How can I decide who should I chose?

[Anonymous]

Hey guys, first of all don’t mind my English i’m not a native speaker So my story started 4 years before when i hooked up with a great friend of mine. I didn't like him as a man more like a friend and he wasn't really my type. But i felt sorry when he told me he loves me, so i agreed to date with him. I was thinking it won't work and we will separate eventualy. But the thing is we stayed together for 4 years. I love him, not with romantic love but i do love him. We grow together a lot, he knows me the most and he knows me the most as Well. But in the same time we have problems too. He is way too much religious and he is a foreigner. He makes me change if my clothes are short or let show too much. I am a modest girl i dont like slutty clothes either, but his culture is more strict. Also we have problems because of different religions. So we live our life, i even forgot how is to feel romantic love. But a guy came, we had a mutual class and “ met” there. He is into me and god i remembered how to feel being attracted to me. I domt want to play with their hearts and dont want to cheat. I know i sound like an a.. hole but i really dont know what to do. Should i stay with my boyfriend, who is my best friend, the closest person to me but i never loved him romantically and i am not attracted to him. Or should i end up this relationship in hope i can feel love and attraction, feel myself a woman next to a man. My boyfriend deserves someone who loves him the way he loves me. But in the same time it would hurt him terribly and me too. Somehow i always felt like one day we break up and it eill be solved but more i think about breaking ip my heart aches more.

[Interstate]

A relationship will NEVER work if the love doesn't go both ways. Religion is paramount in a relationship, and If he makes you change your clothes before you go out, he isn't for you. But if you are dressing modestly AT ALL, I can see his point in saying it is unacceptable. As far as the other issues go, it sounds as though he is heading towards controlling, and you will have a next to impossible time getting out of it. I would look into this opportunity with the other Guy. It sounds as though he can love you for who you are, and everything he displays is genuine. BUT, you need to give yourself time getting to know him VERY well before talking about getting serious. Not only does this give the two of you the chance to get to know each other, but it gives you the time you need to assure yourself you are over the present.

But at the same time, the feeling of love will come naturally (that's what she said), when it is the right person. But how would you know if he might be the right Guy unless you give it a chance? But regardless, you need to get out of this relationship with your boyfriend, because it may be a matter of time before he gets more "abusive" of who you are. He is taking advantage of you, and eventually it will tear your self-esteem down to the point where you will have SERIOUS trust issues. GET OUT OF IT NOW!!!

[caring__1]

If you settle, you'll eventually regret it. Have you ever told your boyfriend you only loved him as a friend? If you implied one thing and now profess another, there will be more drama. Always be open and honest with those you are involved with. It sounds like you'll never fit into your boyfriend's life but are much more compatible with the new guy. Don't wait, once you've made up your mind. If you want to move on, tell your boyfriend you both know you'll never truly fit into his life, and you want him to be happy with someone who does fit in.

[Browneye57]

Dear lord, what a fukkin disaster. Why in the world would you take up with a guy you never had the hots for? Absolutely ridiculous. And now you're bored and want out, crushing him and his entire world. You are exactly what gives women such a bad reputation.

[Inexpensivefurniture]

I think if you aren't sure who you want, you don't really want either of them. I think if you truly loved one of them the choice would be easy. The fact that you are conflicted would lead me to believe you aren't that happy with your boyfriend

[AmeerX]

Terrible to break up. I advise you that no you should not

[KrakenAttackin]

Just move the new guy in with you two, problem solved

[Avicenna]

Stay with your boyfriend

[Iron_Man]

You’re not doing things the right way