Would you find it unnecessary for a man to tell a girl he likes that women keep hitting him up?

[Anonymous]

This guy and I have been seeing each other for two months. He expresses his strong feelings for me, makes an effort to see me even though he lives far, texts me all the time, and says he wants to be with me. He shows me off to his friends and family.

We were talking on the phone, then all of a sudden he says, "Ever since I became single from my last relationship, girls have been hitting me up!" It was random. It bothered me.. it made me kind of jealous, and made me hope I wasn't just a part of a list of women even though he told me for months that I was so important to him and special. With social media, I have trust issues.

I expressed calmy how I felt. I told him that I felt like the comment was not necessary especially when we were only 5 minutes into a phone call. We usually talk every other night. I told him that it made me uncomfortable, and that I was hoping I wasn't just a woman on the list. I told him that he meant a lot to me, that we have something great going on, and if he wants to explore other women then I don't want to be a part of it. He said he understood, said sorry, sounded embarrassed and got really awkward.

Call me insecure, but it's 2024. We all know how this generation goes sadly.

[Anonymous]

Ideally yeah. But I'd have to have heard the entire conversation. Especially what preceded the comment. Despite what you might think, you're not immune to saying things which might give him pause to think about your quality. I'm not saying that's the cause. He could've just made the wrong comment at the wrong time.

[Asker]

The subject literally came out of nowhere. We were talking about his custody battle with his kids.

[Anonymous]

It's called game. It made you jealous and realize he's not just some loser and is desired by other women, which subconsciously raised you understanding of his value as a man.

[Asker]

He sees men liking my stuff on social media all the time, and keeps saying he doesn't know why I like him. Are you saying it makes him excited to tell me?

[Opinion Owner]

I'm saying the point of him telling you was to establish himself as a man desired by other women. You've done that in your own way too with likes from men on social media.

[WhitneySnow]

He sounds sincere. Don't hold that one thoughtless comment against him.

[Asker]

After we hanged up he didn't talk to each other.. i wonder if he's embarrassed and feels bad or thinks I'm being dumb

[WhitneySnow]

He’s embarrassed and feels bad. Text him back. Tell him you’re not mad, you just got a little jealous. As long as he doesn’t bring it up again you’ll be fine.