How to not be nervous meeting someone you like a lot?

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I have had many successful dates with really nice men and I always knew I am not that pretty, but I still went there confidently because I didn’t care much even if they wouldn’t like me that wouldn’t hurt me… Thankfully they went pretty well… And they all liked me and wanted to date me long term.

But now that I really like someone a lot, I am so worried about meeting him, I am anxious, I want to fix my nose first, I also feel self-conscious about my blue facial birthmarks and I feel scared… I am worried that I am not pretty enough for him. And that there are far prettier girls…

We have had many video calls and he knows what I look like, but I am still scared… How to not feel scared?

TheRealPepperPotts · Accepted Answer

I'm fairly certain I've seen a pic you posted of yourself and if that's actually you, I promise you have nothing to worry about, girl. You probably intimidate most guys with your appearance simply because you qualify as a knockout. It's not your appearance you need to worry about. Also, selfies distort everyone's nose and make it look too large because of the lens on phones; I promise your nose is fine. :D

I know people tend to say "just be yourself", but that's easier said than done. Make sure you define basically what you want from a relationship before meeting a guy (kindness, humor, good boundaries, etc.). Then, concentrate on having fun and enjoying the evening without taking it too seriously. And remember that he's probably just as nervous. If you are kind to yourself and kind to others, especially waitstaff, you'll do great, I promise.

I hope you have an amazing time!

IslaTheWitch · Accepted Answer

forget about any insecurities, being nervous won't help you with anything... you can lose everything, because being nervous you will wear a mask, to look better and people won't like it because it wouldn't feel like you...

so... forget of things that make you conscious... be yourself and enjoy it :D

superchan2011 · Accepted Answer

Well that's actually normal. I was a nervous wreck inside when meeting my ex in person the first time. And like you we had plenty of video calls. In fact after we started out with texts that graduated to voice calls, we made video calling our normal mode of communication. But still didn't stop me from being nervous seeing her for the first time in person. But what helped me was just thinking about it like we were having another video call, just in person. Don't know if it'll help you but it helped me to just be myself and not do too much.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Haha your fine.. and leave your nose alone leave everything alone you're good just the Way You are.

And it's not always how pretty you are it's how beautiful you are on the inside that's the part that counts every little detail on the outside of you he will notice and he will see and find detail and he will like every single thing about you guaranteed

LiamJHayden · Answer

You just need to remind yourself that he already knows what you look like, has been exposed to your personality, and he is interested. Relax, enjoy it and find out if  he  is truly worth  your  time and effort.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

Practice makes perfect, this doesn't mean go on dates with every single person, but talk with as many people as you can during the day, you're a hot girl so maybe not guys that may be interested in you, but people that you know aren't going to hit on you, or people that are just friendly just talk to them, we are all just people most of us are into the same things deep down

Ironic_Method · Answer

This is why "be yourself" exists. Look, if you have to worry about your appearance or change your behavior when you're around someone, how are you (or how is he) going to feel when it gets serious? If you just come as you are, you know they'll like you for you, not fall for someone that is trying to impress another.

RageBabe · Answer

I agree with what Nikki said. Just be natural as well. Remember if they are into you like you are them… they will make you feel at ease and you will talk smoothly about different topics.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Practice positive self-talk and prepare some conversation topics.

NathanDavis · Answer

you get nervous with men you like a lot? I find that very difficult to believe...

Fireguy17 · Answer

No problem, she poops just like everyone else.
After spending. more than half my life walking/crawling into burning buildings, rescuing people from whatever mess they got themselves into, crawling into a week to tend to the injured meeting someone is easy.

avery58 · Answer

You have to actually believe the confidence you exude. You're pretty, sometimes we're just our own worst critic.

RavVid · Answer

It might be trite but the key is being confident in the value you offer. That is more in who you are than your prettiness.

spartan55 · Answer

I don't know that I've ever known a woman as pretty as you that is so insecure,

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Just remind yourself that they're a person and just as nervous as you are

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Just be yourself your cool asf. To know you is to love you

Wallythewalrus2 · Answer

A little alcohol never hurt!

Staximus · Answer

Fix your nose? Don't fuck up your face, leave your face alone crazy lady

Shamalien · Answer

Let yourself be nervous, just don’t be nervous about being nervous. It’s not so bad.

dsrice071966 · Answer

I am always afraid that I am not good looking enough also.

ThomasMendoza1106 · Answer

treat them like a normal person  don't act weird or it's too obvious you're interested

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

PSH... YOU FIGURE THAT OUT BE SURE & LET ME KNOW

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