Why am I less attractive to guys and they always choose another girls?

[Anonymous]

Why do not guys ever choose me? This question I think can be actual for a lot of girls, my case is not unique. So, first of all, I take care on my appearance and self-confidence so enough guys are attracted to my look and compliment me daily. I am not over sexual or vulgar, quite natural, healthy, sporty and hygienic. Always with make up, nice clothes, hairstyle, manicure etc. I’m successful in my work as a scientist in one mathematical area and I like art, with the guys I liked we always had great deep conversations about everything, no forbidden topics. I’m listening to them and being polite and feminine. We had a lot of fun, they laugh to my jokes. I spend a lot of time with my big circle of friends. I like organizing adventures, it’s never boring. I never appeared to be desperate, clingy, they all say that I’m very independent. Maybe sometimes i am not very flirty, but it’s because I’m a bit shy (imagine being single for whole life). They start chasing me easily but then before something serious starts happening I discover they already are seeing another girl and I’m not priority. I want to be loved too and I’m willing to improve myself. If there is something important missing in me, please, let me know your guess, I’m here to listen to painful truth. And by the way I had sexual sparks with all of them (however we never had sex, but attraction was strong before things end up). I’ve been living my life for myself and now I am ready for love and everyone seems to be talking to groups of girls simultaneously. And something in them makes them so much more attractive to love than me. Thanks for reading that!

[PrudentGuy]

Since you're good with math, let's do a little mathematical analysis.

1) Assume there are equal number of guys and girls who can meet and have sex within a certain population.

2) Assume most people have max 150 friends of the opposite gender who desires sex, be it ONS, FB or in a relationship.

3) assume we are all promiscuous. (Def: a promiscuous person is a person who has sex with more than one person.)

The logic:
Since a promiscuous guy can have sex with more than one girl, and with 150 eligible girls of all sorts (including hookers),

If he has sex once a week, it'll take him about 3 years to have sex with all of them.

Wow! See that, its not you, its him! You're "eaten", now an "old shoe" (sorry being so crude, my coworker use those terms to describe girls who went to bed with them).

He moves on and continues his promiscuous lifestyle.

Hence if you want the guy to choose you, learn to "play his game". You're good at many things, but you totally missed the point when comes to "sexual" relationship and "romantic" relationship.

[Asker]

Thank you for your answer, however, “an old shoe” term is inapplicable to me, as I’m a virgin and it was my choice. Some guys I was really into wanted to sleep with me even more after discovering this fact, however, I need mutual love, trust and commitment for sex. And this “old shoe” concept is so mean, no person deserves to be referred this way. 🤕

[PrudentGuy]

Ya I know. I kept quiet when my colleagues told how they "ate" their girls. And when another said he'll be dating so and so, the former replied she's my "old shoe".

But hey, wish you well and good luck with getting a guy who respects you as a person more than your sex.

[PrudentGuy]

Anyway, if you're really a virgin at late 20s, then I would like to applaud your determination and endurance.

Its definitely quite a feat and showed that you're a person of character.

The guy whom you are going to choose is very lucky 😁😁😁

[Asker]

Thank you a lot, wish you all the best too! I had already found guys who liked my appearance, who liked me personality and one unique who was full package himself and he liked both. Also he liked his old female friend 😂 be happy!

[Well_Wisher]

I believe that being less attractive is like having a upper hand. Being attractive makes people date you more not because of your personality but for your looks. Being less attractive may give you a higher chance of find a person who would like you for who you are rather than how you actually look. I don't know whether this theory really works or not but I really think it works.

[Silvius]

Men are affraid of intelligent women