Guys, would you give a girl another chance after she rejected you?

[Anonymous]

Especially if she tries to show you that she knows she made a mistake. Would her effort be worthless? Or would you be willing to forgive and still enter into a relationship with her?

I would give her another chance

I would not give her another chance

[singlebee]

NO i won't give her a chance only because these relationships don't last long or forever... when a girl knows that there is a guy that likes her, it gives her high confidence and attention that she likes... but she rejects him because she wants to play these stupid mind games... or maybe she really dislikes him... now where is the TWIST... unlike many guys who keep on pursuing her YOU CUT THE CHASE AND MOVE ON TO SOME OTHER GIRL.. and when she realizes that she somehow starts liking the guy back!!! then she gets jealous when she sees that guy with other girl... it tells her that he is confident and different from other guys that are pursuing or hitting on her too and she also misses the attention and confidence she felt...
so to get that attention she chases the guy back...

NOW REMEMBER THIS IS THE ONLY REASON SHE WANTS YOU... NOT BECAUSE SHE REALLY LIKES OR LOVES YOU...
SO THAT'S WHY I won't GIVE HER A CHANCE CAUSE I HAVE SEE SUCH RELATIONSHIPS LASTING FOR MORE THAN 5 MONTHS OR SO...

i would rather move on and find a girl who really wants me and does not play games... and its sad that's many girls want to play these mind games...

[Gone_But_Not_Lost]

Well, here's how it is for me.

If a girl rejected me, I'd probably just say "her loss" in my head, and move on. I don't dwell on it. Now, his doesn't mean I've completely written her off. It means I'll just move on, and I won't be torturing myself with embarrassment or anything like that. It just means I can let go.Assuming she just rejected me casually, and with no bitchiness, stuckup bullshit, or outright cruelty in her rejection, then fine, there's no bad blood.

This means I can always give her another chance, sure. However, if she wants me to ask her out again, that's just not gonna happen. Why? Because she rejected me, and therefore, I'm not gonna make a move again. I'll take "No" as "No" the first time. After all, who wants someone repeatedly making a move when the answer has already been given? If she wants me, she'll have to make a move herself. She'll have to ask me out. She'll have to make her own moves.

I think that's fair. Don't you?

[december1990]

Perfect answer.

[Gone_But_Not_Lost]

Thanks for that.

[nelso14]

That's a good mentality to have, but how many girls really are out there who will make such a move as asking a guy out and telling him she made a mistake? It sucks when she says "no" because then you can't ask her out again without compromising your dignity, but you may stay waiting forever because in my opinion there are very few girls out there who will come at you and say outright "i made a mistake, go out with me"

[DJSuperNinja]

Why is she worth your time she had said no. Does someone like that Are they worth even keeping them in your life you should cut them off.

[Loners]

Yep thats fair for me. Its like playing chess. After your turns end, then her turn to move the pieces.

[Anonymous]

I know I probably wouldn't give a guy a second chance if he rejected me, depending on the reasoning for rejecting me in the first point.

[IN0SUK3]

Well here's my problem, I took a liking to a girl named Lily and wanted to get to know her and actually like did my best that I could do. And every time I tried talking to her, I was always the one initiating the conversation she never really even tried but would sometimes say some things a little bit at a time. I mean I have ADD, and then got a trait from my mom where if you don't tell us how we come off we won't ever know until you say something.

That whole thing was after like I said to some person said that I did like lily, and they said that I liked her 2 her face. But that was like sophomore year, and even after she rejected me. I actually asked her if we could be friends and she said yes.

But... like it happened again and she rejected me yet again. Where she didn't talk at all this time, and yea. But then, some time later I actually then just tried to move on and will actually pass by her in the halls, funny enough she'll actually look me in the eyes so I have no clue what that means, but yea I wanted to ask what should I do if the situation ever happens or occurs because I have no idea on how to be prepared for something like that.



Edit: if that ever happens to me depending on the context of why they rejected me... maybe but if it's beyond repair and they don't even show remorse or care I will not give them a second chance.

[sfauo]

I don't think the majority of the time the girl ever made a mistake, maybe she misinterpreted something, but most of the time she is being honest with herself. I think the guy must have changed something that drew her attention in this case.

Also, it depends on what you mean by "mistake", but most guys move on fairly quickly after being rejected so chances would be slim.

[toulouse]

what if she just didn't have time to date?

[sfauo]

@toulouse Well that doesn't sound like a mistake, just wrong timing.

[Asker]

if it was just wrong timing would you give her another chance?

[sfauo]

If I still have some interest, then yeah I would. But I really don't have any way of truly knowing it was "wrong timing" so that might make me a bit cautious.

It's not really "giving her a chance" though, that makes it sound like she made a mistake. And actually her trying to give things a real shot show she really is making an effort so that's nice.

[islands7]

Everyone deserves second chances, perhaps third, fourth, 7x70 ...

so long as you are not concerned that someday will come the final rejection they won't take back. So long as this scary ride is filled with love, I say ride on - even love is not guaranteed forever and it beats shopping around forever.

[katylaura]

it really does depend on the reason why she rejected me in the first place - being too busy for a relationship, not being over an ex or wanting to get to know me better first are all perfectly acceptable reasons for turning me down that wouldn't write off the chance for getting together at a later date.

[Ugliness]

I've given her many chances. As many as it takes. Maybe I'm begging for punishment but hey - I love her.

She even said no when I asked her to marry me. The first time.

Eventually I asked again and she reversed her decision.

[BeerME]

I've done that a couple of times. Depends on why she rejected me and on why she thinks things have changed. It also depends on whether or not I'm still interested in her, but yeah, I'm not too proud to give a girl a second chance.

[NMMan]

It would really depend on the circumstances of why she chose not to date me. 99.9% of the time, I consider the ship as sailed as soon as she said "No".

[7gnat]

sure I would give her one more chance unless she was really nasty the 1st time

[BCRanger10]

It would depend on how she rejected me and how I felt while she was showing interest in me. It would also depend on why she was showing interest. But most likely, yes.

[CubanRaftRider]

Depends on why she rejected me. More than likely once she said ''no'' then I wouldn't bother with her anymore since I know that she isn't interested.

[Kain6th]

I would give her a chance. but it's all on her. I put in the effort first, now its your turn. and if it showed then yes I would give her another chance.

[Fpsrussia]

well she rejected so that by its self is a heart breaker so maybe yes maybe not...but if she comes up into are face and says that she mad a mistake ..i wouldn't mind

[Chris1456]

if i have still feelings for her, and she showed me she changed her mind about me, then yes i will give her another chance.

[DJSuperNinja]

Why would a girl another chance. Girls are good friends but a good guy friend is hard to come by. Guys are more loyal to a guy friend then a girl would ever buy. A lot of girls don’t trust guys and don’t take a friendship seriously with a good guy friend. Also why waste your time with them if they had really feelings for her then they should prove it to you and mean that they truly would love you In a relationship and would always want to be with you. And miss you if you are around them.

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

Unlikely. There'd have to be a very good reason for her to reject me.

[Hades]

Nah. I'd be convinced that we weren't right for each other.

[dudeman]

only if she hasn't been with men in the between time and even then I wouldn't believe if she told me she hasn't so no I wouldn't give her a chance

[Anonymous]

I'd f*** her, but I sure as hell wouldn't give her another chance. That ship sailed lol

[foolycooly1001]

I voted yes, but she would have to ask me out.

[AmberChick]

Depends if he is still really into her, then yes