Why I’m I Always Stuck In The Friend Zone?

[DeadInside1134]

About every 3 months or so I will go out on dates. When I take them out on dates it usually last a week. before they put me in the friend zone. Why? It’s really frustrating getting attached to someone thinking there’s a connection between us. Then turns into nah I’m not interested but we could remain friends and hang out. But I’m not looking for friends I have plenty. I’m looking for my partner In life. Before you ask no I haven’t had sex with any of them it’s been 5 years since the last time.

[Anonymous]

You're probably a nice, reliable stable guy and most women in this culture are looking for emotional roller-coasters. But if you never flirt, tease, or push the conversation boundaries to a sexual nature, or never present yourself as a sexual being then that may be the reason. A lot of guys treat a woman like a friend and then wonder why she sees them as only.. a friend.

[DeadInside1134]

Oh no I flirt, tease and edge them a lot but I also tell them if they really want it they have to claim me as theirs lol.

[Opinion Owner]

Telling them they have to claim you as theirs could be part of the issue. I associate that more with what women would say but I could be wrong.

[DeadInside1134]

Maybe you’re right about that. Plus I probably make myself to reliable and available. But still they can’t have my D if they won’t claim me lol. I’ll just find a different way of saying it lol.

[Anonymous]

I dunno. But here's a solution. If the only go out with you for a week. Date them for 6 days then dump them. At least you're ending it on your terms.

[slatyb]

You are doing something to put them off but we can't tell you what it is without more detail. You could try seeing a counselor to figure this out. If you have a trusted female friend, talk to her. Recount the last conversation in as much detail as possible and see what she thinks.

Are you and your life in reasonable order?

[DeadInside1134]

I work on a farm and have my own place. No ex girlfriend or baby momma drama. When I bring them home I cook and hang out and when I’m at their place they cook or just hang out. We stay the night at each other’s place and cuddle for the night. I don't know

[slatyb]

"It’s really frustrating getting attached to someone thinking there’s a connection between us."

It sounds like you are rushing things -- getting attached before you even know someone. This puts people off for sure -- it's a sign of desperation and immaturity.

[DeadInside1134]

If I really do put them off then why do they still insist on me coming over there place or coming back to my place huh? All they want is a friend with benefits and I’m not about that life.

[CallmeTheKnight]

Because it’s you. You turn them off with who you are. Every woman you come across rejects you…. It’s definitely something you’re doing or something about you thats turning them off and you’re leaving it out of the details.
How can we help you if you don’t say enough or everything?

[rachel776]

i agree with this

if your username is dead inside what girl is going to like you

[CallmeTheKnight]

Exactly. Something is up with him

[DeadInside1134]

If I really do turn them off. Then why do they keep on trying to get me drunk and trying to sleep with me or they keep on asking for pics and sending me pics? Ps I also consider Friends with benefits as being in the Friend zone.

[CallmeTheKnight]

The fact you just now saying all this proves to me that you’re not telling truth about your situation snd refusing to face it. That low key brag is weak af and proves you’re lying.
friends with benefits or fuck buddies are not part of the friend-zone. You mentioned you didn’t have sex in 5 years, so you’re just contradicting yourself now.
So either you’re lying about the whole thing or only very few of them want to just keep hanging out with you. I honestly think you’re lying, because what real woman is gonna hang out with a guy she’s not interested in at all?

[DeadInside1134]

Did you read the part that says trying to sleep with me lol?

[CallmeTheKnight]

You can stop the cap

[Nikki1989]

How do you get attached to someone in a week?

[DeadInside1134]

By being at their place or mine every night for a week.

[DextroShade]

Most men struggle with this these days with 1 in 3 men being sexless. All I can recommend is to get your money up, get an edge about you, and definitely do not let yourself get friend-zoned.

[tolstoysbike]

bence acelen var

[tolstoysbike]

Sorry, I think you're in a hurry

[DeadInside1134]

Then why do they want to keep me around? Ps I also consider Friends with benefits as a form of being in the Friend zone.

[tolstoysbike]

what exactly do you want it to be