Why is that the good looking guys I wanted either were jerks or always went for stunning girls? Why do I always attract guys I don’t want?

[Anonymous]

I struggled with weight all my life. I’m 6ft, currently 219lbs. I was fine when I was younger until I got chubbier at 8 years old. Middle school I was chubby and then I got really fat in high school. Never had a boyfriend or my first kiss (not until I was 22). I ballooned to 260lbs in sophomore year in high school. I was bullied, mocked, nobody wanted to be my friend (accept my guy friend and two best girl pals). My crushes rejecting me and go for skinner/slimmer girls. I always chased after the cute, good looking guys, but they always have cute, good looking girls. In middle school I asked my crush to the school dance and he unbelievably said yes to me. My guy friend warned me abiut him and he didn’t mean it. I didn’t listen. Then my crush humiliated me in front of everyone shouting he wouldn’t give a fat ugly girl a time of day. I cried so much! Why could I have been skinny or slim like the other girls? I asked my crush to prom junior and senior year twice and both times shut down after rejecting my guy friend who’s asked me like 10 times to go to school dances with him. My crush said he had a girlfriend and the second time he said he wouldn’t go out with a fat, overweight slob that can’t even control her weight or is lazy. His friends said he only dates 9s and 10s and was a solid 0 because I was obese. They said I should stick with someone my league and pointed at my guy friend said, “Like this fat ass next to you! He likes you! Fatties with fatties. Later fat asses!” Laughed at my face and walked away. I ended up going with my guy friend twice since my girl pals had boyfriends.

I went from 260 to 245lbs in high school. College I was 178 and I felt so much better. Had my first boyfriend, dated him for four years but cheated on me. Next boyfriend dumped me for a skinner petite girl. Now I’m single. I give up on dating. There’s no single guy that wants me.

[HighValue]

The men you want have options. You do not qualify for them. Stop being delusional and look for someone actually on your level.

[Asker]

Even if I’m not attracted to them? My two friends attacked cute, good looking guys.

[HighValue]

I find that uncomfortable truths can be more useful than comforting lies. I'll try to give you advice, but if you are easily upset, don't read it.
Even if you are in good physical shape, the majority of men won't be interested in someone as tall as you are. They may not say it to you and give other excuses, but that is true. Your best chance to have a partner that you are physically attracted to at your height is to exercise and get an athletic build, then find a man that likes a dominant woman and he wants to be submissive to you. You may fit the desirability better of men interested in that. (femdom)
The majority of regular guys won't be interested no matter what you do.

Regardless of height, the majority of men do not like overweight women. Weight on women is like height on men. The majority of women don't like short men just the same.

The easiest path would be to get with a short man 5' 8" or shorter because they have much less options, but you may not be attracted to them and resent being with them. The best option for someone your height would be to get a slightly athletic build and find a man into femdom that would actually be seriously interested.

I hope some of that is useful information for you.

[Asker]

I mean yeah that is true most men are thrown off by a tall woman. Especially women that are 6ft and over. Taller bigger woman like us have a difficult time dating and men won’t look at us only short men sometimes. My friends are 4’11 and 5’5 and they’re boyfriends are over 6ft, 6’2 and 6’5, LUCKY THEM). My first boyfriend was the same height as me, also 6’0”. My second was 5’7.
I prefer my height or taller but I attract chubby and shorter men. I don’t mind shorter it I prefer taller. Even my cousin who is 5’9 and slim has a boyfriend that’s good looking and 6’3. Why can’t I have that? I’ll just get fit and lose weight. I’m guess I have no choice but to date shorter men since no man wants a 6ft tall woman.
The shortest man that hitted on me was I think 5’3. And the tallest 6’0”. Never a man over 6ft. I went on a date with a guy that is 5’5 but didn’t last because he made comments on how huge and big I am. It’s embarrassing