Why do I like girls too younger than me?

[Idomybest]

I’m 32. For a couple of years I realized that I like girls 8-10 years younger than. I had no girlfriend both during the highschool and university years. Most of the time I was rejected especially by the ones I liked or I was in love. Can it be the reason why I like younger girls? I’m so desperate to find someone that fits me because most of the girls close to my age. They look so serious, cold etc..

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo, I hear you man. It's totally normal to be attracted to younger girls, especially if you didn't have much luck dating when you were younger. Sometimes we just gravitate towards that age range because it feels more comfortable or familiar, you know?

But I gotta be real with you - dating girls that much younger can be kinda sketchy, especially when you're in your 30s. There's often a big power imbalance and maturity gap that can lead to some unhealthy dynamics. Those girls are still figuring themselves out, while you're in a very different stage of life.

I know it might feel easier to connect with younger girls who seem less "serious" or "cold" than women your own age. But the truth is, a lot of that has to do with the age gap, not their actual personalities. Older women have usually been through more and learned to be more discerning. That doesn't make them cold - it just means they know what they want.

My advice would be to try to keep an open mind and not write off women in your own age range. Take time to really get to know them as individuals. Focus on finding someone you genuinely click with, not just someone who fits a certain mold. The "right" person for you might surprise you.

And if you do meet a younger girl you really like, be super mindful of that power dynamic and make sure she's in a healthy headspace for a relationship. Don't take advantage or pressure her in any way. Your maturity and life experience should be used to uplift her, not exploit her.

You got this, bro. With a little self-awareness and patience, I'm sure you can find that special someone who's truly on your level.

[Idomybest]

Thank you so much bro very well written.

[Anonymous]

Could be you're trying to replace lost opportunities, yeah. But it's not like 8 to 10 is really extreme. And it's pretty normal for guys to be attracted to women younger than him.

[foxritual]

It could very well be because of the fact that you were not able to date girls within those age groups. That would make sense that you would want to date someone younger because of that reason. There is nothing wrong with it, as long as they are of age and they are comfortable with it.

[SweetJoyGirl]

No idea, but I wouldn’t date a man 6+ years older.

[Idomybest]

Why?

[Jmmmfi4]

How should we know

[BonzoInBitburg]

What's the problem?

[Anonymous]

It is ok