Girls, do you prefer a younger, more mature guy or an older, more immature person?

[LionBrasa]

[DishLady]

Truth? Here goes:

1. Some younger guys THINK they are mature (and they might be for their age group) but they're not actually mature because they simply haven't seen enough of life, the world or the universe to understand things at the level of an older mature person. So if a gal is interested in being a "teacher" to this guy both in and out of the bedroom, she'll have her work cut out for her. Just be prepared that when the guy is "done learning" he'll probably move on to some young little chippy looking for a mature man to pet her kitty and make an honest woman out of her. The end...

2. Some older guys want to be Peter Pan and fly around with every gal doing every fucking thing that pops into their mind. They're not mature and don't ever plan to be. So if a gal doesn't mind having to be the string to this guy's directionless kite, again, she's got her work cut out for her. But again... when the string snaps and the gal is exhausted the kite will just fly off on its next grand adventure.

3. Some guys are in that sweet spot in the middle. They've lived their lives and are just looking to settle down with a good woman. These guys may be few and far between. There's no particular place to meet them. But if you're lucky enough to meet one, just smile and face every day together in gratitude.

(You're super young, @LionBrasa, so I'll presume you consider yourself "mature" ... but I'm telling you now... let yourself be a kid while you're still a kid, ok? Don't try so hard to be "mature" bc you can only be a kid once. You don't want to be in your 40s and full of regret and regression, which is very common in guys around that time in their lives.)

[LionBrasa]

I understand your advice, but I think I've had a lot of experiences that have proven my maturity, I've never needed anyone to teach me anything, I've always learned on my own. Do you think it's impossible for someone younger to be an older person's teacher inside or outside the bedroom?

[DishLady]

I’m not discounting your experiences — I was like that as well at your age. But believe me when I say life is gonna slam you against a few more walls and toss you around. You’ll have to figure out the different ways to do that on your own…. And the older person you’re aiming for would have had to have done that. Better to be the “mature” one to someone closer to your own age so you can grow together. It’s a more valuable experience.

[LionBrasa]

It's just that I don't really like people my own age, I'm more attracted to older women, you know?

[DishLady]

I do know. And back when I was 18-19 I was really into this one "older" guy who was 20-21. Why? I knew that older would have been TOO OLD no matter what my book smarts or harsh childhood stories were. I was still a child for all intents and purposes. When you hit 25, let's say, that stat shifts and you can relate to women who are a little older (up to 29). Don't do the hyperactive man-crazy ~30-45 chicks. Many of them are desperately looking for husbands who are ready for the baby-making. Stick to what you know. You'll say "the girls my age are crazy" and I'll tell you... yes... yes they are... enjoy it while it lasts.

[LionBrasa]

It doesn't work that well for me, I've been with a girl who was 39 and with one my age and the experiences were totally different, the older one was very mature and talked well. I don't like this madness of my age.

[DishLady]

The older one was OLD... and seems mature to you because she has more experience. But the fact that she's with such a young guy shows now immature she is...

[DishLady]

*how immature she is. (Sorry for the typo.)

[LionBrasa]

In fact, she had no experience at all, she was shy and I was the one who asked for her number, she had been cheated on and was afraid of getting into a relationship again. So I just treated her like a woman deserves. She had more experience in life because she had more years of life than me, but in bed i was definitely her teacher.

[DishLady]

At that age? I call bs. You were just not experienced enough to see the act. She couldn't handle another man so she let a boy feel like a man with her.

I'm not saying this to upset you. I'm being honest and trying to save you a path of grief with duplicitous women.

[LionBrasa]

Relax, I could understand your typing. 😅

[LionBrasa]

It's because it's hard to prove it by text, but believe me, sex is common especially at my age. In fact, I'm the one who made you a woman. I understand your motivations and appreciate your advice, but at no time did I feel lost or anything like that, I think you will only understand me when you try it.

[DishLady]

I'm done with this chat. You're "relax" is a creepy red flag, dude. You want to sleep with folks who could be your mom, go ahead. it's not my problem. A real woman wants a real man. Period.

[petitedollbabee]

Mature, doesn’t matter the age as long as they’re above 20. I don’t date teenagers.

[LionBrasa]

19 is a teenager? And why wouldn't it go out?

[petitedollbabee]

Nine-teen. If it has teen in the word, they’re a teenager. Im in my 20’s. Dating a teenager feels predatory and gross.

[LionBrasa]

Your way of seeing things is interesting, I literally consider myself an adult for being 19, it's funny that you think I'm still a teenager, but thanks for responding.

[petitedollbabee]

Literally google it. “Teenager is a numeric term used to describe a person from the ages of 13 to 19 years”. You are still a teenager, it’s not just a thought I have. It is a fact my friend.

[LionBrasa]

Here on mine it says that they are people from 12 to 18 years old.

[petitedollbabee]

Thats not true and you know it 😂

[NicholasRedone]

If the woman wants a short term partner or a long term partner probably factors into their mate selection criteria of their brain 🧠 👀 as women

[Nikki1989]

I have always preferred older. Even at 18, 19, I prefer men over the age of 30. Most men under 30 are as dumb as a box of hammers.

[LionBrasa]

That's a good point of view.

[Anonymous]

Why does it have to be one or the other? Can't we choose based on the qualities we want instead of these random insipid choices?

[LionBrasa]

You can choose if you want, but I only gave 2 options, maybe I was a little mean to you.

[hicutegirls123]

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