Do men ever sabotage their mates’ chances romantically if they’re both crushing on the same woman?

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DannyUk2017 · Accepted Answer

Yes! But... i have learned that... NEVER FIGHT for what YOU WANT TO HAVE, as "she" might NOT EVEN WANT YOU! So simply i just Let Them Be... but "when 💩 hits the fan?" Don't come back to me for Help! As i'll turn you around and kick you in the butt, and push you out the door! I'm not letting ANYONE to "stomp" on My heart and My Feelings! And that Goes for Both of them!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

In general, no guy with any class. But this is a sticky subject. Because there's no clear cut answer to this. Because timing plays a part.

ohsheeT · Answer

No not at all you know I don't know I know in my past what has happened with me is my best friend and I we would do things together and his sister started hanging out with us and she started bringing her friends into this world of ours and there were girls her girlfriends that liked me I wanted to be with me but couldn't because her brother liked them so everybody would kind of just settle except for me I'm going to wait wait a minute because many times these girls would come to me and say I like you but I'm hanging out with him because of his sister and his sister like me too and when he was with the girl that he was with that means I could be or the sister could be with me and that finally started happening but I don't know it was just all messed up but no I mean I had opportunities to sabotage my friend I had opportunities to be with the girl that wanted me it was with him this is making me dizzy LOL but I never did that I just respected everybody and I mean his sister was a beautiful person too we had lots of fun that we weren't supposed to have because of what was happening but I don't know if guys do that or not

Anonymous · Answer

I have had a few guy “friends”, none of which have been interested in someone I’ve been interested in - at first. Then they suddenly like her, and get clingy and desperate, she flips out, and she’s gone completely. I have dropped most of those “friends.” One remains that I have a tenuous friendship with.

One does things like while introducing himself, if I’m nearby, he will openly say ‘Oh, this is ————-. He doesn’t think he can get a girl” or something private from private conversations, (or a mutual friend will tell him everything (this friend is “special” and he doesn’t get what should be private and what is something ok to blab about; it’s public info now)). “This is —-——- He has depression and social anxiety.” I’ve NEVER done any of that to him, let alone anyone else. So he’ll either do it that way…

OR

He will bring up a woman several of us are getting to know, saying “She’s ugly” or she doesn’t “do it for him.” “She’s like a dude.” Etc… (Ass). In the past, I’ve said “Well, I think she’s cute, so…” or “I planned on asking her out.” Then he will suddenly become “madly in love” with that same girl not five minutes later; and he’ll get desperate and clingy, and the girl will run away, so I don’t get a chance to even talk to her because she’s completely disappeared.

Oh, and for about 3 years, I don’t tell him anything I don’t want repeated (or any info that could be used against me).

There was a time in college where three or four friends were interested in the same girl. One would ask, get shot down, then with discussing it, maybe a month or so later, I’d try (I got shot down, of course), then another mutual friend a few weeks later… we were all pretty clear that we didn’t want this thing breaking up the group of guys, so had they had an issue with it, I’d say the other guys probably wouldn’t have asked. As far as I know, they didn’t sabotage me, and I didn’t with anyone. We were friends, I’m not backstabbing anyone especially people I’m friends with. Girlfriends usually come and go; the friendship meant more.

AmeerX · Answer

Actually, it's the reverse.
I don't mind if my best friends and I like same girl.. we all will say, whomever she likes, all the others must back out. Or if for example a girl doesn't like me but my friend, we appreciate the honesty and tell them about it.

I have only ever seen girls sabotage their friends, besties companionships. Girls friends, and also mothers and sisters.

molonski2 · Answer

I think you are overthinking whatever is going on here , I've never known sabotage and I'm old.. haha

I did have one guy where we slept with the same woman ( twice ) 2 different ones..

Long story , no sabotage.

Tarifa · Answer

That never happened to me. I would say the exact opposite: if we know a friend crushes on a girl, she's off limits. We would never interfere with his interest in a girl. Quite the contrary, we would do whatever we can to encourage him.

abbyjgriffin98 · Answer

From what I've noticed, yes. Realistically speaking, some men are capable of being just as vindictive as some women.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Wouldn't trust a man who says no. Because acting like only women get jealous and do this is funny. We can all be jealous vipers.

Unit1 · Answer

Not me

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Yes, that absolutely happens. Even if it's not totally intentional.

lorenzomichael · Answer

No, because my woman is heterosexual not bisexual and I’m a one woman kind of guy

Jay-_- · Answer

Literally happened to me recently, I let him have it not going to fight my friends over it.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

You mean... men outside of highschool? No.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Not from my experience.

tzdc21 · Answer

If they were a real POS, then yes.

Yannae · Answer

No. First come, first served

TallAnon · Answer

Depends how close you are

ilkeerol28 · Answer

Red dead rid

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