I understand how you feel. The truth is though, you'd be surprised how dense guys (or, at least, I) can be when it comes to determining whether a girl likes us or is just being friendly. One time when I was choosing between two girls, I missed or rationalized (for a variety of different reasons) a lot of very, very obvious signs that one them really, really liked me. It's a long story. Anyway, since I wasn't completely sure that she was over her ex and I had been talking to the other longer and thought that I had more in common with the other (turns out I was wrong, I just placed far too much emphasis on one thing and ignored the numerous things that I had in common with the one who had a crush on me), I chose the other girl. Of course, I don't think that she knew I was seeing another girl and choose the other, but I'm sure that she suspected (two in particular come to my mind).
We had little contact for about a year or so, and then we ran into each other (happened to attend the same thing). Her eyes instantly lit up, and she immediately gave me a long, tight hug (which she'd never done before) and even wanted a picture. After that, I reflected on our prior time together and realized how dumb that I had been and all the huge signs that I somehow missed or rationalized. I erred (f***ed up), big time. I suddenly realized how great she is and eventually developed a crush on her. We contact each other from time to time, but both of us seem to worry too much about having possibly been friend zoned. Despite having dated other girls since then, even had a very intense relationship with a girl, whom, at one time, I liked better than any other girl before her, I still miss the girl that I didn't choose and regret my actions to this very day.
The point of telling you this is to demonstrate that a guy's (and I'm sure a girl's) feelings really can change, even if the girl hadn't. According to psychological research, people like those who like, or appear to like, them; and the more they seem to like them, the more he or she will end up likely the other as well as the faster he or she will. If he, for whatever reasons, didn't notice just how much you liked him, and he suddenly became aware of it, then yes, it's highly likely that it would change his feelings for you.
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I always believe in second chances, and you always see people in a new light over time. He simply didn't like you before, and now he does. Whether he was with someone else when he didn't like you is irrelevant. He didn't leave you for someone, he just didn't show interest, and happened to find someone he was interested in.
I agree with the other guy, switch the roles around and see if it's fair.
hmm I mean you can try just casualy dating? see if he is worth a second chance?
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Lets say there is a guy that likes you right now that you are not interested in. Later you develop a crush on him, and he decides not to give you a second chance because you didn't respond when he wanted you to. Should every guy that likes you right now refuse to date you in the future because you like someone else more right now? How reasonable do you think that would be?
As for his sudden interest in you, you already said you lost weight. Of course that is going to play a role. Men and women are attracted to attractive people. There is nothing wrong with that.No, just no.
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