If only ugly men are interested in a woman, does it mean she is ugly?

[Anonymous]

But these men are fat, I’m thin. Some are even bald and have unibrows. I have a nice lean face and their faces are so heavy. The only handsome or average men interested usually have no financial stability and many are poorer than me. It also seems to be a trend in my country that women usually have to settle for guys way less attractive than themselves. I am also being forced to settle like that. Why is it that white or East Asian girls get attractive partners even if they’re only the ugly side of the spectrum? I am not even dark skinned nor do I post photos in which I look dark-skinned. Yes I don’t have blue eyes but the ones who are rejecting also don’t so what is going on? And why should I have blue or green eyes only to be married to a brown-eyed guy? Why is that even expected (I assume it is because all over the world these women get special treatment).

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Blocked user doesn’t know I can’t see her opinion. Assuming she knows I’m not white it isn’t something graceful. So they can also have shitty personalities and have good husbands

[D_Bone_Steak]

From what you've said I have two reasons off the top of my head, they're both have some intersections if we drew up a Ven diagram.

1) First I'll address this "Why is it that white or East Asian girls get attractive partners even if they’re only the ugly side of the spectrum?" Some of these groups of people have a reputation for being very effeminate. Of course it's not always true, but stereotypes do exist and are supported for reasons of what the guy anecdotally concludes from what he's seen the most or experienced the most.

2) You can probably guess from what I've already said, what assumptions the average blue eyed guy has of you some groups of people. But for the sake of displaying my point I will assume you're Black or Hispanic just to make my point. (I've been with both by the way, so I'm just laying out reality of what some may assume, and not what I as an individual thinks)

I'll start with media... Based on those races, in a movie, how do you think they're going to portray their behavior? The feisty mean spitfire that likes to start arguments all the time and goes off in angry rants in Spanish come to mind? How about the ghetto thug life queen that cusses like a sailor, has tons of attitudes and will probably put you in a situation where you'll get shot or stabbed... probably with a weird name like Felisha? <--that shit is in movies, music, and all over the place reinforcing that stereotype. It doesn't scare every guy away, but as you know people often think they can judge a book by it's cover. Like, just take a look at what experiences I've probably ran into the most... I think you can make educated guesses on it all, so I'll move on.

Now, there is the locker room talk amongst us guys that you've probably haven't heard unless you have brothers or a very outspoken Dad or something. This is where something like "Will probably cheat on you" usually will probably put black and white women in that part where the circles overlap. You can ask around for more examples like that if you can get a guy to be honest about mass opinions in general instead of trying to impress you with his vitreous personal opinions that may or may not have been practiced in a mirror... like a Liberal does in the United States.

Now for my personal experiences.

I don't really like white girls because society has taught them that I just oppress them and that they need to dominate me. It equals too many problems for me most of the time so I just don't try when one of them are around.

Black girls, I like them when it's one on one, but it can bring trouble my way pretty quick by all the ghetto ass fuckers that assume she's their territory because of her race. It's a quick way to get tested by someone you don't even fucking know. One on one situations, or like when I lived overseas and we were both minorities in that country, it worked just fine. My major bitch about a lot of them, is bringing up racial shit all the time. Statements like "You wouldn't know though because you're from white world" start to get on my fucking nerves. I lived with black dudes for over a decade, and I fucking know everything she's knows... she needs to shut the fuck up about that shit. <--Here, I access the ghetto level, the environmental threat level, and if the risks don't outweigh the benefits... like the white girls, I just won't even try.

Hispanic and East Asians I tend to get along with the most. Hispanic girls can sometimes come with the same problem as the black girls (gangsta dudes I don't know trying to test me), but it depends on her family and how she holds herself... the environment is always a factor.

That's the biases I have, and I'm putting myself out there, so that you can better understand what another dude just like me is probably thinking or has been exposed to. Some groups have started fights with me more than others, some are just a little bit racist and others won't drop the subject even when we're in the shower together after sex. What groups you think have been the meanest to me as a child? There's all sorts of factors that shape our own experiences and predisposed opinions.

That was long, sorry about that.

[Asker]

This was not only long but completely unrelated to my question. I barely mentioned white and East Asian girls and you made it all about them. The guys who are rejecting me are from MY RACE and they’re not picking a white girl over me. They’re picking another girl from MY RACE who may not be more beautiful than me

[The_Confusion]

@ Аssker no, he barely talked about white and Asian girls. And we all know your username now. The indian who says that while most indian men are ugly it's in your opinion unfair that white men don't like Indian women.

Back to your main question... @d_bone_steak is spot on. You're a race-obssessed racist who can't shut up about races.

If you look as hawt as you say and people still avoid you, you might have repulsive behavior.

[D_Bone_Steak]

@The_Confusion Bruah... I think asker is mentally insane.

I mean I only made it partially racial to test if she's just obsessed with racism and she is. Race lives rent free in her head.

I like to be racist as a joke... it triggers people just like her... and that's funny.

An Indian racist... notice how I avoided south Asians when speaking to her. Now I just kinda want to say they poo poo everywhere and eat nothing but curry just for the reaction. I'll never get that video out of my mind where they eat cow ass.

https://youtu.be/kGPBliNI1TY?si=XSGc6nvjNrfjcgsD

youtube.com/shorts/ZNZWE2IJJ-w?si=oaFf3YNzQGDx1ayJ

[Asker]

You’re insane because you are obsessed with where Indians poop while it’s mostly white people who are creating scat porn 🤮 and you lick the dirty buttholes of the girls who never use soap and water after pooping

[Asker]

And I know I have FANS when people I don’t even know about like whoever is @The_Confusion think they know who is posting when I’m anonymous. If you don’t like me but watch everything I do (when I don’t even know who you are), bitch you’re a fan

[Tomara_Jefferson]

You indian could have been just a little bit more racist in your replies, just to prove their point even more.

[D_Bone_Steak]

@Tomara_Jefferson We probably shouldn't disturb her... cow poop and rice. Makes one think about where the idea of curry came from.

[Asker]

@Tomara_Jefferson Calm down old man 👴 You’re waaay past your prime. I’d be surprised if you still have any hair left on your scalp 😂

[D_Bone_Steak]

No... play this song...
https://youtu.be/JZpxaiNV_sM?si=ljmJF6ErPFH1c6-X
Condom or no condom?

[The_Confusion]

@d_bone_steak what sort of demonic songs do you listen to? Purify yourself. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=c3P3lKFqYYM

[Avicenna]

OK, so you only want attractive guys who have/make more money than you. Nothing wrong with that, but so do all other women, meaning not all of these women will get what they want.
if you’re attractive, of course lots of unattractive people are going to be attracted to you- they aren’t blind and they also want an attractive partner. Whether that is realistic may be another story.

[PeachyPie93]

If you are Indian it is because unfortunately you have casts and have to marry within your own cast, plus there are a lot more ugly guys in India than woman lol. I would suggest moving to a better area you might find better men.

[Asker]

Yes it’s true. Let’s say I check 1000 profiles in a day then I can hardly find 10 decent looking guys who also have a job and aren’t living in a village. Somehow they always have options and guys who are not necessarily very handsome but attractive don’t even agree to meet me. I haven’t seen the profiles of girls but your logic seems correct. They have more options than me. They have at least 50 attractive women who want them too

[Asker]

So clearly it’s easier being a man because I feel so unwanted and you talk of moving to a better place but I don’t think that’s gonna work. If Indian guys who aren’t even the most attractive guys in the world are being so picky and particular about what they want, men from other countries who more attractive and popular could be even more fussy.

[PeachyPie93]

That is the issue.. even the ugly guys have lots of options so the better looking guys got even more options.. it sounds like it will be hard to find an appropriate guy..

[Anonymous]

your attractiveness isn't based on the quality of who finds you attractive

your attractiveness is based on the quantity of who finds you attractive

it's in the word "attractive"

unattractive people AND attractive people are attracted to "attractive" people

unattractive people AND attractive people are NOT attracted to "unattractive" people

90% of the world has brown eyes, 70% of the world has dark skin

these factors are outside of someone's control but this is the hill you're willing to die on?

[Asker]

I know that not having certain traits could mean I may die alone and childless.

[Asker]

The fact is a non-white woman has to be many times more attractive or famous in order to get a decent looking guy. He is still less attractive than her. I know countless examples of white and East Asian women who have much better looking partners. Many of those East Asians don’t even have a “porcelain skin”

[Opinion Owner]

seems like your issue here is quality not quantity. be thankful you ain't a man

[Asker]

What? I’m literally telling you most men from my country get better looking wives. And if an ugly guy is rich he can get models. Women are also judged more harshly. Many guys think it’s more important for a woman to have blue eyes and most blue-eyed men prefer blue-eyed women but these women have no preference. Light skinned men pick light skinned women mostly but women don’t care about skin colour. Dark skin men prefer light skinned women while dark skinned women usually want these men.

[Opinion Owner]

no this is just overinflating women's looks and deflating men's looks

there's women who think Lizzo is a 10/10 while thinking Leonardo Di Caprio is a 1/10

[Asker]

No one thinks she is a 10. She might even get beaten up in my country

[Opinion Owner]

you'd be shocked by who and how many people think Lizzo is a 10

your country may be different but it doesn't take away the fact Lizzo still got suitors

[Asker]

The quality of the suitors matters not the quantity

[Opinion Owner]

quality is only for relationship. quantity is for attractiveness

[Asker]

I think people don’t reject those they find attractive

[Opinion Owner]

yes but that doesn't say anything about your attractiveness

[Asker]

It does! Even guys you would call average, the kind who just have normal jobs, normal faces, no abs etc. are not even willing to MEET me. I’m not even posting any bad or provocative pics or using too much makeup. I haven’t posted anything in which I look dark-skinned. I am thin, my face isn’t heavy and no other huge flaws and only the guys with HUGE flaws are interested in meeting me. The guys who are overweight, bald or have receding hairlines and overall just very unattractive. I thought I had to be some fat, dark-skinned, bald or flat-chested girl to be rejected like this. The fact that it’s happening when I’m still young, look young, in shape, fair-skinned, not a hideous face etc. is freaking me out. If this continues, I won’t even have my looks. I’ll be older and ACTUALLY less desirable. Why is it such a mission for me to have a handsome husband? I don’t even know what’s wrong with my face. I posted several times on Reddit and they say really positive things. So why am I being brutally rejected like this? Are more women attractive in my country than men? Is it like he can find at least 100 girls equal to me while I can hardly find 10 similar guys. I don’t even have unrealistic standards because many of the guys I selected have been called average on various apps. They don’t look like Hollywood actors or something

[Asker]

Even when I was in college, the hottest guy in my class was with a girl who was a lot chubbier and darker than me. He was several shades lighter than her. Another guy I liked was openly disrespectful and showed a strong admiration for a REALLY fat girl in my class who was also darker than me. It’s okay if they have a bad taste but they can avoid disrespecting me. Both of these guys were obviously jerks and trying to make me jealous. There was only one blue-eyed guy and he had reddish brown hair, fair skin etc. He was also tall and handsome. He was also seen with a girl much darker than me and at least I have an hourglass shaped body. She was built like a stick. Just a very average girl really. Not the type that’s considered a “classic beauty”

[Anonymous]

Then just pick a broke good looking drug dealer or crackhead. That's life sometimes you to sacrifice something to get what you want. In this case you have to pick an ugly and have financial stability or a druggie who works at a retail store, but he has blue eyes and looks handsome to you.

Sorry but you can't have it all there is always a trade off.

[Anonymous]

If a woman interested with a fat guy then her knight and shining armor will come and rescue her from the fatty

A pornstar had sex with ugly fat dude. After the deed was done then a few hours later she met her now husband 💪😎

Life sucks but it's life 🤷🏻‍♂️

[Berethor]

The men are strong, women are pretty trope, you might be ugly by women's standards.

[Asker]

I’m not trying to date women so their standards don’t matter.

[Berethor]

You misunderstood me, by woman standards I mean ugly in the woman's league, it's almost like comparing women strength with man's strength, you compete with other women.

nyfights.com/.../...hevchenko-ufc-greates.jpg.webp

[Asker]

I have seen much worse looking girls in person and the guys who think they’re entitled to my affection actually deserve those girls

[Berethor]

Are you really objective about your looks? well you might be just really unlucky.

www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/objective

[Asker]

Yes I am objective and I have done my research to find what’s considered physically attractive. I have many of those traits but maybe people are prejudiced towards certain races so they’re allowed to be much less attractive than their husbands

[Berethor]

Most people are dating their own race, and popular races tend to be the best looking.

[Asker]

Not really! They are perceived to be the best looking due to colonisation

[Berethor]

That's the left's excuses, the white race is truly the best looking race, and with high IQ.

qz.com/.../i-almost-feel-like-a-god-from-dating-to-business-white-men-are-winning-in-india

[Asker]

You’re citing the example of a colonised nation. No excuses! I see normal people on Reddit and those who post pictures without filters and makeup DON’T look any better. Indians liked dark skin before the British. Africans reject Albinos

[Berethor]

Only east Asians match whites high IQ, they liked dark skin when it all they had. :)

[Asker]

The ones from Northern parts of India always had lighter skin tones and the southern parts were darker. Those who were darker liked it dark. Those who were lighter liked their own. The British forced people to like light skin and hate dark skin. It’s a fact

[Asker]

It’s not true that race decides IQ

[Asker]

So people who say blondes are dumb are saying they’re not white?

[Berethor]

Race decides IQ, how you do explain that the Best Tech Companies are White and East Asian? Blondes are Dumb is Fake Trope, and it usually about Fake Blondes. The British had left India a long time ago, I like how Indian still blame all their problems on British Rule.

[Asker]

A long time ago? It was less than a 100 years ago while most developed economies have always been free. It’s not about fake blondes it’s about real blondes too

[Berethor]

China was beaten by the British, but look at China now, Superpower, not like India.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Treaty_of_Nanking

[Asker]

China was NEVER a British colony

[Asker]

India was colonised first by the backward Muslims then the inhumane British

[Berethor]

Hong Kong was British Colony, that why they was at higher level than rest of China.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/British_Hong_Kong

[Asker]

The rest of china was free

[Berethor]

Did you read about British Hong Kong's Economy? being under British Control is great. :)

[Asker]

So let them colonise your country we don’t want them

[Berethor]

They did colonise my country, one of the reason my country is so strong for it's size.

[Asker]

You should call them back and probably work as their slave

[Berethor]

I am not black, let's face is your obsession with white men, you want to be colonised. :)

[Asker]

I’m not black either and you praise white supremacy more than I ever will. You want to be their slave

[Berethor]

Jews was never enslaved by the British, but Jews was enslaved by the Eomans. If it was me then I would likely never revolted against the Roman Rule, so the destruction of Jerusalem would not happened. Nowdays my country is a close ally of the United States, who is mostly White.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jewish%E2%80%93Roman_wars

[Asker]

Yes the Romans should come back to enslave you because you miss them

[Berethor]

Jews was only after the revolts, before that it was a roman province.

en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Judaea_(Roman_province)

[Berethor]

I mean jews was enslaved only after the revolts.

[Anonymous]

Nope

[Anonymous]

Yup.

[Asker]

But ugly white or East Asian women get handsome husbands so what explains that? Prejudice?