Here’s the complicated bit- I met her and she explained to me how bad this guy is to her. I tried to show her resources to leave him and start a new life. Then feelings emerged and we fell in love. My top priority however was to help her so she could begin a new life, by herself or with me. She also has a toddler with this guy. After everything, she doesn’t take any action and stays with the guy. It’s too painful for me and so I decided to say goodbye and move on, but I feel like I’m abandoning someone who needs help. Should I keep a line open so she has someone to call or do I let her go? I think I need to move on, I just don’t know if its wrong of me to cut her off.
So. It's not easy situation and what you eould do should depend ONLY on how you feel.
She is an adult and more or less she knows her situation. She can have hopes or simply be afraid to make a step in proper direction. But it's not your responsibility. You can give her hand, but she has to want to accept it.
So if you don't feel strong enough, don't bother. It's her life, her decisions and consequences. It is how this world works.
If you feel like take her burden and be there for her, do it. But remember, no one knows when, if ever, she will be able to make a move.
I was in such relationship four years before gathered enough strength and courage to do something. It didn't work well for me but somehow, I'm still here.
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It's really hard for women or some people to leave toxic abusive relationships. If you love her you may have to walk away because you're only hurting yourself as she can't express that same love openly. You've already tried everything you can do
yeah you're abandoning her, but good riddance I say
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That makes sense to me, because she refused your help. But it also can't hurt to let her know you will help her if she reaches out.
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