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If you have BP, at what point do you tell your so or a potential partner that you have this disorder? Or do you ever tell them at all?
Will you date someone who has bipolar disorder? Why/why not?
I did before and never again. I don't want to sound callous. It was maybe even partially compassion and sympathy that got me tangled up in that former relationship. But I'm too tired. I don't have the energy for the mood swings and the abuse and the constant shit tests. I thought I had the patience and strength before, and after a year I didn't. I wanted someone who would enrich my life just as much as I would hopefully enrich hers. Perhaps if she's bipolar and that's well-treated and under control, I wouldn't mind, but I'm done with taking the whole bipolar thing as an excuse for abusing me.
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No. Too great the risk of violent interactions. Besides, I'm a sensitive guy and she might damage me emotionally.
That depends on where their mental health is. I have bipolar and ik there are different degrees of how bad it can be. I've learned to manage and cope with it healthily and most people are surprised when they find out but i also know I wasn't always good at managing it. So it depends on how good they are at coping with it
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I would. They can be some of the sweetest people you'll ever meet. Same as any other people and i think that most dissorders inc bipolar can be learned to live with.
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Absolutely not. I have been married to someone who was mentally ill and my life was consumed with responding to her craziness. I never want to live with that again!
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No, I have known someone with it and would not date someone with it.
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Only if well managed with medication and regular psychologist visits.
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Bipolar is a really difficult disorder. I dont think I could.
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I’m married to a guy with bipolar and my daughter has it too.
The simplest way to describe bipolar is having a seizure in the emotional center of your brain. Unlike a “regular” seizure your not flopping on the floor while you lose all physically control. Your emotions are being triggered incorrectly and you have no idea why you feel the way you do!
It’s NOT easy! You have to be able to be the strong one in the relationship at the drop of a hat because they physically and mentally just can’t at times.
It takes a toll of you, when you’re the one dealing with everything and their mental health issues on top of it there’s no one left to help/support you.
I’m not going to say it hasn’t been worth it though, with proper treatment it can be managed well just like any other disease. After 20 years I can say that he has one or two bad days every few months where he just can’t carry the weight of the world anymore. Then I step into hold it for him until he’s ready again. If I were to ever find myself single I would not seek out anyone with a mental disorder but I would not turn the down because of one either. You know how hard it is to find someone who truly has no mental health issues? Diagnosed or not 😂
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I won't lie: When someone blows a fuse around me, I don't stick around for the argument. I get up and leave. Even if I was the one they blew a fuse over.
That being said, if fuses get blown constantly, I'll be getting very fit with all the moving I'll be doing.
Jokes aside (and I only joke to cope with this kind of heavy topic) My heart wouldn't be able to take it. I am sensitive to emotions. If she says in a single outburst that she hates me, and I care for her, it is guaranteed to wreck me. I know me, and its why I block so many people from entering my personal life. If they look like trouble, blocked. I know once they get past the block, I have no more defenses. I am a very honest person. Even my lies are just slightly bent truth.
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Well, considering I have a variant of bipolar disorder that’s a bit complicated. It’s possible that because we have similar symptoms and experienced that we would understand eachother in a way most others couldn’t and thus would get along well. It’s also possible that our symptoms might fuel eachothers and we might just make eachother worse. Ultimately it would probably depend on the person and how we got along.
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no. no offense to bipolar people but they tend to emotionally drain and drag their partners down into the abyss of depression with them. also i heard there's no good way of coping with it as a partner and really no way of healing for the one with bipolar... so i'll keep my hands off it for my own mental healths sake.
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No, I tried it and held as tight as I could, even though I was getting emotionally abused most of the time, I didn't wanna let go and wanted to stay with her the long haul, she cut me off though, until she told me the most hurtful personal things anybody has ever told me, I just couldn't anymore, never again.
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I have it. I told her early early on... there were some tough moments in the past but it's otherwise under control and I would also definitely date myself if I were a woman, or I'd also date a very attractive woman with BD. It might even be more interesting and a source of passion for the couple if it's under control and well managed... i would say it all depends on how severe it is or the symptoms
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Nope. I know how they work with snd without meds. with meds, they get mentaly dulled lacks sex drive and other thing's that's needed in a relationship.
Without thay are to caught up in their cycles that are mentaly draining.
Also. Have enough with myself and a child there I have to counter act her mothers shit on a regular basis to get her of her back. -
No, my ex had it and she left me. I won’t go in to details but she loved me more then anything and had been talking about our wedding and shit like that then something bad happened with her family n she left me saying she didn’t love me anymore. That was all within 20 days by the way
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I have it myself and I just don't see it being compatible because of that. For the whole dating thing I only tell them about mental health related once I feel we both genuinely are interested in each other and want to be in a relationship.
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Well, a girl I dated who said she was "bi" was not talking about being bipolar, but I digress...
There's no variation of identifying as "bi" that I am okay with anymore. The bisexual I went out with along with the several I have met since then have thoroughly ruined that for me, and a bipolar roommate I dealt with more recently convinced me I couldn't ever live with someone like that permanently. - 1.2K opinions shared on Dating topic.
I have hung out with women who have bipolar. They can be real fun to hang out with when they are on the upswing. However dating is different altogether. I don't think I could.
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No. I could never. I dont think I could cope being with someone with a mental illness. You'd always have to be strong off them and when things get tough they crack.
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It’s all down to the individual. My sister has Bi Polar and how any man can bare to have a relationship I do not know
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I am currently, have before, and I have it myself. I think it's easier to manage if you have some innate understanding of it. I told him before we started going out, and he did the same.
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No, been there done it, for now on every girl i meet i check her medicine cabinet , hot going through that hell again
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yes , as long as she loves me then it doesn't matter , i'll be glad to love her back and do my best to make her happy for the rest of our lives
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