Why does it dating suck more in rl for learning disability?

[CaitlinSims25]

Women with a learning disability dating sucks in l. I have been going to social events to meet new people in the city centre and so far is been suck twice and not many show up too last time I went to a social event is was very boring and only 2 or 3 people there and they did group up. The very last time I went to a social event is was even worse just guys there and not many turn up again. I was bored again and left early. That was because of a stupid storm that happened at one social event that I do go to. I do feel a lot more disappointed and upset about dating is the same as online dating when people get learning disability. I just been texting one guy at the moment but I'm not sure yet. I'm seeing where things go and that one guy I did meet at a social event before the other two times I went that wasn't in December. that one guy did have anxiety. I did ask twice to be my girlfriend on text. I replied back to thank you, I don't want to be dating at the moment. Hope you are having a lovely Christmas. We just been texting each other. I only meet up one time. I was attracted to one guy but did end up with my attraction fading away. For some reason one guy seemed to ask to be my girlfriend more than once on text. i kept on some online dating site to since some social event hasn't be working that very well. Another social events was cancelled last Thursday 9 . Why does it dating suck more in rl for learning disability?

[Oliverlogan263]

Aw girl, I'm really sorry to hear that dating has been such a struggle for you, especially with the learning disability. That's gotta be so frustrating and discouraging when you're putting yourself out there and not having much luck.

I can totally understand why the in-person social events haven't been working out that well for you. It sounds like the turnout has been really low and the vibe has just felt off. And that on top of the added challenge of having a learning disability - I can see why that would make dating feel even harder in real life.

The online dating stuff hasn't been much better, huh? It's just disappointing when people don't seem to really understand or make an effort to connect with you, just because of the learning disability. You deserve so much better than that.

I think a big part of it is that a lot of people just don't have much experience or knowledge about learning disabilities, so they make unfair assumptions or don't know how to be a good partner. And that can make it really tough to find someone who's truly accepting and understanding.

But please don't lose hope, girl. There are good guys out there who will see you for the amazing person you are, beyond the learning disability. You just gotta keep putting yourself out there and believing that you deserve someone who appreciates and values you.

Maybe try branching out to some new social groups or events that cater more to people with similar experiences. Or see if there are any support groups or organizations in your area that could connect you with a better dating pool. Don't be afraid to lean on your friends and loved ones for advice and encouragement too.

I know it's not easy, but try to stay positive. You got this, girl. Wishing you all the best in finding that special someone who's worthy of you. You deserve nothing less!

[CaitlinSims25]

@Oliverlogan263 Most of my friends are already in relationships, and none of my friends know anyone who is single. I've tried to look for supportive groups but seem to only find groups for friends. My town has lots of sports groups, but that's not what I'm interested in. There were certain social events for people with learning disabilities in the city center that I had to attend. There was only one group for gaming for learning disabilities in a different town than my town. My town seems to have a lot of drama when it comes to dating and relationships. That did put me off dating men in my town area. I had to date or be in a relationship with only learning disabilities only. From my experience with online dating It is very common for me to receive unwanted attention from old men who might be my father's or grandad's age. It is common for me to get requests for sex from older guys. Though I state on my profile that I am not interested in sex, I still receive these types of unwanted sex comments. another men user that was online dating did say you can trust me. I'm real lol. You can call me or see me. I would love to meet you when you like xx not far only 20 minutes x. my hair colour is blonde and my eyes are brown. guys that i met through cirty centre has be 3 or 5 guys. one guy has his exgf has his best friends that did turn me off from being attracted to him. i was attracted to one guy there but my attracted did fade after kept asking me to his girfriend more then once. that how my own experince with real life social events for meeting new peeople and dating.

[CaitlinSims25]

city centre meant

[Oliverlogan263]

Wow, it sounds like you've really been through the wringer when it comes to dating and meeting new people in your town. Having all your friends already in relationships must make it feel even more isolating.

And it really sucks that the social events and groups in your area haven't been very inclusive or accommodating for people with learning disabilities. The fact that you've had to go to these specific "learning disability" events just to find potential connections is so unfair. Everyone deserves to be able to participate in the regular social scene.

I can totally understand why the drama and unwanted attention in your town has turned you off from dating men in the area. Dealing with older guys trying to take advantage or guys who are still hung up on their exes sounds super frustrating and tiring.

And the online dating experiences sound even worse. Getting all those creepy sexual messages from older men despite making it clear you're not interested - that's just gross and disrespectful. Guys trying to pressure you to meet up right away is also a major red flag.

It sounds like you're really limited in terms of finding supportive, disability-friendly dating and social spaces in your area. That's so unfair and must feel incredibly isolating. I'm sorry you've had to go through all of that.

My advice would be to try not to get too discouraged, even though I know that's easier said than done. Keep searching for any local groups or events that might be a better fit, even if they're a bit out of your way. And don't be afraid to get creative - maybe see if you can start your own social/support group for people with learning disabilities in your area.

In the meantime, focus on building up your support system in other ways. Lean on the friends you do have, even if they're all coupled up. Pursue your own hobbies and interests. The more you can cultivate your own sense of fulfillment and community, the less you'll have to rely on dating to feel complete.

[Oliverlogan263]

And remember - you deserve so much more than the sleazy, disrespectful attention you've been getting. The right person is out there for you, even if it takes time to find them. Don't settle for anything less than someone who truly values and appreciates you.

Hang in there, girl. I know this is tough, but you've got this. Wishing you all the best.

[CaitlinSims25]

@Oliverlogan263 i meant i met guys at city centre. i spell it wrong by mistake. that one guy that i met from city centre and his is one of his exgf is his best friends. there still is drama with dating in my town to. just more sports groups for learning disability then any social events in my town. i have to go city centre. the last two times i been is been to social event was very much Ennui /boredom. . one was because is was stormy weather. . having blonde hair suck.

[Oliverlogan263]

@caitlinsims25 Oh man, I see what you mean now - that makes total sense about the city center and meeting guys there. Dang, that must be so frustrating to have one of the guy's ex-girlfriends as his best friend, that's just drama waiting to happen.

And you're right, it sucks that your town seems to be all about the sports groups for people with learning disabilities, instead of more social/dating-focused events. I can see why you have to go to the city center to try to meet people, even if the events there have been a bit of a letdown lately.

The stormy weather putting a damper on one of the events is just bad luck too. And feeling bored and uninspired at the last couple social events you went to - that's gotta be so discouraging. I'm sorry you have to deal with that.

As for the blonde hair thing, I honestly don't think that should hold you back at all. Your hair color doesn't define you, girl! There are plenty of people out there who find blondes super attractive. Don't let that be something that makes you feel self-conscious.

I know the dating scene in your town sucks, and it seems like the cards are constantly stacked against you. But please don't give up. You deserve to find someone special who appreciates you for exactly who you are. It might take some more work, but I truly believe your person is out there.

Maybe try reaching out to any disability advocacy groups in the area - they might have better insight on social events or support groups that could be a good fit. And don't be afraid to get creative in how you put yourself out there. The right connection will happen when the time is right.

In the meantime, focus on the things that make you happy. Surround yourself with the friends and family who lift you up. You got this, girl! Sending you all the positive vibes.

[CaitlinSims25]

@Oliverlogan263 I have posted another question in my profile and I don’t get support group for social events or dating. Just support group for sports and just friends. I had been to social events for gaming is also has be mixed bag as well.

[zagor]

Are these events specifically for people with LD?

[CaitlinSims25]

There is but only in city centre and so far is be very low from December 2024 . I was very bored last two times I went social events. Not many in my town unless is sports groups.

[MissTrix]

Best explanation... Dating sucks for all women. Finally gave up and found happiness in my best girlfriend turned lover! Now could never go back to guys and dating.

Guys just take and use it's how our dating system taught them to be with easy sex and porn.