Why do guys ALWAYS leave me for gorgeous women?

[Anonymous]

Okay so I think I’m okay looking. I’m not gorgeous but I’m not ugly. I don’t really dress up, I just wear cute blouses, jeans, sneakers, band shirts or flannel shirts. I don’t dress feminine but I don’t dress manly. I wear twists in my hair a lot. Anyways I’ve had a couple boyfriends but they always end up leaving me for more prettier or gorgeous women. I was called beautiful, lovely and nice looking but never hot or gorgeous. At first I didn’t care for looking “hot” or whatever. Some of my cousins or some of my aunties try to dress me up a bit more sexier and look more feminine and stylish. They said I always go for bland pictures or life. Boring. Anyways getting off topic. My recent boyfriend just cheated on me with a petite, short, gorgeous woman. We’ve dated for six months. My first boyfriend in high school (junior year) cheated on me with a skinnier girl and he couldn’t deal with having a bigger or taller girlfriend. He was like 5’6 and I was and still 5’9”. I was heavy and plus size.

Then when I was 23, my other ex who I dated for a year in a half was seeing another woman. I caught his and i immediately dumped his ass!

I am so unlucky to off love. I know my friends have been trying to hook me up with guys and I’ve met them but they’re not my type. My best friend says sometimes my type isn’t always the right one and I should give guys that are not my type a chance. I lost weight but gained it back. I went from 220lbs to 190lbs. Now I’m back to 222lbs.
What do I do?
My guy friend keeps texting me everyday and I’m sick of it. He likes me but I don’t like him and I know he wants to ask me out but he doesn’t.
He’s the only guy that texts me. I’m just going to ignore his text.

[xcheerleader_jessx]

My pastor's wife is big and tall. He is short and a little chunky. Her sister is also tall and bigger and married to slim short guy.

Losing weight opens doors in dating. Most men really don't want an obese woman. I know you are not going by your height and weight. However, you are tall. Women who are rounder around the middle and are tall have the disadvantage of being great walking displays... just like models are chosen for their height and body to display clothes. I would highly suggest to maybe seek counseling first. Get to the root of the problem as to why you can keep the weight off. What is causing you to overeat? What are you trying to hide or heal through food? Are you punishing yourself for something you did and bc you don't want to physical experience the pain (like cutters), you do it through food? Ask yourself these questions. See what it's doing to your ability of finding a partner. That could be a great motivator in itself to keep the weight off.

[xcheerleader_jessx]

*to physically experience
Sorry for all the typos. When I'm thinking fast, I tend to make spelling mistakes.

[Asker]

We’ll I’m glad those big ladies found love but I don’t think I’ll ever find love until I lose the weight. I seem to attract shorter or smaller, petite men. Big tall guy Ike shorter or women in shape.
I think short men are attracted to taller and bigger women. I attract a lot of them, never tall men.

[xcheerleader_jessx]

Then you know what you need to do. You have the power to change❤️

[Asker]

Thank you so much

[Anonymous]

Maybe your not the type of woman men want to date. Your to big and tall.

[Asker]

Well I know I’m too big and tall. I’m trying to lose weight. Guys never give big tall girls a chance.

[TheSpaceGnome]

You have to lose weight and boost your metabolism so the weight stays off.
Being overweight is terrible for dating.
Not much else you can do.

[Asker]

I guess so. Nobody likes big tall woman

[TheSpaceGnome]

I like tall women if their faces are cute and their massive boobs are face height for me when hugging.

Pretty much no one is attracted to obesity though, but weight loss exists, so thats moot.

[BarryLiverstone]

As you said the guys who are your type are the ones wanting a healthy partner. You can choose to date other guys

[Asker]

What other guys?

[BarryLiverstone]

The guys who are not your “type”. That your friends have encouraged you to date.

[Asker]

I could but I don’t want to give those guys false hopes. Sorry can’t do that.
I’m trying to lose weight anyways. Even my dad said those good looking and the most smoking men are the ones that will break my heart.

[BarryLiverstone]

Best thing is to lose weight and focus on your health. Just answering your question why the other guys left

[Asker]

Yeah you’re right.

[BarryLiverstone]

Loyal men who are in shape will be taken and in demand.

[scott04sa22]

You will find someone very soon. Also all my ex-girlfriends are engaged and all about to be wifed up soon

[Anonymous]

You answered your own question.

[Anonymous]

You need to date more loyal guys.

[Asker]

Yeah but the problem is Loyal men are ALWAYS taken!