I have suspicions that a girl I been seeing is cheating on me , I don’t have any valid proof but my gut is telling me otherwise? what should I do?

[Finchie40]

My gut is telling me something is off that’s how iI busted my ex red handed , I am stuck between a rock and a hard place , My girlfriend hasn’t been intimate with me for the past few weeks and has been saying some negative things , and always making excuses as to why she isn’t in the mood , And getting upset with me over little things , like she has to find flaws in me? am feeling sexually frustrated and feeling like my wants are not being met , Sex is very important to me but to her she acts like it’s not important , I have been checking out other girls even though I know that isn’t really going to solve anything but flirting with other girls has been making me feel better that there is better people out there , , When I sit down and talk to her it’s like my feelings don’t matter to her and she acts like I am crazy for expressing my feelings , she acts like she is this victim , I told her if she doesn’t want to be with me anymore then end it with me don’t string me along , if I am not the guy for you , move on and let me move on , because I am starting to notice other girls , I been nothing but honest with her I rather have the truth then to be played , and I told her if I cheat on her I will end it with her , She keeps saying she is stressed with her new job but part of me thinks that’s just another excuse as well , Because when she goes to work she is there for long hours and barely answers her texts when I text her , I feel like she met a co worker that she has the hots for and not giving me all the details and acting like everything is fine between us Sadly I am feeling played and part of me just wants to walk away and tell her to go fuck herself but It’s hard for me to do without no real evidence that she is cheating on me , Part of me also doesn’t want to be a sitting duck and wait for this to all unfold, While sucker is written on my forehead , I been open to meeting someone new, if a girl comes on to me I feel like I won’t say No what should I do

[Anonymous]

You sound like you have issues yourself I believe we are pulled toward people who pushes us to deal with our deepest issues, sometimes in a very painful way, but I believe this is one way to look at relationships. it’s not the same as saying whatever she’s doing is okay. If you manage to understand your pain and issue this will make it meaningful and useful in your life, rather than leaving it at just hurt feelings

[Finchie40]

Yes I do admit that I have issues as well mainly from being burned and cheated on and backstabbed before so it’s harder for me to fully trust in a girl. i can only give what I receive, If I am constantly giving without receiving it definitely puts question marks over my head to make me feel like I am being played , so yes I always factor my own insecurities when I am feeling suspicious. I am very set on honesty , and commitment, Everyone has insecurities and everyone has selfishness in them , but if you can’t support your partner when they are feeling this way that just shows you only really care about yourself , you are t wearing your partners shoes like you want them to wear yours , that’s how I look at it , It’s ok for her to have insecurities and have suspicions of me being unfaithful to her but it’s not ok for me to have suspicions of her if a sense something is off , and that’s where I put my foot down , double standards do not work , you can’t tell a partner not to do something that effects you and set boundaries that you yourself can’t follow , Most girls I have been with are very selfish this way and hypocrites , they will tell me to stop doing something because it makes them feel insecure , so from the kindness of my heart I will stop for her because I don’t want her feeling like I am up to no good even though I know I am not but I put myself in her shoes because I love and adore her , things go back to being great again and then a flip of a switch she decides she is going to start doing the things that she told me not to do? When I confront her on it she acts like I am thins controlling asshole and I just laugh and say have you looked in the mirror? Didn’t you just set boundaries with me? But now it’s ok for
You? I tell her go be selfish because I will go be selfish as well if that’s how you want to play.

[Havthrills]

Sounds like my ex girlfriend. I confronted her about it cause I knew the guy. She swore up and down she wasn't seeing him. About 2 months later, she wents nuts and I had to leave. 10 months later she marries the guy. Huh.

[Finchie40]

I understand people cheat , most people say they don’t but that’s a load of shit most of the time , They usually line themselves up with someone else and weigh their options and then decide if They are going to be with this person instead , so I am sorry to hear that happened to you. Most girls act like guys are supposed to be mind readers and act like guys don’t really have feelings , that we should just accept the way she is acting and trust her to come to find out she is weighing her options , Most girls say they want a nice guy that works hard to provide, helps around the house , does his share of chores and treats her like a princess then when she receives that, she gets bored and decides she needs a bad boy , a guy she finds attractive and easily spreads her legs for him , My thing is if you are going to cheat on me end that shit right then and there , don’t string me along and act like everything is ok because you don’t want to hurt my feelings and can’t admit to herself that she is a whore , Be respectful enough to let me move on , but most girls are selfish and only really care about themselves

[AviatorTom]

Guts are rarely wrong. Confront her with what you think she's doing and see how she reacts. That might let you know for sure, and you can decide what to do then.

[Anonymous]

Having been cheated on by two different girls, this all sounds very familiar to me. Sorry bro, not sure what to tell you except trust your instincts.

[Finchie40]

Yea this is the shit my ex pulled when she was cheating on me so now it seems like I can spot the red flags easier and not fall for this shit again , I am stressed at work as well at times but I never would withhold sex from her , sex to me is the best stress reliever so the fact that she constantly making excuses is a huge red flag to me , I am not saying she needs to spread her legs the second I am on the mood but when weeks go by and nothing has changed I just feel like what’s the point of being with me if you don’t want to be in my arms , to me she is cheating on our relationship withholding sex , like she is manipulating me that my wants aren’t important to her , Most girls are selfish and only really think about themselves , they never admit that they are wrong , They look at us guys like we are assholes and just want are dicks wet and then they wonder why their relationships fail

[NathanDavis]

ignore the paranoia... in your head

[In_Trance]

go your separate ways