How to deal with my former friends with benefits who still bothers me?

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I had fuck friend over than 2 years ago, we used to close like dating. But he told me he doesn’t want relationship. And we both deal that we just do that like friends with benefits. But i met a nice guy, who wants relationship, and we both dating and officially dating 2 years ago.

I respect my boyfriend, so I ignored my friends with benefits and told him i have boyfriend and I don’t want to do any sexual activity or just see him outside the work. The first time he said that i date my boyfriend because he is rich, and i just want his money. But i never respond him. He also often tries to chat me with spicy texts but I always ignore it. Yesterday he texted me some pics of me (nude) and said that he miss me a lot. And I didn’t respond it. And when he said
“Guess you still with rich guy”.
And I replied him “yeah “. After that he called me but I didn’t answer it.

I can’t block his number because we work in the same place. And sometimes i need to call him.

Crimsyjo · Accepted Answer

Do you have the ability to mute his calls/texts so you only unmute if you need to contact him? On WhatsApp if you archive someone you will see a tiny indicator someone has messaged and choose to look but without it popping up on your phone.

It's defo tricky cos of work...

You might have to tell your boyfriend because I think this guy might be open to causing issues. Having nudes of you to use against you. Maybe tell your boyfriend you "dated" rather than friends with benefits and so he's kind of an ex but the relationship never worked put but now he's harassing you. That way you can maybe tell the "friend" you will escalate at work too if he doesn't back off so you have works permission to block him and not call him for work related reasons. And your boyfriend can maybe text him too to say back the fuck off. (Text or call from your phone. You don't want this guy to have your bfs phone number). That way if he wants to stir things up your boyfriend won't feel you been keeping secrets...

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

By being honest with him and letting him know that you are not interested in being friends with benefits because you are now in a relationship.

bobby_bush_eater · Accepted Answer

If it's unwanted sexual content you can report that to your company or warm him that if he continues such comments that you will do that.

Literally tell him the only reason you maintain any communications is strictly for professional reasons. You need to abide by that as well, don't interact on his terms, keep it professional and anything outside of that you can shut the situation down and if he continues report it.

You're allowed boundaries and you're allowed to close people out of your life.

Your past relationship doesn't give him any right to continue those comments or unwanted sexual messages...

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Just ignore him like you been doing , he just wants to have sex with you again that’s all , don’t ruin your new relationship , so tell your FWB’s he no longer has a chance with you and that he is best to move on.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Report him to Human Resources for harassing you

lorenzomichael · Answer

First tell them to stop contacting you. Then block them on your phone. If that don’t work then put a restraining order on them. And if that doesn’t work have someone kick the shit out of them.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Change your screen name to "Cum Dumpster".

CarolinaGirl5 · Answer

You're Damn near 40 grow tf up

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Tell him. “Begone fuck face”

jahaims · Answer

Consequences of immature actions.

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