Can only say what its like for me and how I have perceived the challenges for the women I have been with.
Its hard. I sometimes need my space. So I become reclusive, but I will still want sex or I'll randomly want to go do something. So it super confusing emotionally for the other half. It got to be the biggest strain on them having to deal with me wanting to be on my own but also intimate. There is the opposite to his where I feel complete euphoria and love being around them so sex just feels more natural.
I don't hide away from it if someone asks what's up I'll be like I'm just depressed, I can't be happy, there is nothing you can do. Then I'll just carry on doing what I am doing, continue to go out of my way for others and get with the day. Which is time for people who are my friends or colleges etc. But for my partners it must have been pretty crappy the will say to me its fine, but I reckon there where times where I tried their patience heavily. One minute I am elated, attentive, happy life is good then something remotely annoying or just random will trigger a massive down and then I'm just negative or just not enthused or worse, I still try to be attentive to their needs and wants but I just feel hollow.
I am very good at fighting through the pain and uselessness my mood swings provide me, most people around would never even think to believe I was unhappy. Most would describe me as funny, extroverted and sociable. In reality I can be stood in a room full of people with a smile on my face but I would feel so alone.
In some relationships it was unworkable. The person just wasn't able to deal or comprehend the mood changes.
I got close once to a perfect relationship for me at least where the other person just got it. But as people we were too different and we broke up.
I guess I would conclude that it does depend on the person. Don't avoid them but see how it goes and see if its manageable. Its just about constantly balancing emotions and life. If you can do that for someone who is worth doing that for, then them being bipolar isn't a factor.
If its not something you can do then there is no shame in not pursuing a relationship with them as you just aren't meant to be.
Im bipolar. I've had great relationships that ended but none ended because of symptoms of my condition. But I've learned to have an incredible amount of self control and have taught myself to not be impulsive, unlike a lot of people who use bipolar disorder as a crutch to write off their actions the whole im bipolar its not my fault its my brain argument is played out. Once people start to take responsibility for their actions and become proactive in controlling their reactions then they won't be so toxic. I get depressed sometimes i get extremely manic more often than not, i get angry, i have insecurities, but its the way i react and deal with those feelings that separate me from some other bipolar people.
Thanks for the detailed response. Is it difficult to get diagnosed? I ask because someone I know "thinks" they're bipolar but never pursued a diagnosis.
Yea its difficult, and is often times misdiagnosed. Its also difficult to medicate properly and can be exhausting in that regard. Thats why i used my own method of personal accountability to help myself
Yea I've been diagnosed since i was 16 or 17. Since the diagnosis I've seeked counseling. Been committed into a facility for being a danger to others, and been on several medications which i stopped trying after the first year because i realized it wasn't the route for me and was financially and mentally exhausting. Its really a personal thing, i view it like this, we as human beings have some level of individuality in the way that we all have different temperaments and we all react differently. Bipolar disorder is nothing but a chemical imbalance. I look at it as an enhancor, it amplifies ones emotions and by effect their personality. While the emotions that it enhances may be uncontrollable the way a person reacts can be controlled by the individual. Just takes discipline and personal accountability
Thanks Dwayne. I really like your perspective. It's really positive and the fact that you see it as an emotion enhancer is kinda beautiful. You see things in a way that most wouldn't and in a way it makes you one of a kind. More people should think like that.
I just educate myself on things. a lot of things that people view as a negative can really be used as a positive its all about approach and mindset. You have to use the tools your given to make the best out of any situation
Exactly. But even further there's no real answer to a question like whats it like to date someone whos bipolar, its all individual cases i would think. Because everyones different. I feel like that would be like me saying whats it like to date a black woman or an arab woman or a fat chick. No real answer just a bunch of peoples personal experiences which can vary so greatly because everyones personality is different. Ima stop rambling now lol thanks for the quick chat
Ramblings the best. Too many people clam up when their perspective can make a difference. Yes the question is general and it's because I wanted people's testimony's... Like yours. You've definitely she'd some light for me 👌
Yes it's terrible... I've just recently ended a relationship of a year and some months because he would be a lovable and nice then ten seconds later he'd be calling me cuss words and saying this and that which isn't true just to get more mad at me. He was also emotionally abusive. I've never cried so much in my life. But I did and still do put up with his behavior because I love him even tho we aren't together any more.
It's basically mood swings between extreme happiness and clinical depression. In the depressive period, it can be severe, suicidal etc. The euphoria doesn't last long and you crash. But if they're on a mood stabilizer like lithium they act more normal day to day
Pretty hard. In bad times there will be multiple fights a day or they won't talk to you for days and will become super clingy and get pissed easy. Basically a lot of emotional stuff and mood swongs
It's a little worrying and will be a rollercoaster ranging from amazing to pretty shitty, but if you're willing to out in the time for patience, long and care it will be worth it. My personal experience was with a girl where she was living with bipolar disorder and we dated for a month but I don't know if this was because of her bipolar disorder, but she had began to become distant and stopped talking to me all together. She also preluded to guys sending her gifts. I later found out this was a common sympton of people with bipolar disorder, she had finally come back and I wanted to talk to her and let her know how I felt about it and asked her if she still wanted to continue our relationship and she said she didn't know. I suggested we take a break and from then on we both agreed because it was hard when they would go from loving you to hating your guts even though they don't mean it. It really is something that is an experience I will never forget.
I have a bipolar disorder and ADHD.. guess who's single whenever the depressive phase starts and holds on for 3 months.. guess who loses all his friends he got when he was in his normal phase and loses them whenever he gets into his manic phase for another 3 months.. Yes thats right.. Its me.. it sucks.. my only friend is my father.
Yeah, I guess the first time someone gets to experience me in my phases is the worst. But when they give me the chance to show them that I try my hardest to get it under control and fight against it, I think I wouldn't be that bad of a human..
depend on their condition. certain trauma caused them to go fkn crazy moodswings happy 1min 5min raging at you for NO reason. Only a certain group of people can talk to them. from my experience bipolar+bipolar dating = TROUBLE (maybe ok if it's light) it'ls curable anyone
well it's because they feel like 2-10x what normal people feel. this is for bipolar1(the worst one). so if your sad, they're prob on suicide watch. if they're happy, then they're very chatty/eurphoric/wants to randomly go somewhere for the thrill? (mania episode) depression episode = wrist cutting is common/multiple suicide atempts/cry randomly. They even go psychosis/paranoia for months if not treated. Men (undiagnosed) are the worst.
Do you know what they're diagnosed with? there's 3 types 1,2, c... something. 1 is the most hardcore, i think 2 is similar but less, c... watever it's called is very light
eg. this bipolar guy (heavy) - had fight with his girlfriend, goes home tells everyone he's going to kill himself (this is the first date ).
they can be light now but can full extreme if they can't cope with trauma (loss of job/breakups/cheated on. You have to help them cope. And talk to them constantly. if they're on meds and have regular therapy. they'll be ok. it's treatable.
oh from my experience from dating a chick who wasn't even diagnosed until 10 years later. i told her aniversary was just a number as a joke. She took it straight up. My emotions are a bit "numbed" so i can be blunt and assertive, but i can also read them really well. That's why my personality clicks with em. they feel like someone understands them. This calms them down to a normal state
I told the person I know who's thinks they're bipolar that it wouldn't make a difference if they are because everyone's got something and they took it as me being indifferent and insensitive to the topic but really it's that I'm not gentle and sweet. What I meant was that I would care about them regardless. We're the same in that way. I'm straightforward and not used to catering to someone's emotions
i know exactly what you mean. just understand their condition, it's very hard for some people. For me it's not too bad, cos I'm more experienced with the illness (friend of 10 years have bipolar). If it's a guy, expect a lot of rage and woman hitting, make sure he takes mood stabalizers and goes therapy. psychotherapy is the CURE. the meds are just there to help him cope.
YEAH. She was nice and normal at first, but then she started getting angry at the littlest shit, and she started insulting me, but then when I insulted her back, she got angry. And she got angry when I would talk to other girls, but she thought she should have the right to flirt with other guys. And when I tried to cut off contact with her, her and her entire friends and family cyber stalked me for over a year and threatened me with death.
You live and learn. Sometimes you have to be the bigger person. I don't know if I could have a long term relationship with someone like this because it's very hard for me not to retaliate when someone insults me or belittles me.
@SidKnee So I'm just supposed to stay quiet while she shits on me. Fuck that. That's the thing, and wanted me to accept her the way she is, even though she didn't with me. She was a psycho. She abused and starved her dog and drank her own blood. Her mother was the only one who realized she needed psychiatric treatment, but she refused. Just trust me. Stay away from those people.
It IS. Because bipolar people usually just have mood swings, although they can also be violent. But she told me she's bipolar and has social anxiety disorder. But yes, she had something more going on.
Dude... People in my family have Bipolar disorder. Yes, they can be difficult at times, but if this person actually does have Bipolar disorder, then their treatment isn't working.
Whatever the case, I wouldn't tolerate that behavior either.
However, my point is that I'm infuriated that you, and so many others here, everybody who has Bipolar disorder by diagnosing them yourselves despite not having an M. D. and specializing in psychiatry. (About 10+ years of college).
In addition, lots of people proclaim themselves to be Bipolar when they also have no training.
Horrible experience, I wouldn’t recommend any man or woman to go out with someone with bi polar disorder. My ex had it. They might seem nice at first but later on the mood swings come in and it’s like she’s a totally different person now. She’ll also get violent and yell a lot when things don’t go her way. She also will constantly blame you for her mental disorder. And to top it all off she will constantly lie and she cheated on me. Never again.
just not your type that's all. :) bipolar people are very calm and collected around me. YES they cheat a lot. MOODSWING CRAZY SHIT I KNOW. fkn break my laptop smash the window stuff like i understand. Even thinks im trying to set them up when they're hallucinating shit. and attempt suicide a few times a week. That's why you need to make sure they get meds and therapy. Then it won't be too bad.
Yes it’s absolutely hell! She’s all cuddly one minute then next she snaps like a snake. Nothing I do made her happy. I made her breakfast in bed once and she threw the pancakes at me because I used the wrong plate that doesn’t have fucken flowers on it. It goes beyond that. Never again will I do it.
Many of my relatives have bipolar, it runs in the family, so I don't seem to have any symptoms so I may not have it. I've also had a few friends who suffer from it. I don't know what it's like to date someone with bipolar, but if my grandparents' marriage is an indication, it must be miserable.
biopolar + bipolar relationship if its really bad, they fkn trigger eachother's into crazy phases. Usually ends up worst if untreated. It's quite easy to spot the signs of an undiagnosed bipolar person if you ask them about their mental history and any trauma in their life. The signs of FULL FLEDGE bipolar won't show until trauma trigger it.
Okay first of all bipolar disorder is not as violent as these people think. I suffer from bipolar disorder and I know its very hard on my boyfriend. One day I'm very cuddly and i have high libido but maybe once a week or less i am incredibly depressed and would sooner cut my own arm off than have sex. I know It's tough on him but we are still very very happy together
some therapy and mood stabilisers and you're good :)
man 30% of the threads over at r/suicide watch are people on bipolar suffering a temporary depression episode... threads like "3 mins away from killing myself"... creeps me out
Yes i did and yes it depends on the person. You might face difficulties with them but u gotta stand strong by their side when they are in struggle if u for then u will see midyear beautiful person out of them and also u will save them
My cousin dated a bipolar person before. He seemed like the nicest guy in the world to me. But she later got scared for her life after he stopped taking his medication and started threatening her.
Yeah I don't know... Based on the other comments seems like most of the relationship will focus mostly on catering to them. Definitely have to be self-less.
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