How can I get my guy friend to see me as more than friends?

[lowkanymous]

for reference i have this close group of friends, my bsf gracie, and two guys we will call ben and colin. i basically grew up with ben, he and i were close family friends and went to the same middle school. we went to hoco together, and at one point we liked eachother, but then we both agreed it was better to stay friends to not risk our friendship. he shows a lot of interest also, and gracie and colin have told me ben likes me

anyway, this isn't about ben. i like his friend colin. colin is better friends with gracie, but she knows i like him and is super supportive. he's super attractive, he has really kind eyes and super cute freckles. he's the sweetest guy, but he's also super fun to talk to and hangout with. he's the least boring person i know, and he has the most contagious smile i've ever seen.

it seems like colin shows a little bit of interest, but i don't know if im mistaking it with friendliness because our whole group is really close. at homecoming he asked me if i wanted to leave the party and go walk around alone, and we spent the whole night tg. another time when we were all hanging out we were kinda teasing him cause his phone wallpaper was like the default one, so we said he should make it a pic of me and gracie. then he took a pic of us and told gracie to get out of the picture and he made his wallpaper a picture of just me. anytime we go out he asks me how he looks, if he smells bad, to fix his hair or button his shirt etc. he's also said that if he had to kiss a girl at my school, he would kiss me.

besides all of that, this is kinda embarrassing but one time gracie dared me to kiss him so i tried and he rejected me and said were js really close friends and "we can't", but he's also super touchy like holding my hand and fixing my hair or wiping my face?

i reallyyyy want him to see me as more than a friend but i was thinking maybe it's because ben likes me? how do i get him to see me as more than a friend?

[ChicoFromThe305]

Making someone like you isn't gonna be an easy task cause people don't normally like someone cause you want them two, unless you can hypnotized him I don't think you'll be able to snap your fingers and change his mind unless he truly already feels that way about you, it's possible to maybe have a chance but unfortunately that's not going to be easy, try being yourself around him, your actual self not the self manipulated version of yourself you possibly use to look as normal as possible, but your actual self, maybe he will be attracted to that, if that doesn't work it's most likely going to be easier to move on than to change his mind. re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

[AviatorTom]

Make a pass at him. His reaction will let you know how he feels about you.

[lowkanymous]

i tried to kiss him one time and he said "no allison we can't we're friends"

[LiamS95]

He may be not wanting to offend Ben and/or Gracie. If he can become comfortable that Ben & Gracie are okay eith you two being together it may help a lot. I can't see why he wouldn't want you as a girlfriend as you're very attractive and look much older then your stated age. Best of luck!

[Danny_dan92]

You’re 14 focus on graduating high school first kid.

[lowkanymous]

how about you mind your own business and and the fucking question instead of trying to be a smart guy?

[Danny_dan92]

Telling me to answer your question while also telling me to mind my own business… the math isn’t mathing

[lowkanymous]

you really thought you ate brother. i didn't ask you for advice on school, i asked you about a guy bffr and answer the actual question

[BarryLiverstone]

Colin has you in the friend zone. So you need to break out of it with him in my opinion

[lowkanymous]

eh i like someone else now anyway

[BarryLiverstone]

Oh ok, hopefully they are a better kisser ;)

[Firestar01]

Most of the time you can't. The sooner you understand this, the better it will be for you.

[lowkanymous]

valid response

[Firestar01]

You can trigger a pwrson to want you sexually... but if there is no spark or love... lost cause. I learned this the hard way.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Just be yourself and let him know how you feel about him

[jahaims]

You're a child. Don't worry about that.

[lowkanymous]

or you could just answer the question? what's wrong with liking guys as a teenager?

[Sunlight4]

I would not give up and keep trying.

[lowkanymous]

i already gave up💀

[In_Trance]

You can't

[lowkanymous]

😔😔