You've got this - follow your heart and it'll lead you right!

[KBird]

I mean, Id determine the choice on other factors, including the goals for the future. Like, do we love doing the same activities during our spare time. Are we both open minded towards food or travel. Do we have a compatible personality? What are some of his "musts" in a relationship? Can we compromise on these? Do you have similar views towards politics, etc...

I would say continue dating them both. Dont commit just yet. I would also write a comparison list, kinda like in Friends, :P

Have you seen the movie "This Means War" with Reese Witherspoon, Chris Pine and Tom Hardy? If not, I highly recommend. It is similar to what you're going through, but probably a little different ;) its fun.

[Kayla45]

Go with the older one, it’s more likely they have their stuff together at that point.