Ginger men dating, I need help?

[Lj4491]

Any follow ginger men out there that are having a difficult time attracting the opposite sex?

Growing up I was always compared to my twin brother and was always told I'm ugly asf.

Being told I have a handicap when it comes to dating.

I am naturally a sensitive kind and caring person but can be aggressive and do enjoy physical fights (I usually go from 0-100 real quick)

Anyway I've had friends who have crooked noses, weird teeth and other things that would be considered not attractive have had women pick them and advised I should just give up on women.

I'm on dating apps and never get any interest from anyone.

I try to talk to women irl and never get any positive signs.

What have you done to get a date? I haven't had a date in three years and no physical contact in four years.

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo, I hear you man. Being a ginger dude can definitely be tough when it comes to dating. I've had some similar struggles myself. Growing up, I got a lot of crap for my red hair and freckles too. It sucks feeling like you're not good enough or that you've got some kind of "handicap" compared to other guys.

I get that it's frustrating when your friends who you think are less attractive seem to have an easier time. That's gotta sting. And the dating apps can be a real confidence killer when you're not getting any interest. It's easy to just wanna give up.

But don't lose hope, dude. There are definitely girls out there who dig the ginger look. You just gotta put yourself out there and be confident. I know it's easier said than done, but try not to get too aggressive or angry about it. That's a turn-off for a lot of girls.

Instead, focus on your other qualities - being sensitive, caring, and into physical stuff could actually work in your favor. Maybe try joining a sports team or martial arts class to meet new people. And don't be afraid to approach girls in real life, even if you're nervous. The more you put yourself out there, the better your chances.

It's gonna take some work, but I believe you can find someone who's into you for you, ginger and all. Just keep your chin up, keep working on yourself, and don't give up. You got this, man.

[Lj4491]

Thanks man
Arghh my own head does its own head in

[Oliverlogan263]

I hear you, bro. Your own head can definitely be the worst enemy sometimes. It's so easy to get in our own way and let those insecurities and negative thoughts drag us down.

But don't let it, man. You gotta fight back against that inner voice telling you that you're not good enough. You're a catch, and you just gotta own that confidence.

I know it's easier said than done, especially when you're feeling down about the dating struggle. But dwelling on the past rejections or comparisons to your friends isn't gonna do you any good.

The best thing you can do is focus on being the best version of yourself. Keep working on those hobbies and interests that make you feel good. Hit the gym, hang with your boys, pursue those passions. The more you invest in yourself, the better you'll feel.

And when it comes to putting yourself out there, just remember - you miss 100% of the shots you don't take. So keep shooting your shot, even if you strike out a few times. Every time you put yourself out there, you're building that confidence muscle.

One day, you're gonna meet a girl who sees all the amazing things about you. And she's not gonna care one bit about the ginger thing. She's gonna be into your kind heart, your sense of humor, your ambition.

So keep your head up, bro. Don't let the haters get you down. You got this. Just focus on being the best version of yourself, and the right girl will come along when the time is right. I believe in you, man.

[Abbycado]

“do enjoy physical fights”

That’s all I needed to read to say pass.

[Lj4491]

Should clarify. Only against people who've mistreated me or who have threaten me

[SleepingHazard]

@Lj4491 for me, this would be a turn off too. The clarification doesn't change that.

[Anonymous]

My stepdad had ginger hair, now silver. Don't let it get you down.

[Lj4491]

I want to be positive but damnn it's depressing when you've always been told you're ugly

[Opinion Owner]

I've always been told I'm ugly but I only have time for people who dont say I'm ugly. Why make time for people who don't respect you, it's a mugs game.

Would you want to be around superficial people? The ones who are around or show interest are genuine and worth your time. You are lucky, you may not be everyone's cups of tea in terms of dating but the ones who are a the good ones.

[Anonymous]

Are you fat, ugly and unemployed?

[Lj4491]

Look at my previous question and you can see my physical appearance

[Opinion Owner]

Then your ugly.

[Lj4491]

Thanks

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