I have adhd, autism, and ocd. What is it like to date a neurotypical woman?

[Anonymous]

[SteveSmith1985]

Hmm... well that's a bit hard to answer for a few reasons.

The first is that neurotypical women is such a huge category with so much variation, that it's impossible for anyone to say what a neurotypical woman is (as a single stereotype or generalization).

Neurotypical women have all sorts of different personalities and values. You can find women who are amazing people who are kind, caring, and loyal. There are other women who are unkind, disloyal and treat guys terribly. There are so many different personalities that you can (at best) create some broad categories (yourself, such categories don't exist as something agreed upon).

So, dating a good neurotypical woman is going to be night-and-day different than dating a differernt neurotypical woman. You really can't generalize that broadly.

THat would be like asking "what's it like to date a brunette." The category is so big, that there are so many different kinds of people who have brown hair, that it becomes a meaninglessly broad category.

The other problem is, I don't have any point of reference for where you're coming from. I cannot put myself in your shoes very well. So I don't know the ways in which neurotypical women might appear different from your perspective. I don't know what you might find you notice because a girl is neurotypical.

I do have some advice. Keep in mind that I am not all that knowledgeable on autism or ocd in any meaningful way. But...

I think you might be making a mistake looking at it as you on one side and neurotypical girls on the other. With the difference being the neurotypicality. I don't think that's how you're likely to experience women and dating.

I would think that, essentially, you should approach dating like everybody else. You may think differently, but I don't see why any of this should be different. I won't pretend it won't be more challanging for you. But it's still the same basic principle.

It's a matter of finding the RIGHT girl for you. You aren't looking to date a neurotypical woman. You're just looking to date a girl who you like, and who seems to like you. Period.

That is what everyone else does. And It's not easy. But it's a game of individuals (or those categories you create for yourself).

For example, for me: A girl would have to be looking for something serious.

-honesty in a woman is really key to me

-someone who is affectionate

-someone who I find funny

-Someone kindhearted

-Someone who seems to share my values.

That's sort of the basics.

But just look at dating (or rather women) the same way we all do. It's a particular girl you're talking about. She's going to have some similarities to some women... but she's her own person, and should be judged on an individual basis.

Sorry this can't really clear anything up for you. But I hoped something in here ends up being useful to you

[Summeroflove]

As I’ve said before they are all different, some may be more compatible then others.

[SueShe]

I don't know what it is to date a neurotypical woman but given your list of ailments and the fact that people nowadays are so superficial and don't want to invest into a serious relationship, I fear that you may have some problems finding the right person that is willing to face 3 different health conditions.

One of them is already challenging enough but 3?

Autism, depending on the level may be the easiest one to come by. If you have autism level one, then there should not be too many issues. I see the most problems with OCD because that is probably the most difficult aspect in a relationship and the hardest to handle when you live together.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t know as someone who has a. d. d learning disabilities, anxiety , complex motor tics, ptsd , depression and autism.

[Opinion Owner]

thanks for mho

[Anonymous]

Good luck with all of that.

[Asker]

What do you mean by that

[Anonymous]

Doubtful you’ll find one willing to date.

[Asker]

Why is that?