What does it mean if a girl says she's not sure about a second date?

[Anonymous]

Went on a date with a girl and asked her if she wanted to go on a second. She said:

"I'm not sure yet, I'll let you know tho"

Is this a definite sign she ain't interested? Is there a reason why a girl who would be interested would say that?

[petitedollbabee]

Pretty likely that she didn’t enjoy the first date much, but she didn’t want to be rude with an outright “no”, so she just said she’s not sure. But there won’t end up being a second date. We usually know straight away if we want to see the person again that we’ve just had a date with.

[petitedollbabee]

@mankortlan Lucky you’re not the one who asked the question then, huh 😀

[Asker]

Why would it be considered rude to say no?

[NicholasRedone]

Or she's being hard to get "a fashion mag addict* lol 😅 ladies and those magazines

[petitedollbabee]

@Asker Some men don’t handle rejection well. Im sure you’ve heard many stories of men lashing out violently towards women who turn them down. As a safety measure, many women don’t give directly rejecting answers, they just give ‘maybe’ answers to avoid any potential conflict.

[OneViewpoint]

This is simple but you don't seem to want to hear the message. If her answer wasn't "Yes" with a smile on her face, her answer was "No". She's placed you in the friend zone as a potential backup when she's in a dry spell, she's been dumped, or bored because Chad didn't text her back. You're there to provide free meals and validation to soothe her ego. Or maybe she's just conflict avoidant and doesn't want to come right out and tell you she's not interested.

Don't call, don't text, don't email. Move on down the road. If you ever run into each other, be polite and friendly but don't pick up the tab for anything and DO NOT ask her out again.

[AviatorTom]

That's the female version of the male "I'll call you" when the date did not go that well.

[Insecure2]

If IT were me, I would mean that something was wrong. IT probably wasn't anything big, because otherwise I would just say 'no' at the start, more like, for example your choice of words, a lack of a tip for the waiter, etc. Something that I would try to consider and decide if I want to hang out more or not. IT could also mean that I didn't check my work schedule and I have to think if the second date is possibile in the near future😉

[IslaTheWitch]

maybe she didn't like it
maybe there is something important going on, and she can't focus on planning the next date
maybe she is dating more than one guy and wants first to gather experiences before proceeding with someone
maybe... ask her?

[Asker]

I would but I really don't want to be pushy. I think it's a bit unfair if she's already told me that to press it further.

[Tarifa]

She doesn't want a second date, but is trying to find a way to say it without hurting your feelings.

You can give her some time to make up her mind. Don't be pushy. If nothing happens, just move on.

[sinderella18]

She may be playing hard to get, but in my opinion if she is really interested she would have said yes.

Just be polite to her when you see her and do other things..

If she is interested in you she will let you know soon enough.

[Miristheiss]

Have some self respect. Move on. Do not ever reach out to her again.

4 billion women on earth.

[Joshydavid25]

It may mean that while she may have been attracted to you, and liked you, there's definitely something she doesn't like about you enough to probably not wanna go on a second date.

[KrakenAttackin]

Move on. She said "I'll let you know" because she wants to know if things will go forward with the guy she really wants. If she does date you she will only see you as a placeholder until another "better" guy comes along.

[Mangospacho]

I’d put your chances of a second date at one in a million.

[Unit1]

It means Not yes.

[ProbablyClueless]

Yeah, unfortunately, women say things like that when they know they aren't interested.

[NicholasRedone]

Sounds like she had a 50/50 experience.

I smell valentines day 💌 💘 lol lol 😆

[Staximus]

Just leave her alone, she's not interested. If she was, she would have just said yes

[Staximus]

Do not text or call her again

[Vegasrunner]

She's not interested just go get another one.

[PrettyCrumblBb]

She probably didn't agree with you on something

[cleo21360]

sorry to say I don't think she wants a second date.

[DishLady]

She’s not into it.

[mattthefatbat]

Play it cool fam. Just take it as a no for now.

[conanbdetective]

She's letting you off easy. Move on.

[virgo2267]

Yea… she is not at all interested

[Fromdusktilldawn]

its a not, believe me

[Crazzyyworld]

She is an asshole

[RingOfFire]

😂😂😂