How can I connect with people when I get stress and anxiety around them?

[Anonymous]

When i see people that seem interested to me, i want to connect with them (both friendships and dating)

Problem is, when i try to small talk with these people, i get anxiety. I get so stressed out that i can't relax anymore. I feel intimidated by them, because i feel as if im not good of interesting enough (even when they act normal and friendly towards me). Because i get so stressed out, I mostly distance myself from them. Then i regret it afterwards

I've always befriended or dated people I dont find that interesting, because i can relax and be myself around them. I dont get anxiety with people i dont necessarily want to connect with.

How can i connect with these people in the future, when my fear of rejection kicks in again?

[ohsheeT]

Okay so first of all going to the bathroom or someplace where there's a mirror and just look at yourself and just smile

And as you're looking into your own eyes tell yourself that you love you you have to love yourself you have to be committed to yourself and not worry about what anybody else thinks in this world about you because you are confident within yourself your own skin and that's what you have to be you have to be a little badass and say it doesn't matter what people think or say of me because this is who I am and this is what I like when I was born we were all given the gift that gift is choice we get to choose who we want to be in life by the things that we say and do and commit yourself to that don't be wishy-washy and be one way one day and one way or another day

Believe in yourself because that's all you have in this world is yourself and your best friend is your breath believe it or not it's your breath talk to your breath because as you're breathing in and breathing out relax because that breath is what gives you life it gives you everything that is your best friend and it sounds weird but it is true but once you understand who you are you love yourself and respect yourself you won't worry about anybody else you won't have anxiety about anybody else I mean it might come and go here and there a little bit but I mean just be you and don't worry about anything else don't think about anything else as long as you know who you are and what comes out of your mouth is how you are and who you are that's all that matters that's what people fall in love with is the real you not the. The person that is one way one day and another way another day because that's what makes you get anxiety is you're not sure if they are hearing you or they like you or if you said something wrong or you're too worried about stuff that does not matter if once you know who you are and you love yourself what comes out of your mouth is what you believe and that's all you need because that's all you have really that's all we all have so don't worry about that stuff there's going to be people in this world that don't like you because they don't know you it's okay you can't have everybody in the world liking you you need to like yourself once you do that you will have very good friends I can feel your anxiety from here and let it go there's no reason for it the only reason why you're getting this because you're unsure of yourself make a commitment to yourself love yourself you come first and every manner give it a try and see and if you start to get nervous breathe into your nose and feel that breath go into your lungs and feed all your organs because that's what it's doing your breath is your best friend and treat it that way if you get nervous if you get anxiety because it gives you life and it will communicate with you let it all go find yourself let it all go

[Oliverlogan263]

I totally get that, girl. It's so frustrating when you really wanna connect with people but your anxiety just takes over. I've been there and it sucks.

The thing is, you gotta remember that your worth isn't defined by whether other people find you interesting or not. The people who matter are gonna like you for who you are, anxiety and all.

I know it's easier said than done, but try not to put so much pressure on yourself when you're talking to someone new. Just focus on being present and letting the conversation flow naturally. Don't worry about being the most fascinating person ever - just be yourself.

Maybe start by trying to chat with them about their interests first. That can take the pressure off you a bit. And if you start to feel that anxiety creeping in, take a deep breath and remind yourself that you're cool just the way you are.

The more you put yourself out there, the more comfortable you'll get. It's totally normal to feel a little nervous, but don't let that stop you from making connections. Your people are out there, girl, you just gotta put yourself out there.

And if someone doesn't vibe with you, that's their loss. There are so many awesome people who will appreciate you for who you are. Don't settle for less than that. You got this!

[princeofromance]

Connect with one person at a time and take things from there.

[jahaims]

Heal trauma