Girls, if you dumped a guy for another guy...?

[Anonymous]

If you dumped your current boyfriend for another guy, but lied to your boyfriend and said it was because you "couldn't be in a relationship right now" and even agreed to be friends with him, then he finds out about the other guy and confronts you about it and decides not to talk to you anymore but is mature so he is on "good terms" with you, but the new guy dumps you a couple months later... Would you try to go and be friends again with the old bf? Or would you be too embarrassed? And what if your old boyfriend forgave you for being such a b***h and still wanted to be friends and you know that all you have to do is to ask them to be friends again and they would, would you do it? Also would you try to be more than friends again with them if you still had feelings for them? Or would you feel like you just completely messed that up and be afraid of rejection? Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Ummm no! No no nooooooo...

Look, I can't speak for all girls but if I had treat a guy in the way you'd just described, it's not so much that I wouldn't have the nerve to attempt a friendship but I would like to think I'd have enough respect for the guy I'd left to leave him alone! Seriously, and I'm sorry if I making assumptions here but I'm guessing that this is what you are going through right now... even if she did come crawling back why would you allow it? Yes people can develop feelings for other people whilst they're in relationships. It happens! We're human but she didn't even have the nerve to tell you the truth! She didn't show you any respect by lying! Knowing this, how could you even trust her? I know you clearly have feelings for this girl but if she can walk away so easily, she isn't right for you! I hope this doesn't come across as harsh! To be honest I've just been through a similar situation! I saw the guy in question out in a date and he then had the cheek to accuse me of seeing things...

[Asker]

It actually did happen to me. Good guess lol. Yeah so as far as your answer, I totally agree with you and even if she did try and be friends with me, I'd be very distant with her because I really don't know how I could trust her after something like that. We have a lot of mutual friends and go to the same college so we talk sometimes but I avoid talking to her unless friends are around, just to avoid the awkwardness. The guy she dumped me for is a jerk and...

[Asker]

Was just using her as a rebound from a 2 year relationship, or at least that's what our friends tell me. I just know that she will try and be friends with me after he dumps her, because she doesn't have a lot of friends and I am one of the few people that used to actually hang out with her at our college. I think she would have the gall to start trying to be friends again so I am just trying to figure out how to handle it right now so I can be ready.

[Opinion Owner]

Honestly, being in a similar situation as you are, I've come to realise that the only way to "handle" situations like this is to know what you want and believe it! I know that I don't want a guy who I can't trust, who can lie to me, as a friend around and so it really doesn't matter what he may or may not do in the future. I just don't care. If I were you I'd just concentrate on knowing what you don't want and if it is ever questioned, speak up and believe it!!

[BBGyrl]

Wow that's a lot of questions. Well I've never dumped a guy for another but if I did and my ex found out and then I got dumped later on I would be too embarrassed to go up to my ex for a while, especially if he found out why I dumped him in the first place. Maybe as time went on and I knew that we could still be friends and get past it then I would talk to him and start a friendship. As fair as relationship well I don't know if I still had feelings for him then I guess I would get back with him if not then I wouldn't use him just to be in a relationship, I'd remain friends and keep it like that.

[Anonymous]

I have never dumped a guy for another but I have been dumped for another and was lied to about it. I was really hurt by it and just couldn't be friends anymore. But then my ex came back and wanted to be more then friends. I just can't take him back after what he did to me because he hurt me too much and if I let him get away with it he will most likely do it again. So if you got dumped for someone else, don't let them get away with it cause they will just do it again plus, you will have lost most of the trust you had before because she lied to you so much.

[crazycool]

I hate girls who do that s**t it pisses me the hell of tell her to leave you the hell alone and not to bother calling and if she really does have feelings for you than she will ask why your doing this and then from there make your own decision on if you want her back

[Prof_Don]

I wouldn't let her back in after she lied to you about why they are breaking up!

[Thatwoman]

My heart goes out to you. My father would always a person walks out of your life for a reason. Don't give them a reason to come back in. There will always be someone new in your life. Remember people can change for the better. But don't let this girl walk all over you. And for your question. I would never try to get back into something very messy as that. Keep you head up. Let her miss you. Cut all ties with her.

[corinnenicole]

well I just did this, and I was sick of my ex and all his drama so I left for someone who I thought was better. we haven't stopped talking yet but if we were to not work I probably would go back to my ex whether it would be friends or more than friends.

[adrianereeder]

You Suck I wouldn't want yo ass as my girl.. That's so f***ed up of you

[LonerGirlBree3]

I wouldn't go back with anyone. I wouldn't have done that to someone in the first place. I'd accept my karma, apologize for my wrong doings and try to move on.

[Jazes]

she burned a major bridge..close that chapter of your life maybe until she grows up a bit.

[steve666777]

My girlfriend left me and married a guy that turned out to be gay. She had two kids with him, then he left her. He lied to her. Now he has abandoned them too. Now she wants me back, but I'm so grossed out at the thought of her getting pounded by gay d***, I just can't take her back. Plus, she was sooooo cold to me when we broke up, like she didn't care about me at all. Serves her right, I hope she was miserable.