Why do I attract the wrong guys?

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I live in a small town so there’s not really many places to go to meet guys. Most of the guys I meet are at work. I know it’s not a good idea to date guys at work but most of the guys are attracted to me there. They are my age and they seem nice at first. I never ask for a guys number they ask for mine. The men I deal with are men who are confident to talk to me and seem like they are into me but there is always some twist to it. Most of the time guys chase me for the longest then ask for my number but then barely ever hit me up or take hours to reply. I get to know them more and they turn out to be a holes. They cheat, lie, leave me for someone else, taken or married and I found out I was the side chick, etc. it’s completely the opposite when I met them.

I just got out of a long 7 months relationship with a guy who ended with cheating me. I work with him but we both work different shifts and never seen each other for months at work. Throughout the whole relationship he was shady about everything and had so many red flags. I always felt he had a girlfriend. He didn’t want to be seen with me when there was nothing wrong with me and I never had anyone try to hide me in my life ever. He went days without talking to me but blamed it on working and being exhausted. The biggest red flag was him trying to have sex with me the first time we met up and I had no idea he was going to do that. On the phone he would mention us doing tons of other stuff but when I got there sex was his main motive. The only reason why I continued to talk to him because I didn’t want to feel used for sex. I don’t consider this a relationship or him as a ex but he does.


My mom always tells me I have bad taste in men. She wants me to date smart guys who are like doctors or lawyers but I don’t think have qualifications for that and guys like that probably won’t look my way. I will say this, I do go for guys I find attractive and focus more on looks

Why do I attract the wrong guys?
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