This is tied in with this question: https://www.girlsaskguys.com/relationships/q1674594-stuck-in-a-love-triangle-should-i-give-her-space
This question will make sense if you read that (please give your advice in there as well!).
Should the girl choose the other guy, should I maintain a friendship with her? I really enjoy being her friend. We can talk about ANYTHING, be ourselves, she's there when I'm struggling, etc. I can't be all those things with my other friends. She's the complete package as a friend (and romantic partner).
A part of me is saying no, consider my feelings. It'll be hard knowing she's with another guy. Maybe we can be friends down the road again once I've moved on from her (which will be hard, since I never got over her in the five-ish months we stopped talking).
Another part of me says that it would be selfish to end a friendship with her. She considers me her best friend as well. So should I put my feelings in the back-burner and maintain a friendship despite her decided not to choose me. At 26, I doubt I'll find another firend of the like her.
What would y'all do in this situation?
This question will make sense if you read that (please give your advice in there as well!).
Should the girl choose the other guy, should I maintain a friendship with her? I really enjoy being her friend. We can talk about ANYTHING, be ourselves, she's there when I'm struggling, etc. I can't be all those things with my other friends. She's the complete package as a friend (and romantic partner).
A part of me is saying no, consider my feelings. It'll be hard knowing she's with another guy. Maybe we can be friends down the road again once I've moved on from her (which will be hard, since I never got over her in the five-ish months we stopped talking).
Another part of me says that it would be selfish to end a friendship with her. She considers me her best friend as well. So should I put my feelings in the back-burner and maintain a friendship despite her decided not to choose me. At 26, I doubt I'll find another firend of the like her.
What would y'all do in this situation?
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Little update: She ended things with the guy however is having second thoughts so we'll see how this pans out. If she ends up going back to him, I will be temporarily ending our friendship to take some time to get over her and then depending on the circumstances, go back to being friends.
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MH was automatically chosen but I wanted to give an update:
She did not choose the other guy. But she didn't choose me either. We stayed friends for a few weeks and then she started talking to another guy and at that point, I told her I couldn't be friends with her anymore so that's that. Thanks for the advice though everyone.
She did not choose the other guy. But she didn't choose me either. We stayed friends for a few weeks and then she started talking to another guy and at that point, I told her I couldn't be friends with her anymore so that's that. Thanks for the advice though everyone.
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