My boyfriend dumped me because he's moving, but did he really wanna be with me?

[Anonymous]

I met this guy at college last Sept who from off the bat I knew had a thing for me. He made several attempts but I kept it at a friendly level. We got along great and I developed feelings for him. He graduated, we lost contact but 1 day he contacted me again. we talked, hooked up, it was all good. about 2 months into the relationship, he began having family problems. he shut himself out, and we didn't speak for a month unless I texted him askin if he was ok, which he appreciated alot. Throughout the relationship he made it known how he never stopped liking me even though he knew I was only a friend. one day he asked to meet up with me to talk. he told me he was moving away to FL to stay with his brother because he can't stay here to deal with his problems. he told me he wanted to ask me to wait for him but it wasnt fair to make me wait for him. I too can't be in a long distance relationship because I live in a strict household where it would be impossible to go to see him. After he sed we shud stop seeing each other, he wouldn't allow me to leave. we talked and that turned into kissing, making out,etc. He told me he didn't wanna end things and he still wanted to be with me. he even suggested he wouldn't go anymore but I knew that wasnt true. anyways I thought after we talked it out maybe he changed his mind. he even wanted to meet up with me later that week. 5 minutes after I left, he texted me saying I'm sorry but I hafta break up with you. I was shocked. I ignored him and for 30 minutes straight he continuously texted me apologizing, sayin he didn't want us gettin carried away, that he didn't want our feelings to escalate and to forgive him. he also told me not to feel used because he had kissed me and everything and he did that because he missed me so much and he couldn't fight back his feelings. he kept askin me if I was ok and that he felt terrible. I eventually texted him a LONG text basically tellin him off, out of anger. the next day my best friend, without my knowledge, Imed him because she wanted to know why he did it with a text. he basically told her that he couldn't stand to see me cry knowing he was the reason I was crying and that he had to to end it because things would get too deep and we would both end up more hurt in the long run. about 9 days after my bday 1 of his closest friends wished me a happy bday, I don't know this guy personally so I found it odd. that next day I eventually accepted this and textd him 3 weeks later letting him know I was moving on and I held no negative feelings towards him, even suggested being friends in the future. but he never replied to me. the next day, a tue, I saw his best friend on campus who kept badgering me with questions. the week after, also a tue around the same, time I saw him. he literally never took his eyes off me but I just walked away out of shock. he's supposed to leave on thanksgiving. But are his feelings still there? were they that day he dumped me? id txt and ask but I doubt he will reply.

[Simple-Simonette]

It's hard to hurt someone face to face. He took the easy way out.

I'm sure he is just as confused as you are. He was torn between doing the what he thinks is the right thing - breaking it off before you get too involved - and throwing caution in the wind and getting tangled up with you anyway.

Honestly I think he was very much of a gentleman by his behavior. He had you eating out of his hand for a moment there, but sent you on your way. I think he was honest about not wanting to see you cry - men are so hopeless when women cry. Wanting reassurance from you that you were okay indicates he cares about how you feel. Wouldn't it have been easier to just ignore you after you didn't respond after the first text? As for not responding to your latest text - he could still be hurt about your "angry" text, or ashamed about how things turned out - who knows? I think he really did like you and was sincere about the main reason for your break up.

Whew - you sure do have a complicated life, lol!

[princess25sarah]

I've always believed that if you want something badly enough, you make it work. I can't tell you how he feels, but I'm sure he was sincere. do you really have any reasons to doubt him? Guys don't like to see girls cry. It's hard for them. I don't think they really know how to comfort us and they usually just give in and give or tell us what we want. Maybe he was thinkin of that and that's why he did it through text, although I think he still should have met up with you later. Just accept it as it not being meant to be. And if it was then maybe he'll come back to you, maybe fate will intervene and you'll meet up again. Like that movie "A Lot Like Love." Who knows?

I''m sorry you're hurtin, but in time it'll pass. Just accept it for what it is and keep goin. It's all any of us can really do.

[Anonymous]

A guy would never leave their girl if they loved them or someone they feel like got a future with. For him to dump you like that means he had no respect for you with no real feelings just wanted to hit it and leave it shows with the break up text and he knew you would give it up easily. No guy gives up free ass lol. He didn't view you as his girl probably just somone to pass the time. Coming from a guy, he probably never moved to FL and said that just to make it easier on him not having to deal with u.

[Anonymous]

Dang! This seems complicated! Guys hate seeing girls cry no matter who they are but he seems like a good guy for asking if you are okay. You do seem like you are reading too much into what he is doing and stuff. The kissing before the text was a jackass move but like the other dude said free ass and the text was a jackass move on his part probably just wanted to end it and run. Just let it him go and move on, the relationship meant more to you than him because he let you go and never looked back.