How can I force myself to be happy for my friends and get out of this live triangle?

[JaneDoe95676187]

I am victim of a classic & frankly, ridiculous love triangle. I met a guy who I had an instant connection with & we became very close. Over time he inadvertently introduced me to a girl who he had previously had talking stage with, who I also became close witth instantly. My flirtations with this guy eventually turned into me being friendzoned & dubbed his best friend although we had a conversation that in a nutshell established that he cares about me so much that I am his best friend & he is also sexually attracted to me & would love to bed m but would not want to risk not having me in his life by having a relationship (which I had figured was a load of crap) & at first the other girl was also friendzoned due to trust issues from problems in their history

things took a turn when a couple of nights ago he was drunk calling me from states away. I had to help him out of a sticky situation. That night he told me several times he is in love with me & wants me to have his children (I figured it was just drunk words…) the next morning before he boarded his plane home & didn’t remember the night before, he was asking for a play by play of what happened & what he had said to me came up. He said it was true & that he is truly in love with me romantically but doesn’t want to risk it. In another conversation a day later he said he is in love me & who I am as a person that in another life we are lovers but in this one we are best friends.

Meanwhile with this other girl he expressed wanting to maybe see where things go in about a year if they’re both still single. She told me this & said she wants to ask him what about me…? Because she & I have been very open & tell each other everything about our sides in all of this. I told her not to ask about me or factor me in & to go be happy with him. Even though the thought kills me.

I want to force myself to be happy for them & thrive on my own. But I don’t want to jeopardize the friendship (s) that I

[DecentMan]

Well

ypu should think about you a bit - if you want him for yourself then make that happen - it’s natural to battle to get what you want and you should do that? Why back off and be the loser?
be honest to her as well and say actually you would like to be with him too and you will try your best to win him over - be strong? She is doing the same and is probably aware he likes you..

[abc3643]

My God! If triangles are coming alive, God help us if squares, pentagons, or, Heaven forbid, circles become alive.