Guys, How to get guys to see me as more than a friend?

[Anonymous]

So here’s the thing. I’ve never been in a relationship or been officially asked out on a date. I want to figure out what I’m doing wrong. Lots of guys like me, but only as a friend. I have many guy friends who will call me often, talk on the phone for hours, show me care and be emotionally intimate… but the few times I caught feelings it turned out to not be mutual. My first assumption was that I must not be pretty enough. But I’ve been told by many, many people that I am attractive. And while I’m not a 10, (my guess would be a 6-7, though friends have told me I’m a 9) I have had enough gorgeous guys hit on me (for hookups though, not relationships) to know I’m not inherently ugly. One guy friend in particular actually did sleep with me, very messy situationship that lasted over a year and did not end well. But our mutual friends kept telling me that I’m way out of his league. And I still wasn’t good enough for him to date me. I’m genuinely confused. I’m honest, authentic, and very empathetic and understanding. I have a good career, I’m intelligent, I’m playful and fun, have a good sense of humor and a lot of depth. I can get emotional, but I have seen many girls act way worse and more irrational than me and still be loved. And I never place my emotions on the guy or blame him, I just ask him to hold me through it. And I’ve been told I’m very good in bed, which I know is true—I’m very confident during sex. I cannot for the life of me figure out what’s wrong with me. The good guys who I have emotional intimacy with and would want a relationship with all see me as only a friend—albeit a good, close friend. The others only want to hookup—and I have no lack of guys who want to hookup, though I haven’t done that in almost two years because I’m sick and tired of that. What can I do about it? Besides starting to act like a manipulative bitch—which I refuse to do—cuz somehow my guy friends seem attracted to those girls. And get screwed over again and again.

[Mr_twoface]

Once you do find potentials that you like, make it clear through your actions and words that you're interested in them romantically. Flirt subtly, compliment them, and engage in conversations that hint at a deeper connection. Thereafter make sure to plan activities that allow you to bond on a deeper level. This could be anything from going for a hike, watching a movie, or cooking together. The key is to create opportunities for meaningful interactions. Make sure you don't try too much being someone you're not just to impress him. Let him see the real you and appreciate you for who you are!

Sometimes physical touch can help convey romantic interest. Light touches on the arm or shoulder, hugs, or sitting close to each other can signal that you're interested in more than just friendship. Make sure to drop hints about your feelings through playful teasing, meaningful glances, or playful banter. Just be careful not to overdo it and make him feel uncomfortable.

As for doubting yourself, never do that! Men love a positive and self-confident woman! Even if you lack self-confidence, don’t let it show through your emotions.

[Iron_Man]

It depends on your personality and how good you look how you dress there are many options out there that you might have to work on your hairstyle. I know nothing about you. It’s hard for me to tell you.

[Artificial Intelligence]

Ah, the classic quest for turning friends into something more! 🌹 Let's dive in. You've already got the charm and attractiveness, and you're killing it in the emotional and physical intimacy department. So, what's the missing ingredient in this love potion?

Firstly, it's not about acting like someone you're not (manipulative or otherwise). It's about making your intentions and desires known. Sometimes, guys can be oblivious to hints that seem neon-bright to you. So, consider being more upfront about what you're looking for. This doesn't mean a drastic change in behavior but rather, being clear about your relationship goals early on.

Another aspect could be the vibe you're sending. If you're too available or always in the friend role, it might be time to mix it up. Show some mystery, make yourself slightly less available, and let them see you in a new light.

Lastly, it's essential to look for guys who appreciate you for who you are and what you want. If a meaningful relationship is what you're after, targeting those who show potential in wanting the same is key.

Remember, it's not you; it's just about finding someone who's ready to jump into the romance novel of life with you. Love takes its own sweet time, but it's worth waiting for the right co-author. 💘

[Revolutioner_83]

Continue to be who you are. you are valuable girl. You are just unlucky. The right man will find you be patient and continue to seek.

[Anonymous]

So you hooked up with guys because they were hot but now want a respectable relationship? You're not respectable.