Why do people think women have more options for dating, but it's not true for me which has a learning disability and I can't choose who I can date?

[TheSimFans]

I have a learning disability, am 24 years old, and should be a good year for dating and relationships, but it hasn't been for me and hasn't been for any year I've tried. It's been hard since no men are interested in finding a girlfriend in real life. In real life, I am not interested in other men. They were loud, immature, rude, and mean. There is a perception that women have more opportunities than men. Some for me is also not true since i can't really choose i can date and always has to be done my mum that made a very strict rule with only me that comes to dating and is i can only date men with a learning disability or learning difficulties but my mum still prefer learning disability. The problem with some men with learning disabilities is that they appear immature to me if they are younger than me. As well as dating apps and sites, I have also tried some that were successful and some that were not. Whenever I go outside and meet men, I haven't worked out once in real life, since I'm outside at all times and I haven't had any men approach me rather than stare at them. That is all i get from men in my town. Additionally, I tried approaching men, but they rejected me. That is the only reason that I want to try out on dating sites or online apps instead. i found some men that had a learning disability I did match one. Some men didn't get what they wanted from me and some of them ghosted me since i didn't give them what they wanted since they wanted One man called me baby, and I stood up and stopped calling me and didn't listen to anything and did he lie. before i match with a men that 33 year old. one men that i did match and give Facebook and always used to make a excuse i'm sorry i been to busy or i'm sorry i be very busy. i stop putting effort and did give up. then i saw that match with men that was 33 year old then me on badoo. let me try and see how is would was going. he did messing me on Facebook what are you thoughts

[Lliam]

Women who are willing to hook up will always have an easy time getting dates. Women who are looking for a solid guy who is in search of a long-term relationship have a tougher time.

In your case, you have an even harder time. Because of your learning disability you are naive and innocent. You have to be careful not to get taken advantage of. Plus, your mom is understandably protective.

I think if makes sense to seek an older guy who has more life experience, is more mentally mature, is more financially stable and, like you, is seeking a long-term relationship with the goal of finding a wife.

You need someone who will cherish, care for, and protect you.

[TheSimFans]

i'm not interest of being married since i don't think i will get married and just piece of paper hat doesn't mean anything apart. and doesn't approval to men to there favor. just be more women favor. just looking for a long term relationship. i already been in 9 previous relationship with only younger men. is too risky ,

[SteveSmith1985]

Yea, I thought you had the one guy you were talking to, with all the "green-flags"? What's going on with him? Aren't you supposed to meet up with him tomorrow? (or maybe that was last Friday). What about that one guy who seemed to be good?

[TheSimFans]

I did had one guy but we didn't meet up since i starting seeing more red flags that did pop when i was trying to get know each. he didn't want to get know but get straight boyfriend and girlfriend point and i wasn't interested in going to fast and think they was bit of lovebombing there. also that is one that started call me baby when i didn't want him call me and then he just ghost me after i said no or i'm not interested in going to too fast. he was also younger then men.

[SteveSmith1985]

Ohh, ok, I didn't realize he was the same guy who was calling you "baby." (Sometimes I get mixed up as to which guy is doing what in your situation). So you were obviously correct in deciding this guy wasn't for you. You're right... once you see those red-flags... it's time to move-on.

Overall though, I want to urge you to try not to get discouraged. I really honestly admire the way you put yourself out there, and are really putting in an effort to find the guy who is right for you. I know its frustrating to keep trying, and trying... and feeling like you're not finding any good guys, no matter what you try. It's fair that you feel frustrated. But its important that you don't get so frustrated that you get discouraged. Please try not to get discouraged.

I know it feels like nobody else is having the kind of experience trying to find a good guy that you are having. That is not true though. What you're experiencing is actually very normal. I cannot tell you how many girls I end up talking to, who have this same frustration. Many of them have been frustrated for even longer than you have. But... keep trying. Keep doing what you're doing. Keep trying to talk to different guys... and, if they're not right... keep looking.

[SteveSmith1985]

It's always frustrating until you happen to meet the right guy. There's no way to know exactly when that is going to happen (it's pretty much up to chance). I do know, that your odds of finding a good guy, are better if you continue to put yourself out there the way you're doing.

You're not doing anything wrong. Your experience (although not fun) is not an abnormal one.

You will feel like you'll never meet the right guy... right up until the day you happen to meet one who seems like he might be the right guy. The night before you meet that good guy... you'll feel like you feel now--like you're never going to meet him. It will sneak-up on you and come as a surprise whenever you DO meet him. Just... hang in there, and try not to get discouraged. 🙂

[Vikkrram]

Ma'am look most of the girls have the easy way to get a date where a man has to really struggle a lot.
Yeah in your case as it can be a difficult for you to date someone.

[FilmGuy93]

it's a generalize statement. People say that women have more options in dating than men because most women do.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

No, they do compared to a guy in similar circumstances.

If both can't drive, a guy won't care as much as a woman for instance.

Same thing if they both have a learning disability.

[TrillXHippy]

Because they do lol

[TheSimFans]

no they do not. i do not have choice and i'm women .

[TrillXHippy]

I said they do so they do. No matter how many times you wanna tell yourself that women don’t have more options for dating won’t make it not true

[TheSimFans]

is not true for me. not ugly women don't have many choice.

[TrillXHippy]

Between all the girls and guys who do you actually think has more options for dating? Not guys. I’m a guy so I should know

[TrillXHippy]

girls and guys you know*

[Blues36]

the picky stays alone

[TheSimFans]

i'm not picky but don't have many option and see more men being picky then women that comes with some men with a learning disability men.

[Blues36]

you are right