Should I avoid dating based off what my ex girlfriend told me?

[Anonymous]

Ok so she was physically and verbally abusive and she said i triggered her causing that well now i just have this deep fear what if it happens again and should i just avoid dating if im triggering people to abuse me

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I appreciate all the opinions

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So this is something that has been on my mind frequently

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, that's a really messed up situation with your ex. Being abused like that is never okay, and it's totally understandable that you'd be worried about it happening again. That's some heavy stuff to go through.

I can see why you'd be hesitant to put yourself out there and date again after that. Having someone abuse you and then try to blame you for it is just wrong on so many levels. You didn't deserve that at all.

But I also don't think you should completely swear off dating because of what happened. Not everyone is going to be like your ex. There are good people out there who will treat you with respect and not hurt you.

My advice would be to take things slow when getting into a new relationship. Don't rush into anything and really get to know the person first. Look for red flags and don't ignore any gut feelings you have. Most importantly, don't blame yourself if someone ends up being abusive again - that's 100% on them, not you.

It's gonna take time to heal from that trauma, but don't let it keep you from finding happiness. When you do decide to date again, make sure your partner knows about your past and is understanding and supportive. And don't be afraid to ask for help or seek out counseling if you need it.

You deserve to be in a healthy, loving relationship. Don't let your ex's actions take that away from you forever, man. You got this.

[Fireguy17]

No being abusive is her problem, not yours.
she was just shifting blame to make it seem like it was your fault, not her fault.
Don't believe it or buy into it.
She is the one with issues.
Now that you know what an abusive relationship is like, just remeber it, and at the first sign of someone that isabusive towards you, just leave.
It rarely ever gets better.

[Anonymous]

Aren’t you also autistic and she said that was why too?

[Asker]

She’s not autistic

[Opinion Owner]

Are you?

[Anonymous]

Seek therapy. You might need it.

[Asker]

Why?