Is it possible to love someone too much?

[Anonymous]

So I’m seeing a girl and like we can hang out all day over night but no matter how long we spend I miss her like really bad even immediately after it’s like I’m slightly depressed anytime we aren’t together I think about her literally every waking moment the relationship is good and I know she loves be too I’ve never felt this way about anybody does that mean it’s real love? I thought I loved people before but it never like this. Overall I’m much happier for having her but sometimes it really affects me

[bobalife]

Hmmm maybe you’re in love and also have co-dependency. It’s okay to miss her :)

[Asker]

Yeah I hope we live together down the road that’ll be much easier for me but I still think it’s a great relationship overall that’s why I love her so much if she wasn’t smart and funny and sweet and awesome I wouldn’t miss her so much how dare she be so awesome lol jk it’s great worth the occasional moment of being sad and craving her presence for sure

[Anonymous]

Only if it is not returned. There is a honeymoon phase in every relationship and this w I ll eventually subside. But if you feel this way towards and it is not returned to you then it's a problem.

[fish5505_87]

Make sure you give her some space, I am assuming as others, this is new love? its ok to be out of this world in love sometimes. good luck.

[IslaTheWitch]

no... it's possible to have additional emotions like fear of losing someone that makes you think that you feel stronger when, in reality, you just feel more than one feeling at a time...

[linka_pat307]

Something look to be what we hoped it to be.. I guess you guys are just beginning to date... it always happens to the new lovers.. it can true love but don't want you to get too close to her.. it can make her uncomfortable

[Asker]

I do I don’t tell her and I don’t bother her about it and she likes that I’m affectionate and things are going very well I think she seems to like me a lot too I was just wondering if it’s normal to sometimes get depressed just because you’re craving that person so much it’s not something I’ve experienced before tbh other times I feel floaty and happy and lucky to have her in my life my ex before her I lived with and I think partially I miss having the person always around and now I love this person so much more it’s just overwhelming sometimes so it’s fairly new we dated for 3 months and we got in an argument the only one we’ve ever had actually over miscommunication and canceled plans it was just new but a couple months later we reconnected and it’s been another 4 or 5 months and it’s going much better we spent time figuring out our communication so now when something comes up we handle it better it was not like a crazy screaming match or anything bad just like a normal disagreement but anyway we’re long past that we both say I love you she’s less affectionate than me by nature but she does tell me she loves me and cares about me she’s great supportive does get a little distant when under stress sometimes but that’s what some people need I don’t think there’s necessarily anything wrong with it as long as my needs aren’t forgotten I want to maintain a healthy balance which is why I asked the question thank u for your time and response

[linka_pat307]

I think it's normal but for us who care less about romantic lifestyle think it's abnormal but I think it's truth thaat some people can bee affectionate like you are

[Asker]

She’s very direct it’s something I like about her so like if it’s too much she tells me but it doesn’t happen much she says it makes her happy it’s more and we’ve talked about this in depth she has a harder time with expressing emotions sometimes but because we have good communication and I try to genuinely understand her I’m a person that knows that different people express thing different and need different things so for me as long as I feel loved I don’t have to hear it constantly I say sweet things because I love making my person feel good and I want them to know how much they mean to me but like I can have a normal conversation with her or spend time without constantly giving affection but overall i definitely do express it often I it’s because it’s so good and awesome that I miss her so much sometimes it makes me sad but then like other times I think about our memories and I get happy sometimes I feel like I’m floating I just get so happy about her so it makes for a kind of high and low thing when for any reason we go a little longer without saying it it’s still fairly new so I think you’re advice was very good definitely gonna take it into consideration thank you again

[Sonorous]

In my opinion, the girl should be the one like that in the relationship. When guys are like that, the girls start to lose interest. Girls prefer guys who are more indifferent.

[Nikki1989]

If it involves possessiveness, jealousy, and a need for control, then, yes.

[Asker]

No possessivess I don’t tell her what to do where to go who she can talk to etc our agreement is simple “don’t do anything that would hurt you if I did it” I read a lot about healthy communication, relationship therapy concepts, and other things a long those lines I think I’m a very good communicator and i have talked her about it and let her know I’m having strong feelings to let me know if I’m smothering by like let’s say over texting, asking for time to frequently, etc because my only concern is that I could over do it and while most of the time I feel floaty and happy and excited about us sometimes i experience negative emotions like fear of losing her, or sadness because of wishing she was with me in that moment and sometimes it’s like really depressing for me but I’m not a depressed person normally it’s like a withdrawal almost tho I wouldn’t know I don’t do drugs well weed lol

[Asker]

But I’m definitely not controlling or possessive and don’t look at my partner as someone I can boss around

[RedThread]

If someone is obsessed and controlling that's a very toxic form of love. I don't think it classifies are loving TOO much though.

[Elena85]

Yes to point smothering.

[Asker]

Im vigilant of not smothering because I know I could slip into it but I don’t think I have been she hasn’t mentioned seems happy with me and we’re not having any problems it’s just like a sadness from craving her kind of I was talking about