Women I am dating often makes comments on hot actors and her type of a guy. Why?

[East_egg]

I[M29] am dating women [F28] I met on tinder for 5 months now. We take it slow and enjoy the ride so far but some things in our "relation" are weird to me.

She told me specifically what her type of guy is (dark hair and charismatic) which I am not (as she said) and also that she loves good men's perfumes (which I am not used to use that much or ever). She mentioned she never thought she would like someone like me (brown hair, not so charismatic).

In addition to this, she often (basically approx. once a week) tells me which famous men she finds very hot, for some of them she almost drools while she mentions them. These men are of the type she mentioned earlier.

Of course we all are visual creatures and see when is someone attractive to us, but if I find some women attractive I wouldn't say that to her because I don't think that info is adding any specific value to the conversation.

I don't have a specific type of a woman, different things are attractive to me on different woman, but she is incredibly sexy to me and I cold never imagine being with someone that "wasn't my type" by some standards.

Why do people do this, especially when their type is the opposite of the person they are dating? I have nothing against her having specific type of a man, but it makes me think why she keeps saying those things to me and how come she ended dating me?

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Abbycado: I feel sorry for you, obviously nobody loved you ;)

[Shiprex]

It is perhaps an insecurity of hers she is oblivious to how rude it is toward someone she's supposed to be in to. You could ask her how it would make her feel if you were to mention a woman in social media or on TV or worse still in public (to see if she gets the message) as one you find hot, especially if she's NOT like her.

[East_egg]

I know that if I mentioned other women around her that she would like it very much. But I would never ever mention then, because of respect.

[Shiprex]

I would tell her it's rude of her to do that and a sign of disrespect but in a nicer way of course. See her reaction and if she's defensive perhaps she's insecure about herself

[East_egg]

Honestly this was huge turn off for me, especially since we are dating for only 5 months. If I am not her type, something that attracts her naturally, I don't wanna be with someone like that.

[Shiprex]

Absolutely, I understand how disrespected that would come across as but perhaps she's not intentionally doing it only "testing" because she's afraid of getting deeper into something that will devastate her emotional wellbeing. She's using childish tactics to put you off to see just how far she can push you with that disrespect.
If you like her tell her straight that you think it's disrespectful and a turn off that you'd prefer her to quit and if she doesn't take that HINT then she's toast.

[East_egg]

Testing, any type of shittests women use apparently, I don't like it or tolerate it. This definitely looks like the shittest. I think that people can get to know each other in a natural way without tests. This is something that for me is enough for break up, which I will do.

Some people are OK with tests, I am not.

[Shiprex]

It's your choice but maybe she needs to be told the tests are a fucking pain in the balls and that if she wants to play then she's not mature enough for relationships. THEN her reaction may be to pop out of that toxic social media brain virus of listening to idiots telling women how to "be smart" in relationships.

[East_egg]

She probably needs to hear it, and it will help her in her next relationship.
But I don't want to be the person who will teach her things like this. That's just disrespectful to me, and that's it.

[Shiprex]

It would be doing her a favour though expect her to perhaps seek a second chance to show that she can grow from constructive advice and that would be an opportunity to get one less toxic trait out of the way for others.

[East_egg]

What you say, makes sense... but this is not the first time me hearing these types of things/shittests from women. I just don't have the strength or the need to continue with someone who didn't respect me enough.

[Shiprex]

I hear you. It can be a draining process "dealing" with or "handling" modern women who've just been placed on pedestals since they were babies and told the world is theirs without them having the strength and courage to be able to actually drive this notion forward

[East_egg]

I dunno, I don't think about it much, better to be single than with the wrong person

[Zack-Bann]

Yeah it’s a self centered idealistic behavior unfortunately


I had an ex who used to be such a sucker for Timothé Chalamet and I am as far in the opposite to him as it gets
It’s a red flag


You should see it early

[East_egg]

I am seeing it early now. I don't like it at all.

[PrettyCrumblBb]

She sounds like a gaslighter.

Why would anyone focus on celebrities when you have a boyfriend right in front of you? It is weird that she keeps saying you're not her type. She sounds like a gaslighter and someone that would emotionally manipulate you.

[East_egg]

I don't have a problem with her finding someone attractive, but by saying me those things in addition to the info of what her type is.. it just confuses me a lot

[PrettyCrumblBb]

Ok that's why I said she's a gaslighter. She deliberately wants you to feel bad about yourself when she tells you you're not her type.

[East_egg]

i see your point, its just like weird cause why would then she want to be with me haha

[PrettyCrumblBb]

Some people like to emotionally abuse others. Be careful.

[East_egg]

Thanks :)

[Abbycado]

Because they won’t ever meet them. Jesus XD

They are grounded to reality, like the rest of us.

[East_egg]

I understand that, the thing is that those comments confirm that her type is indeed the opposite from me. That's the real issue here.

[Abbycado]

And what issue is that? She didn’t settle for a celeb? You are so incredibly insecure.

[East_egg]

calling a guy insecure is classic women's comment on subject like this :)

[Abbycado]

Look at you lmao. Getting bent out of shape because your girl comment ones on a hot actor.

[East_egg]

i only now saw you are 19...

[Abbycado]

Proves my point. You’re retarded and will lose this girl. Muted and blocked for being a dumbass, just like the other opinion says. Peace! ✌️

[PrettyCrumblBb]

@Abbycado She doesn't sound like she's grounded in reality, if she's dreaming about celebrities instead of focusing on the man she has in front of her. 😂😂😂

I think the problem is that she's deliberately trying to make him feel bad by constantly mentioning that he's not her type. And why would she be with someone that' not her type? That's so strange.

[Avicenna]

Those looks are very important to her

[East_egg]

it seems yes

[unknowngurll1212]

It sounds like she might not realize how those comments affect you... Some people overshare without meaning harm, but if it’s bothering you, it’s totally okay to gently bring it up and set a boundary...🤍

[East_egg]

honestly, its not othering me so much but rather confuses me a lot

[slatyb]

If it's over, why do you care about her motivation? It sounds to me like she was never that into you.

[East_egg]

At first it seemed she was really into me.
But then those comments/shittest started.
I wanted to hear opinions from people about it.

[In_Trance]

Because she's immature and brainwashed

[East_egg]

i dunno, but looks immature to me also