We are both 30, been dating 8 months, and spend 6 out of 7 days together. We get along well - we do fight but both talk and work it out.
He was the one who suggested moving in together when his lease ends this month. I warmed up to the idea and we discussed necessary details. This isn't two kids jumping blindly into it.
We had a fight this weekend and yesterday he decided to renew his lease for another 6 months. I told him I am disappointed, that it hurts my feelings because I was looking forward to it and asked why he changed his mind. He said (verbatim) "it's because we fought." I told him every couple fights and if he's waiting until we never fight again, then it's probably not going to happen.
i understand that people change their minds and no one can or should him to live with me. But it upsets me because it means he CHOSE not to move the relationship forward and that indicates he no longer sees me as long-term, right? It shouldn't be an independence thjng on his part because he has lived with two other long-term ex's before and he was the one who wanted this in the first place.
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It sounds like he made a rash decision because of the fight. It's unfortunate, because that rash decision has some fairly long-term (six month) consequences.
He didn't discuss the possibility that he'd extend his lease with you? He just went ahead and did it?1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
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