Girls do you frequently dump a guy when things start working out?

[red324]

Women always do a complete 360 on me and it goes from everything going good with a goodnight handsome to me saying good morning beautiful, thinking about you only to have her say I'm not into you anymore I wish you the best, good luck. This literally happened to me on the last girl. I swear that's the last time I ever send a text like that. Leave that for the girl to say.

Anyways, lets just say you've been on 3 dates and things are working good you guys get along, she compliments how good looking you are etc. I mean the whole dating and getting to know one another is fun, but I swear it's like maybe they're so used to just going on dates with different guys where it doesn't actually go anywhere, then freak out when they meet a good one? Obviously sometimes they decide to just date another guy instead, but I think girls panic and dump a guy because they don't know what else to do.

Opinions?

[Anonymous]

No. I have never dumped a guy that I wanted and things were working out. I have only ever dumped guys that either wanted me more than I did them or I didn't have enough attraction (sexual and physical) from the start or later on to want to continue the relationship. Therefore, I felt like we were friends or far far from lovers.
I learned that if the attraction (sexual or physical) isn't mutual from the start, it's only going to go downhill from there because there isn't much of a desire for your partner.
Attractive good guys are rare. Decent or unattractive good guys are a dime a dozen. So yes, we women can get spooked if we find a good guy who checks most of our boxes but it's rare for a woman to cut off a great find due to her being scared.

[red324]

I just find it funny that as soon as I reciprocated with the lovey dovey messages she was giving me for a month she messages me and goes I'm not interested I wish you the best.

[Opinion Owner]

Did she send these lovey dovey messages before taking her out?

[red324]

I think so, but she started pretty heavy with them after date 1

[red324]

I called her today and we talked. It seems she just doesn't know what she wants is all it is. Same thing happened with the last girl. she said I just don't want to get into anything right now and I feel like you just want me for sex. (They always think this) yet they're the ones sending flirty sexual messages. Next time a girl sends me a picture of her in the bathtub i'll just be like "that's nice" .

[Opinion Owner]

I understand but when a woman is unsure, something is off to her or something is off within her.
Confusion is just uncertainty and if a woman is unsure, she's not feeling it enough to be certain. In my opinion, I think these women are jaded due to the previous men they have dated. Therefore, they are blaming you for how they believe most men are because many they have dealt with were about sex. But the way they are testing it shows insecurity, immaturity, and trauma they need to work out.

[tatianamay]

I think she freaked out. Girls usually freak out when guys are more into them than they’re into the guy. Maybe she lost interest in you?

[red324]

Think I should have just let her keep telling me how im so handsome and left out telling her any compliments in return... That's where it went to shit.

[tatianamay]

No, no, no. You’re wrong. Girls love compliments. But did you turn the convo into something sexual?

[Blackcupcake]

Or try to move way too fast?

[red324]

@Blackcupcake nope.

[Blackcupcake]

I think maybe you guys weren’t compatible in her eyes? Cause I’m having a hard time believing that she would do that if she really thought you guys had something special or a connection. At least if she was looking for a serious relationship which is what I’m assuming she was...

[red324]

@Blackcupcake The problem is when they say we can still be friends. Of course this one still seems okay with hooking up too. I just don't know how to act around them when they say that. So I guess I don't flirt anymore? Usually when they say let's be friends that just means Indont ever hear from her again, but she hasn't ghosted me yet.