Why do cheaters stay happy in their lives while people who got cheated on stays suffering almost always? Does it mean one have to cheat to be happy?

[Anonymous]

[Oliverlogan263]

Well, that's a really tough question, ma'am. I can definitely see why it would feel so frustrating and unfair that the cheaters seem to be able to move on and be happy, while the ones who got cheated on are still suffering.

It's not right, for sure. The person who got cheated on didn't deserve that pain and betrayal at all. But you're right, a lot of times it does seem like the cheaters are able to just shrug it off and keep living their best lives.

I don't think it means you have to cheat to be happy, though. That's just messed up. Happiness shouldn't come at the expense of hurting someone else. The cheaters are probably just really good at compartmentalizing and not letting the guilt weigh them down.

But that doesn't make it okay. The pain of being cheated on is real, and it takes time to heal from that. The person who got betrayed has every right to feel hurt and take the time they need to process it all.

Honestly, I think the cheaters are the ones missing out, you know? They might seem happy on the outside, but deep down they've gotta be struggling with the shame and regret of what they did. True happiness comes from being truly honest and loyal, in my opinion.

So don't feel like you have to stoop to that level to find your own happiness, girl. The high road might be tougher, but it's so much more meaningful in the long run. Keep holding your head high - you're way better off without someone who would do that to you.

[HusamRocks]

At that moment yes u r right, but with time it's gonna be the opposite 😁

[HollyK21]

It looks like they stay happy because you only see what’s on the outside. Like social media for example, you think he’s going to post himself down and out over you? Hell no, he’s going to erect only his best self for everyone to see. On top of that if he’s cheating then he wasn’t fully committed in the first place, or fully into you, so breaking up isn’t going to warrant the same heartbroken response for him as it does for you.

[Asker]

Can cheaters find fulfilling relationships or life? I feel that a life which is fulfilling requires great amount of loyalty in a relationship. If he doesn't have, he isn't a husband material. He belongs to streets. Do you agree?

[HollyK21]

I’d say anyone can find a fulfilling relationship regardless of what they’ve done to whom in the past. Is it unfair? I’d say yes but only if you’re spiteful and carry hate for them. Once you forgive them for what they’ve done then you can heal and it won’t matter so much if they’re moving on or not, happier without you or not. It just wouldn’t matter.

My belief on fulfillment is that relationships should only be an extension of an already fulfilling life. If you’re talking about the ability to commit and stay loyal, even a cheater can do that, it just won’t be with the person they cheated on. Sometimes an ex (or even a current partner they will ultimately breakup with) are really just a lesson or an experience for a guy before he meets the love of his life or someone he’s more compatible with.

I mean think of how often we see men do one thing with an ex and act totally different with the next girl. For example, being in a relationship for 4 years and not so much as an engagement, then they breakup, he meets someone soon after and marries her within a year or 2. Things like that are crazy but it happens all the time.

[Asker]

But he can't live an emotionally fulfilled life with his physical second mate he marries. He may marry her soon but he can't provide or receive emotional support to his new girl like he had with his first one

[HollyK21]

Why not? If anything I’d say the first relationship in question received less emotional support because he cheated.

[Asker]

Ok. So you support cheating? Do you think that one needs to cheat on their partner to lead life happily?

[HollyK21]

Yikes. There’s clearly a disconnect in this conversation.

[Asker]

I guess you're saying that a cheater will have a better and happy leading life after they cheat on their partners which is not a reality because I seen a cheater man crying for his lost love after she left him due to his cheating

[HollyK21]

Nope, that’s not what I’m saying at all and I’m not quite sure exactly you interpreted what I said as such. Our very simply, I’m saying that anyone, even a cheater, can go on to find a fulfilling relationship. Not because they cheated in the past and are being rewarded for it, but because they found the person that they want to do right for.

[HollyK21]

**put very simply

[Nikki1989]

Cheaters want something in life that they are not getting at home, and they find it. Of course, they are happy. They got what they wanted.

[Anonymous]

Because the person who got cheated on chose a cheater.