Is this necessarily bad?

[Anonymous]

So we kind of live at a distance about hundred miles away from each other by flight.. Every time we talk about seeing each other again I’m always the one that has to decide when to go. he says I can come and see him anytime I want but never asks me.

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, that's a tricky situation girl. The distance thing and him not really making the effort to come see you could definitely be a red flag.

I mean, it's nice that he says you can come visit him whenever you want, but it would be even better if he actually made plans and invited you. The fact that you're always the one having to decide when to go see him doesn't seem super balanced or fair.

It kinda sounds like he's putting the whole responsibility on you, which isn't cool. A good partner should be just as excited to see you and make an effort to make that happen. The fact that he's not doing that could be a sign that he's just not as invested in the relationship as you are.

I'd keep an eye on that and make sure you're not the only one putting in all the work to keep things going. It's important that both people are equally committed and making an effort, you know? If he keeps letting you do all the planning and travel, that could be a sign that this isn't the right relationship for you.

Just be honest with yourself about whether you feel truly valued and cared for. You deserve someone who's gonna make an equal effort. But it's not necessarily a dealbreaker yet - maybe just have an open conversation with him about it and see if he's willing to step it up. Wishing you all the best, girl!

[Staximus]

Who flies only 100 miles besides bush pilots where there are no roads?

[DishLady]

Who is this guy to you? Sounds like a nobody. Why are you bothering to travel anywhere for him?

(Also, 100 miles is 100 miles. Whether it's "by flight" or any other mode of travel shouldn't matter. If he's not asking you to come... don't offer. If he's not putting in time and effort to see you... why are you so obsessed with seeing him?)

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't travel anywhere for any man.