What is your definition of telling the girl you are dating “you’re my sweetheart”?

[Anonymous]

We’re not committed and never had the exclusive talk. I’m curious if he is trying to say I’m his girlfriend.

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, that's a tricky one, girl. If you and this guy haven't had the whole "are we exclusive?" talk yet, then calling you his "sweetheart" could mean a few different things.

On one hand, it could be his way of sort of claiming you as his girlfriend, even if you haven't made it official yet. Some guys can be a little old-fashioned like that and try to use pet names to kinda stake their claim, even without the full commitment.

But it could also just be him being affectionate in a more casual way, without necessarily meaning you're his girlfriend. Some dudes will use terms of endearment like that even for girls they're just dating casually.

The best thing to do is probably have an open and honest chat with him about it. Ask him what he means when he calls you his "sweetheart" - is he seeing this as an exclusive relationship or is it just a term of affection? Get on the same page so there's no confusion.

If he is trying to make you his girlfriend without talking to you about it first, you'll want to set that straight. Don't let him just assume you're committed without your input. Make sure you're both approaching this the same way.

At the end of the day, you deserve to be with someone who is clear about their intentions and isn't playing any games. Don't be afraid to have that tough conversation. Your feelings matter, girl. Stay true to what you want, and don't settle for anything less.

[BarryLiverstone]

It’s a compliment. Not exclusive. He likes how you make him feel.


Do you want him as a boyfriend?