Is it bad that I have very high standards in men?

[Anonymous]

I’ve never officially dated a guy and while I do want to commit to a relationship, I just can’t find the right men. In school guys don’t hold interest in me romantically nor do I like anyone. I was never asked out in real life which I’m honestly not mad about but question how it still didn’t happen. I’m into celebrities which might play a big factor to why I’ve never dated. Is this a bad thing? Like do I need to hold a certain level of beauty and intelligence to have the right to set high standards? And is it too unrealistic that I’m hoping for the perfect guy? Or is this normal

[mattdzz]

It's not good or bad at this point because it's not going to negative affect your life.
You're 17; so, it's ok to have big dreams about life, including your future partner, but it's typical for those big dreams to be dashed on the rocks of reality.
You're also pretty, but you do know realistically your chances of dating a celebrity are pretty much zero, not that they are perfect partners, just high-earning/ popular ones.
Also, it's still early so it's not our of the realm of possibility that you can get someone who is considered a catch in your eyes, but the trick will be looking past the "first mask" of who people present themselves as.
Lastly, consider what your priorities are for the top three attributes (i. e. looks, income, personality, hobbies, etc.) and know ahead of time what you'd be "flexible" on, and what is a "need."

[blutwolfe]

You answered your own question right there, if you're gonna set higher standards, you gotta be higher standards yourself. If you have high standards and aren't worth that level, no one is gonna chime back. An extreme scenario is a fattie wanting Chris Hemsworth, not realistic and too high of standards.

I think this is pretty normal with women, they over value themselves, then wonder why they can't find anyone. Whether or not how much you want it is up to you, if you're completely content with waiting for the perfect man then by all means go for it. If it doesn't bother you then that's a good trait to have.

I'd say it's pretty unrealistic in finding the perfect guy but what is perfect to you?

[Anonymous]

Your 17 the right guy will come along when you least expect him too but in saying that having way too much high standards will very likely push genuine decent guys away from you because the way you described yourself comes across like you are high matience and many guys don't like high matience girls because they are too much work and they never seem to be happy no matter what the guy does

[MissDawn7961]

no but wait until you graduate and then get a man for your education is the most important thing you can have in life and God too

[TJFreshman22]

You deserve what you work for in life and if you can attract high quality men go for it. No sense being with a loser when you can be with a man who works out, has a good career and loves being with you. If u don't mind me asking what kind of qualities are you looking for in your perfect man?

[Asker]

Yes exactly! Like what u described i would like if a man is physically active and fit, family oriented, and overall reliable and honest ☺️

[TJFreshman22]

I love that you mention family oriented. Far superior to be with the person you love so that you can start creating a lot of fantastic memories with as opposed to what most dummies are told they are suppose to aim for which is a bunch of people who don't matter. They only realize far to late what truly does.

[TJFreshman22]

Do you have someone like that in your life right now?

[Asker]

Exactlyy there’s nothing more attractive than when a man is well mannered and put together (which is really rare to find). 😌 and nope I am single as of now

[Finchie40]

You are still young and you your perception of men is off because you are being sucked into the social media world. Especially with only liking celebrities , when you realize celebrities are just normal people as well and that most of them are enhanced with computer graphics to make them look perfect then you will realize you were being wrong all along

[cyclopspanda]

Its unrealistic cuz you're not perfect so how can you expect someone else to be. The standards that you hold to your perfect guy they will hold to you if they have any real value and at some point someone who you think is your perfect guy will ask you what do you have to offer or what do you bring to the table. You're cute but im gonna be honest you're too average to have crazy high standards, those standards are only gonna hurt you in the long run. It okay to fantasize but be realistic

[Asker]

So you are saying looks have a huge factor in having high standards

[Asker]

I agree which is probably why I am considering plastic surgery

[cyclopspanda]

You dont need plastic surgery you're good as you are. Im saying you gotta bring more than juat looks and pussy if you want a high value guy to commit to you or else you're gonna be pumped and dumped. You look good. All im saying is work on your personality and dont waste your youth, as you are now you can attract some good guys you just gotta work on your personality.

[cyclopspanda]

Im being 100%. You have the looks of someone id wife but the personality of someone id keep around to have fun with. I would not commit to you because of your personality

[Asker]

This is why I am trying to improve my personality, and besides how do you know my personality irl you don’t even know me

[cyclopspanda]

You're right about me not knowing you. Id like to though

[justme1171]

Wait until you are legal and date older men. You are at the peak of your sexual market value (and very sexually appealing as well). The problem is that you’re hot and guys your age are horn dogs. They want you for sex and nothing more. An older man (by older I mean early to mid thirties) will still appreciate sex but is also looking for romantic connection as well, and at our age we don’t want to deal with the bitter old bitches our age. We want young pretty girls like you.

[Asker]

Awee thank you!! But by older men you mean men that are older than me by how much?

[justme1171]

At least ten years

[SquidwardsmellsGOOD]

That’s why women are never happy and consider superficial, entitled, gold diggers and spoiled it’s quite typical especially with teen girls. And why modern men prefer hookups to relationships nowadays

[Asker]

Well for me personally I don’t want a partner for their riches or looks because I am an independent woman. Like for example when I marry I would never be a home stay mom, but at the same time I would want someone that is very supportive in what I do. Maybe if men weren’t acting like douches girls would be more happy like for example there are so many guys that ghosted me for NO apparent reason. And in my school there are so many dudes I know that be playing with girls’ feelings. There’s always two sides to an argument

[Anonymous]

"And is it too unrealistic that I’m hoping for the perfect guy?" - yes because nobody is "perfect". It's not "bad" per say, but you are probably never going to meet him (depending how high your standards are exactly?). That's not to say you shouldn't have some standards, but be realistic about them. Every guy is going to have some "flaw", just like every girl for a guy. If you expect too much, they'll never live up to your expectations and it's going to be a problem in your relationships.

[bklynbadboy1]

Standards or good just dont base them off celebrities cause most of them are fake it's a fake personality put together for marketing purposes as far as guys holding your attention that's normal most little boys are young acting you seem really mature for you age so you'll get bored with them fast

[bamesjond0069]

I'm not sure what your standards are but if you want someone intelligent, successful, has done interesting things, hot body... well that's fine. I am that man. Do you meet my standards? I only date virgins, who are hot and who are very caring and sweet to me who would rub my back and cook and clean for me and who would put me first and always make me look good and never disrespect me. Can you offer that? If so I'd say go ahead and have your high standards. If not i wouldn't look twice at you.

[Twenty2]

There's no perfect guy. Just be open to guys. Talk to them. I have tried talking to you so much and you don't even reply. That's kinda anti social. If it was real life and not this app, I wouldn't even wanna be friends with you if you didn't reply/ignore me, irrespective of how you look. Just be friendly first.

[SilverRain92]

It's not surprising that guys don't have romantic interest in you. Most probably they treat you like a sexual object because the way you dress.
Don't think that I blame you for anything I just want you to see the negative consequences.
I am sure that you are a good girl and have an interesting personally, but because the way you dress guys most probably only look at your boobs. Try to reconsider your style and you will meet more decent guy for sure

[Guanfei]

Bad? Only for you, since it reduces your choices, and therefore your chances to find someone.
But to be fair, you're a gorgeous woman who could probably get any guy she wants. Now, I don't know if you have more than your body, I hope so, because beauty fade and will never be enough to keep a man interested. Especially the ones you want.

[boredguy01]

There's nothing wrong with having high standards but I'd focus more on personality traits rather than physical appearance because even if you think someone is a 10/10 the relationship won't work unless your personalities are compatible

[Wolkmi]

Well if men have high standars, want a perfect woman, the people here online start telling him to get realistic standars, dont be entlitement and what do you have to offer? But thats with men of course...
Me? I don't care. Have unrealistic standard, fantasize, in fact you look a cool person I hope your dreams come true, im not going to wish yoy bad luck.

[Somethingwittty]

Dont base your ideal man on men you'll probably never find. Even then the persona they put on in public usually vastly different than the ones they have in private.

[berserk945]

I held to high of standards when I was in high school myself. As you get older you will learn there is more to it than what you thought in high school.

I regret now the girls I passed up because they didn't meet my standards. Now I realize that they did.

[munichguy]

Why should it be bad? Just be prepared to wait long times to meet somebody matching them. Maybe for ever... I advise you to revise your standards when you feel you have been waiting enough. Hope you'll find a valuable match

[TheFlak38]

"I just can’t find the right men."
Until you're suddenly 40 and start with the "where the fuck are all the good men! WTF! Man up and date me you losers!"

[WhereAmI]

Sounds like you'll be alone for quite some time.

It's a lot of how you project yourself if you seem unapproachable.

[Games_]

You can have what ever standards you want, but just know your limiting yourself in the process with any standard your ruling out.

[chriscdi]

there's no perfect guy, they would just be perfect to you, eventually you'll run into someone worth the time and effort.

[OfDeath]

It's unlikely that you would end up dating a celebrity without being on their social level.
It's not impossible but unlikely.

[TallAnon]

Life is about being happy, not about doing what society dictates as normal. If you don't feel like dating someone will make you happy, don't date them.

[Sam_The_Savage]

Babes you're jewel
Big everyone afford to date you ❤️

[BulletproofNY]

No, just make sure those standards are on your same league.

[Alex_988_2]

Tell What are your standards..
Only then I can say

[Anonymous]

This is normal and frustrating to read but you're entitled to your preferences.

[hiiiii420]

hey I was talking to you a while back. hope you are doing well!

[Anonymous]

Surprised you wanna date a guy and not just sleep around. You sure you aren’t already doing that? You’re probably gonna grow to be a stripper - not even the good type

[April9i]

What do you want to improve on your body?

[milliemo1999]

No absolutely not you should do!

[emperor90]

No not at all u want someone who is good

[hotstuffSRD]

Nope. at least you know what you want 🤟

[Hotboy_booblover]

You deserve one..