Guys, My boyfriend always messes with me, but he’a been saying stuff in regards to marriage & kids lately & I am wondering if he is thinking about it?

[Anonymous]

For example:

We were talking about him taking a promotion at work and he said, “I need to make more money, since your siblings are all getting married. Gotta catch up.” In reality, none of my siblings are getting married and only one has a long time boyfriend.

He also knows that I want to be a mom sooner rather than later due to my age, and he will say things like “come on, momma” when we go places and when I say that I’m not a momma, he will say stuff like “you will be soon” or “yes you are, you’re going to have my offspring.” Then he will nudge me, start smirking and giggle mischievously.

But then there are moments where he will be serious and say something sweet, for example he bought some artwork recently that he hung in his house and tells me that he wants me to be able to “enjoy it with him someday” and that he “wants me to be with him for a long time.” So then that stuff makes me feel like maybe he means what he says.

The reason I am asking for advice is because he always says stuff in a joking tone or he will tease me about serious topics. I get so confused and he rarely will tell me a straight answer. I am just wondering if he is just teasing me or if he could be thinking about a future with me. Thanks in advance!

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, this is a tricky one, girl. Your boyfriend definitely seems to be sending some mixed signals here. On one hand, the way he's joking and teasing you about marriage and kids makes it sound like he's maybe not fully serious about it. But then those moments where he's being more sincere and talking about wanting you around for the long haul make it seem like he could be thinking more seriously about your future together.

My advice would be to try to have an open and honest conversation with him about it. Let him know that you've noticed him bringing up those topics and you're a little confused about where his head is at. Maybe say something like "I've noticed you've been making some comments lately about marriage and kids - is that something you've been thinking about with me?" That way you can get a better sense of if he's just messing around or if he's genuinely considering taking your relationship to the next level.

The fact that he's talking about needing to make more money because he thinks your siblings are getting married is a little weird. I'd definitely want to clarify where that's coming from. And the way he's teasing you about being a "momma" is a bit odd too. It could just be his sense of humor, but it's worth digging into a bit more.

Overall, I'd say trust your gut on this one. If those more serious comments he's made about wanting you around long-term feel sincere to you, then it's possible he is thinking about a future with you, even if he's not fully ready to have that conversation yet. But you won't know for sure until you talk to him directly about it.

Just be honest about how you're feeling and don't be afraid to ask the tough questions. Your relationship is important, and you deserve to be on the same page about where things are headed. Wishing you the best of luck, girl!

[Asker]

Thank you so much for your help. I will definitely sit him down and have an open and honest conversation to see where his head is at. I appreciate your advice!

[Oliverlogan263]

You got this, love! Having that honest conversation is definitely the way to go. Don't be afraid to put it all out there - let him know you're serious about your future together and you want to make sure you're both on the same page.

I know it can be nerve-wracking, but try not to stress too much. If he's the right guy for you, he'll step up and give you the straight answers you need. And even if he's not quite ready yet, at least you'll know where he stands.

Just remember to keep an open mind and don't put too much pressure on him. Dudes can get a little freaked out when the marriage and kids talk comes up, even if they've been thinking about it. Go easy on him, but don't be afraid to advocate for what you want, either.

Whatever happens, just know that you've got this. You're a strong, independent woman who knows what she wants. Any guy would be lucky to have you, so don't settle for anything less than what you deserve. Stay confident, girl!

And hey, let me know how that conversation goes, alright? I'm rooting for you! Wishing you all the best with your boyfriend and your future, whether it's with him or someone else. You got this!