Are my expectations of men that low?

[Anonymous]

Some of the things I’m about to say to me seems pretty standard, but it’s some things I’ve never came across when dating. I’m 26 and he’s 32.

I met a new guy recently that asked if I wanted to bring in the new year with him and gave me the choice to either go out or spend the in. I debated but eventually chose to spend the night in with him. We planned a cocktail to make and got dinner in, watched some netflix, and created a little art together since we both are artists. Prior to us getting together we discussed our intentions that we would want something long term together and wanted to take it slow. We made out a bit and that was it. He gave me the choice to go home or spend the night which I stayed because he made me feel safe. He cuddled me but that was it. In the morning he left to get me a toothbrush and brought back some ingredients and made us a big breakfast. We spent the whole day together doing the same thing as before and then I went home. We definitely wanted to have sex, but didn’t take it so far

It was refreshing being with someone that seems to be on the same page as me and respect boundaries. I feel all of this is standard but again I never came across this before. It reminded me that there are men out there that can be genuine. I know as time goes on he isn’t going to be perfect, but he impressed me.

[Purpleronnie]

Honestly I still believe there is a great many man out there that are truly like this including myself. Getting to know someone , and hopefully becoming solid friends before taking things to a more sexually intimate level works and is in the right order to build something meaningful and worthwhile. My lady and I are living proof of this !
Not to cast a shadow but I’m sure some men have subversively used this approach before though , appearing to play the long game to win trust and confidence that their motives are worthy etc but there would be cracks in the fascade before too long it’ll this was true for him.


It’s very sad if your expectations of men were indeed so low although I can understand why we all get tarred with that brush even if it certainly isn’t fair for some of us to be treated with such contempt.


Good luck with your artist , I hope you will be making some meaningful body paint shaped prints in some canvas soon 😊

[Summeroflove]

What matters is building a genuine connection. People that don’t will never be satisfied

[Asker]

I agree

[MissTrix]

Standard! No you found an amazing guys! 😍 Congrats!

My nights never went like that! Lucky!

Guys never take no or help or go get things for most girls! They just wanna take and destroy! Push us to Thier beds and shove Thier tongues down our throats!

No guys really ever wanna make art unless it was painting me! Never let any one get far but they just tried to force it!

That man sounds like a keeper 😍

[Asker]

That’s how I’m feeling! And I def relate to that dating experience you’re describing. When that’s all you’re used to, it’s like woah is this what I’ve been missing?

[MissTrix]

This is what it should be right! 👍 A sweet gentleman being wonderful and caring enjoying time with you.

[Twalli]

Most people believe that a strong romantic relationship cannot be formed without sex. In other words, you can't be romantically involved before having sex. That's false, although sex will make a relationship deeper. Have sex when you both feel ready, but don't try to force it. If you just don't feel in the mood, or want to deepen your relationship before sex, that's fine.

[Anonymous]

Probably. You either made an uncharacteristically good choice this time. Or more likely he's already f***ing some other woman currently. So there was no hurry to bed you.

[Asker]

True. He told me it’s been 2 years since he’s slept with someone, if that’s the truth, I might be making a better decision than I have in the past