No guy wants to date me cause I'm saving myself until marriage?

[Anonymous]

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Any advice or I'm going to end up single as a pringle. All guys want sex in a relationship & won't wait

[sage2021]

At your age 30-35 and you are still a virgin looking for a man that you still have to meet and get to know so add a couple of years onto that and if you don't have children right away add a couple of more years onto that.

35 3 = 38 2 = 40
Plus a few months to get pregnant and 9 months to be pregnant

40 1 year = 41 years until you have your first child.
Having a baby past the age of 35 increases the risk of birth defects.

Maybe if you put up your picture someone on this website might just be the guy you are looking for. And I am being serious because there's someone I already have in mind.

[sage2021]

You don't have to be a virgin to value yourself! Most women aren't still virgins at your age and they have high value!
Maybe what you aren't understanding (as the years are passing you by) is that if you did happen to meet a guy and you wanted to wait to have intercourse with a man after marriage, he will more than likely want to test drive you with the promise of marriage. Simply because he is human and if you will be kissing him and giving him your affection but then he has to keep stopping after you have turned him on, well, let's be honest here. You can't continue to do that to a guy for years until you finally get married.
If I were a man I would have to seriously wonder why you didn't meet a man when you were much younger and got married to him.
I realize that you want to wait but at your age after you do finally have intercourse with him and you are legally bound to him - what happens if you don't like it and maybe even hate it? Because that is reality for some women. Not all women enjoy sex even after marriage and especially after marriage.

[Asker]

Thanks for your input. I appreciate it :)

[itsannalee]

Date someone who has a same vision and interests, if they don’t want you it means they don’t have the same interest with you.


It’s still better being single when u try to save yourself until marriage, than with someone who agrees with that, and doesn’t want to touch you until marriage but he has different visions with you. So he keeps seeing other girl and have sex with other girl while waiting the moment to finally touch you.

[Shiprex]

That's unfortunate.

There are bound to be guys who have the same values as you but they're probably rare as most are in it to hook up.

It's not easy if you have this boundary that the promiscuous nature of modern culture takes the value of this away so easily and that gratification is more important than interpersonal relationship building.

I wish you well, good luck.

[oldpigg]

Virgin women are more valuable than other women, but only young virgins.

[Avicenna]

Then they aren’t who you want to date

[TonyMetal___86]

Oh really? Come here and i'll be more than happy to date you, will support you and be proud of you! 😊

[NicholasRedone]

Its probably more common in some cultures and some religious upbringings

[Asker]

I'm a Christian

[NicholasRedone]

Okay dokey lady - anything you wanted me to add then or any follow up Q's lol? Or perspective lol - i was / am Catholic lol however I've dabbled in lots of religious stuff even the devil lol purple emoji 😈 smiles

[Anonymous]

And what happens if you don't like what you married? They aren't all one size fits all.

[Abbycado]

Okay, and? What is the question?

[jahaims]

Learn how to find guys with the same values as you

[Asker]

Rare in the West especially

[Anonymous]

😆😆😆

[Asker]

What's so funny meanie?

[Opinion Owner]

Because there are plenty of guys. I'm not going to feel sorry for a woman who avoids everyone of those guys. Which is all this post you made is anyhow. I'm not mean. You just think I am. But that's fitting be cause you get most things wrong. Which is why you're at where you're at.👍

[Asker]

Your generation is different. I'm Generation Y. I went on dates but they guy dumped me cause he wants sex he don't want to wait & he even told me there's only 1 way if the guy really loves the girl. In the West only 2% Christian guys will others want to be intimate & test drive.

[Opinion Owner]

Where do you get this hogwash. I'm not going to say guys are not drawn to the female form. But a guy, a good guy will wait if you show him love and affection. And a good man will actially admire a woman's fortitude to remain a virgin. Because that tells him she values herself. Guys do not want a woman's virginity as much as he wants her commitment. Historical a woman's virginity has been a symbol of that. It's only in recent generations that women have thrown that in the garbage.
I never said the number of good men men were numerous. I said there were plenty. There's enough if you look and put in the work.

[Asker]

Lol, guys these days looking for holemates instead of soulmates. They go to Thailand for easy sex, ONS, friends with benefits & so on. They won't wait these days most of them. Proper Christian guys are not like that buy rare to find these days.