How do some girls have sex without feeling any attachment to guys?

[Anonymous]

I actually had one such friend. She said that after her ex dumped her she became heartless herself. Like she would hook up with people she met on the same day without it being a problem. I think at the time she was 19 and he was about 30. There was another guy within a few months as well. I think now she’s in a pretty serious relationship but it surprises me given that she had been actively hooking up with people before that. Can people go from hooking up to being official?

[VIVANT]

Sone people grow up seeing sex as a healthy activity not connected to deep emotional meaning. Like a good massage or a run or yoga!

It’s not my thing personally… I don’t like loveless sex I find the conceit dull vapid & gross however, I think for people who just see sex as a physical release as long as they are safe, not lying, or manipulating , good for them. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Probably life would be simpler if people could put emotion in emotion snd sex in sex. Thu k if all the people that got their hearts broken bc someone lied to them to get sex. It would not be necessary to lie and it wouldn’t work. Imagine if people only wanted sex bc they wanted sex and not bc they wanted to hold onto someone who didn’t really care.

And look at altho honest self reflection people Would have to do towards their own emotionality. They couldn’t use sex as an excuse for wanting to be lived bc no one would care to play that game…Good stuff in my opinion.

Incidentally many people I know who had casual sex are in healthy long term relationships— one does not preclude the other just like you can be a virgin & still ge in abusive relationships. I think sone people are very unhealthy about sex however, in my opinion It really depends why you’re having casual sex, it doesn’t in its own mean you have unresolved issues to the point of pathology.

[VIVANT]

Some* people

[NeverknowNeverTell]

simple they don't see them as a person. when someone want a hook up, they don't care who they are as long as they're hot. They see muscles, they see a dick, but they don't see a person, only see a means of pleasure. It's possible that they just didn't want to get attached because they didn't want to be rejected again. maybe when she settled down, she got tired of the fakeness and finally saw her partner as a person. I can't really be a judge of how long that's going to last

[TheSpaceGnome]

Thats a thing only stupid people do.

And I mean that literally:
Step 1. wants monogamy
Step 2. gets dumped or cheated on.
Step 3. gets upset that they are dumped or cheated on, because they want monogamy.
Step 4. Responds to being upset, by going after non monogamy, defeating the entire point of being upset in the first place.
Step 5. is now worse off than they would have otherwise been, being less of a catch, less likely to get monogamy, and are reexperiencing the faults of polyamorous flings on repeat.

Short hand: "I hate it! lets do it again!" is a response only the dumbest of people have.

[Wise4myage]

Same reason (s) some guys do. Sounds like she had enough of bed hopping.

[KrakenAttackin]

She's damaged goods and forever an Alpha widow.

[NeverknowNeverTell]

ay yo damaged goods gang where you at lol

[boggboss]

Yes people can go from casual sex to none