How can I get my guy friend to understand that I ONLY LIKE HIM AS A FRIEND?

[Anonymous]

He is missing out on women that may want to go out with him but he’s only infatuated and only want me. Yeah I went to the school dance with him twice but I’m just his friend. The second time I said yes because none of the other guys were available or rejected me. I never got the cute guys. His mom and sister and family knows he likes me and always smiles when I’m around. He texts me EVERY GODDAMN DAY. I don’t mind sometimes but gosh! He’s been more straightforward lately, he’s been more well I don’t know what to say.
We’re both autistic but we’re I’m more independent than he is and he can’t be left in public by himself. I mean he can but I don’t know. He always says I’m his girlfriend but I told him we’re just friends. He NEVER asks about how I feel about him, he just asks if I’m his girlfriend. I told him no. This was back in high school. My dad said, “Oh come in! He OBVIOUSLY likes you. Why do you think he’s always starting at you, and always has that live look? He treats so well and way better than your ex boyfriend. Just go out with him. You better give this boy a chance. I can tell he’s in love with you. Stop chasing after men and take a chance in love.”

This comes from the man that told me that I can’t make somebody like me or date me but he has the audacity to tell me to date my guy friend? Why can’t my guy friend find another woman. He’s missing out because he keeps chasing me. I tried introducing him to some ladies but he kept saying I’m his girlfriend. Then they scoff at me and walked off.
I want a man that’s independent. Like me.
I wish my friends and dad would stop pushing me to date him. I DONT WANT TO!
I don’t know what’s gotten into him. He’s more forward, asking me how I am more and he jumps in when every guy shows interest in me.
My friend says, “He’s improving himself, getting in shape and I think he’s trying to impress YOU. You don’t find that attractive? I think you do like him and want him to ask you out.” She is so wrong!

[cora1]

You need to communicate very clearly with him and tell him. However I will add a tip, usually when your parents like someone it’s a good sign. Even though you shouldn’t force yourself, you never know if you will look back and regret ignoring good people who would’ve made great partners. Simply being “cute” doesn’t make someone a good husband.

[Asker]

So you’re saying unfit or average joes make better partners? Not saying it’s a bad thing. So I should give my guy friend a chance? I can’t go out with someone I have no feelings for. Nobody ever asks how I feel about it. It’s always the guy friend feelings they care for. Nobody asked me. They just tell me I should give him a chance. My older sister said, “The good looking and cute guys aren’t always the best partners. I mean some are but averages guys like your friend would make better partners. I mean average guys can be jerks too but still. I know you don’t have feelings for him but mom and dad seems to really like him and dad hoped that you would end up with him. There is something very special about you two. I think you like him too but you’re too stubborn to admit it. I think he’s the one for you. He’s been there by your side, since DAY ONE. He’s the only guy that kept contact with it you and you better not push him away. It’s up to you but I say GIVE HIM A CHANCE! He will NEVER BREAK YOUR HEART.”

[cora1]

Yes, it really depends what you prioritize. Not sure what average Joe’s means, but I personally think that’s looks never really say how a person is. Looks have nothing to do with a person because looks eventually fade, but a persons character will always be the same. However I think it’s up to you to figure out what’s important to you. Obviously I do think you don’t like him and it’s good that you want him to move on instead of leading him on, so you’re a good person in doing so. I would have a very private serious chat with him and tell him that you want him to move on because you cannot see a future with him. There is also a lot of pressure and you feel like you are feeling suffocated. Just be honest and serious and tell him everything you’re thinking. You can even add on (lie) that you are dating just so he can take it seriously.

[Anonymous]

Lmao didn’t you lie the other day and say this story wasn’t yours? 💀

[Asker]

What are you talking about?

[Opinion Owner]

Of course🙄

[DryGermanGuy]

How about bringing in a compromise, you could suck his schlong a few times? 🤔

[jahaims]

Stupid to try and be friends with someone who has feelings for you

[Asker]

Excuse me?

[Panthero80]

You have to sit him down and clearly explain your feelings.

[Asker]

I tried too but he won’t get it! Plus I didn’t say it to his face but I prefer men my race. I like black men. He’s white. I mean there’s nothing wrong with interracial relationships but I prefer black men. I’m a black woman

[Panthero80]

Simply tell him that.

[Asker]

Then he’ll think I’m racist

[Panthero80]

You can't help what you are attracted to.

[qwerty2469]

Fuck every guy you know except him.