Is it worth dating someone with bipolar?

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I liked him but sometimes he acts very hyper and unlogical that's how he told me he has bipolar. I am not sure its severity though. Is it worth it or waste of time?

sammi · Accepted Answer

Deciding whether to pursue a relationship with someone who has bipolar disorder really depends on a few personal factors and the nature of their condition.

It’s not just about whether it's "worth it" because relationships aren’t just about weighing benefits and drawbacks; they're about feelings, mutual support, and growth. Maybe have a candid conversation with him about how he manages his condition, what he needs from a partner during hyper or down phases, and how you both can support each other.

Every relationship has its challenges, and while being with someone who has bipolar disorder may require a bit of extra understanding and patience, it can absolutely be rewarding. As with any relationship, communication, mutual respect, and care are the pillars. If these are present, and you feel emotionally connected and happy with him, then that’s a solid basis to build on.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

As I read on all these comments & also the question about this male who had been possibly trying to find a more appropriate way , in a relationship with male felt hurt and also embarrassed about how he had to tell this female who , makes me feel like you did not care much since you place in yout main question about it being a " waste of time " which makes many others who deal with other on uncurable mental health and even cancer. Which makes me feel sorry for this male who probably would rather not want to be judged by some person who he might care about. Sorry if I told how I view this question.

laurieluvsit · Accepted Answer

No. Not serious dating.

I have it and I would not get serious with anyone for their benefit.

I don't want to do that to anyone.

I may have a different subset of it than he has but none of them end well for normal people.

Is it worth dating someone with bipolar?

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

From my personal experiences dating a bipolar girl , my advice to you is Run , I know it’s something they can’t really control but sadly you will never feel happy or content for a long period of time , because the second they have an episode , you honestly don’t know if it’s their bipolar talking or it’s actually them talking , It leaves a constant question mark over your head , basically not knowing what they are saying is legit or just their mental disorder is talking. I honestly felt like I was in a relationship with Dr Jekyll Mr Hyde , She would be sweet and loving and caring to me then out of no where I was a piece of shit , and she hated me with a passion l. I would walk away and then she come chasing me back , after a few times of this happening I threw in the towel and said fuck this

V_Injector · Accepted Answer

Waste of time. You will be dealing with that bullshit continuously and instead of owning it and making changes, he gave it a name and owns it as a part of his identity. It's not going to change and that's a major sign that it's never going to change.

You really want to be dealing with that long term? Imagine growing old with this guy where the looks fade and the mutual physical attraction is gone... would you enjoy that behavior out of him? I mean if you already don't like it, then I'm going to say you won't like it later either.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Do you anticipate having children in the future?

Flatmanlewis · Answer

No. It was not in my experience. I dated a woman who was diagnosed bipolar disorder and it was horrible. The manic phase was a wild ride - sometimes fun and sometimes bad - but the depressed phase was absolutely horrible. There was no predictability to it and either phase could last for weeks or months. When she was on a good phase she would stop taking meds since she self-diagnosed she didn’t need them (since she felt good) so when the bad days hit they hit hard. Meds take time to have an affect so she would start taking them but it was pointless at that point. It was like trying to put on a life jacket after you’re already drowning.

I eventually had to walk away and it was a wasted period of time in my life. The unpredictably & instability was horrible.

Having said all that, if someone is mature and realistic about their situation AND follows the treatment plans as directed, then it probably could be an entirely different experience.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

I’m not a fan of the term “special needs”. Having needs isn’t special. Everyone has needs and if you consider that most of us have needs that are somewhat to completely different from other people’s needs, then everyone’s needs are special.
Intimacy is trusting someone with your special needs, and them trusting you with theirs. As long as you don’t expect to be able to “fix” them and they don’t expect to be fixed by you, recognized disorders are no different than sexual proclivities or emotional vulnerabilities. It’s just a different set of needs. As long as you can accept that, help to fulfill some of their needs, bring joy to their life and you believe that they can contribute meaningfully to the joy in your life, then it’s “worth it” to date them. Too many people go into relationships expecting too much and communicating too little. THAT is the point of failure, not the nature of their needs.

ZackBan · Answer

I'm gonna point out a sad but honest truth:
You probably shouldn't.

While it might seem unfair that someone with such a disease goes through life alone the reality is it's a setup for failure.
And walking into a relationship knowing beforehand that it can blow up at any minute due to an existing problem is a horrible idea. You'll end up hurt or hurting him or both.

My advice is: don't martyr yourself out of pitty to someone's misery. Look for a healthy relationship.
Better for all involved

bobalife · Answer

It’s quite sad to read the huge number of people here who shamed/discouraged dating someone just because they’re diagnosis with mental health or one bad experience. Fun fact, many people probably has it without bothering to get seen and have a proper diagnosis. Someone can be really amazing and still has mental health disorder rather it’s spoken/unspoken. I sure have met many.

it’s honestly up to you girl if you’re willingly to be patient and wanting to learn more about him, his mental health, and if you guys are compatible. Everyone who has mental health diagnosis (in this case specifically BD) is never actually the same as it’s case by case, especially if he’s able to managed his own symptoms or wants to get treated. There’s more to a person than just one aspect of them and in this case it is his diagnosis. And no, mental health disorders isn’t “fixed” nor “curable” but it can be managed for sure.

exitseven · Answer

I dated somebody that had been abused by her parents as a kid and her brother did weird stuff to her too. I think she was bi polar and maybe an alcoholic. She would be a really sweet kid most of the time buy every few weeks she would just go crazy. She would say the most mean things to me and sometimes she would hit me. once she bit me so hard I still have the scar. After she smashed up her car I wanted her to see a shrink. She got so mad she would not answer my calls and she moved and told her old roommates not to tell me where she went. I never saw her again. If she would have gone to counseling i would have stuck it out with her.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

I have dated women who are bipolar. However I hesitate getting "too involved" unless they are under professional care. They have a tendency to do nutty things that screw up their lives. They can be fun to hang out with though. They can be very friendly and animated. Taking them places where they've never been is fun because they see everything and comment on how fun it is to be there, etc.

theungirl · Answer

As some who probably Bipolar, not unless they are actively going to therapy or getting help. I personally wouldn't want to have a committed relationship until I can fix myself. I don't even like my own presence so I wouldn't burden anyone else with mine if I have the choice. Though someone who is actively getting help would be able to control there emotions since they are learning techniques to help self regulate.
Mental illness doesn't define a person unless they let it.

Reem12345reem · Answer

if u don't have the mental/emotional capacity and space for that then don't
If ur sure that u can stay calm and it won't effect u (which in most cases isn't true) than no
And the fact that he asking that also means that u don't have that ability to handle him so no
And u shouldn't feel obliged to that bc we all have our own problems so if ur not comfortable than no

SolitarySolace · Answer

No, I once dated/was in a relationship with a woman who had both borderline personality and bipolar disorder. I don’t think I was ever more unhappy in my life than when I was with her. The only thing that kept me with her was the fact that she was drop dead gorgeous… which just made it hurt that much more when she cheated on me.

Anonymous · Answer

How old is he? Usually, it's worse when they are younger because that is when one of their symptoms starts. Usually, they have to do something about it in their early 20s. But if he is doing nothing about I would say you should just leave because he doesn't care how it affects the people around him.

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

I did it. I wouldn't recommend it. She was beautiful and she could be so sweet but man she could become so irritable and so depressed so quickly. It was really hard to handle but I was head over heels back then.

I wouldn't call it a waste of time but there definitely needs to be an awareness of the situation (mine she was not medicated anymore which didn't help). It won't be easy but if the person is special it can be worth it

SYTHOX · Answer

Yes if she/he has bipolar they might has cold. at least say 'they're bipolar' and they don't "have bipolar", of course being bipolar can be hard for people to be with sometimes but I'm sure its worth it for some. Mental problems aren't for everyone though

Lynx122 · Answer

Well does he have meds? I live next to a guy who has bipolar and he's very calm. But other people can be unpredictable. Does he have medication? If it's in a manageable range I'd give it a try you can always still break up.

Anonymous · Answer

It's not everyone's cup of tea because sometimes it can be hard for both parties involved. It has its own challenges. But, it's ultimately up to you. Do you love him a lot? Do you want to stay with him no matter what? Do you both want to work through it together? Good luck.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Nah I wouldn't my sister has it and is always hot and cold. Sometimes she can be really nice other times she is a fucking psychopath with anger issues.

PointlessNonsenseGuy · Answer

Only you can answer that. How do you feel after a night out with him? If you feel good, you should probably keep dating him. If you feel emotionally drained, you should probably let him go.

Mr_twoface · Answer

Do the reasearch and read all about dating someone with bipolar, see the signs when dating him, and let your gut and heart tell you what is the right path for you.

kaozpiper · Answer

It's only okay if he/she has control over it. I might have it, but I've trained myself to be able to control it when I'm in front of people, especially someone I care about. It comes out when I'm alone so that's still something to work on, but it'll never come out publicly.

molonski2 · Answer

Having known a number of bipolar people , the answer is NO , it will all end in massive pain , so very frustrating and all over the shop.

hellothere90 · Answer

No. I only date to marry so when I'm deciding who to date, I'm thinking of future kids. Do I want my future kids inheriting bipolar or any disability? no, I don't. Hard pass from me.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I personally would not go for that. It takes a very special personality to handle dating someone with Bipolar, and I am absolutely NOT that person.

Anonymous · Answer

Telling you from experience of in the past “talking to” a bipolar guy and having been with a man with anger management issues…. its not worth it at all. You will be better off without him

Iron_Man · Answer

You have to have a lot of patience because believe me, you will have to deal with it, but if you really love the Person and they are loyal to you and they mean well it’s worth it

wiltingrosepetal · Answer

You'll need a lot of patience. If you're don't have that, you shouldn't attempt that relationship

DextroShade · Answer

I would never do it, because these people have habit of wrecking their own lives and I wouldn't want mine wrecked along with theirs.

RossyBoi · Answer

No, it's not worth it. Be friends with him instead.

whistlingwh0res · Answer

Are you a dumb rich? Otherwise it’s not worth it. He wants dumb rich girl.

JacobJordan · Answer

Medication for it is readily available.

laly520 · Answer

its not for everyone

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Bi-polar what?

itsclearlynicholas · Answer

Hmm. I'm not sure 😁😊

dudeinohio · Answer

It's ok if they are on their meds.

Anonymous · Answer

Of you require stability. No.

jahaims · Answer

That is for you to decide

Vick2828 · Answer

If it's rare then yeah but just be careful

abc3643 · Answer

NOOOOOOOOOOOOO

Anonymous · Answer

That would be interesting.

Anonymous · Answer

Stay away... far away

austinbooth · Answer

I believe it is

JayBones2469 · Answer

Nope.

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn't.

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