The power of Beaty privilege?

[Anonymous]

I opened fake page like Russian girl 19 years old on language exchange app. And every Korean men started texting me themselves.
When my page was real, with my Asian appearance, age etc, nobody even replied me😭
So I came to conclusion that probably no matter what I text or how I act, nobody will like me, cause appearance and age much more important 🫠
Is it mean I should accept dying alone?

[SteveSmith1985]

What? This is ridiculous. You are a terrible social scientist. This is the worst experiment, with absurd conslusions I've ever seen.

Where do I even start. Ok:

First of all, this is a language exchange app. This is not where anybody can draw conclusions about their desireability to men. It's just silly. People are not using that app to meet people for dates usually. Right? That does matter.

So you opened a fake page as a 19 year old Russian girl. I bet you chose a hot picture too?

Then a bunch of guys message this 19 year old fake profile. You conclude this means that's what men want. I think that you need to take a step back here. Who messages a pretty 19 year old Russian girl on a language learning app?

It's not other 19 year old guys who just see a pretty girl. It's for sure creepy guys who are messaging her for sexual reasons. Is that what you wish you were getting? Messages from random creeps? That's all the messages tell you. That yep, creepy guys will hit on a pretty 19 year old girl. But in a situation like this, 100% of those guys were creeps (regardless of what their messages said).

You thus conclude you're going to have to possibly die alone.

What the hell?

You just don't seem like the kind of girl who creepy men feel they might be able to convince to send nudes. So strange men with erections aren't messaging you. They are messaging this fake profile. The conclusion is, you look less sexually inclined than the fake profile.

That is all. That's what this shows. And it's not relevant in any way to what guys think about you. Or their interest in you. The race thing? That's all you pulling that out of your own insecurities. It isn't because she was Russian and you were Asian. There is absolutely no reason to think that. (from this).

I'm usually quite sympathetic if somebody is feeling discouraged, and down on themselves. This is just so... ridiculous as a way to conclude that nobody wants you... I just can't be my usual sympathetic self.

I don't know your story or history or anything about you. But this, in isolation, is not a reason to be upset. This means nothing.
🙂

[Anonymous]

No. It means you're going to have to have a personality. I can't tell you how many women in my life have told me, "I didn't used to find you attractive till I got to know you". Everytime they say that I just want to go, "so you're saying you think I'm ugly".😆

Everyone wants to feel attractive. But look on the bright side. Even if you're not drop dead gorgeous. That's not always a good think either. Think about all those guys that texted you Russian girl persona. Most of them were not really wanting to get to know her. Ya feel me?

[Anonymous]

Yes there do exists the power of beauty privilege but not the way you are concluding it or understanding it.

Beauty privilege is the advantage we get just because we look good. And in modern world there isn't any such rigid standard of beauty. Anyone with average features can have it if they are able to show out their personality as classy elegant. People automatically thinks all good about them, have a positive image in their mind even before knowing them.

But if there is a group of regular people, the one who maintain their beauty, good personality, they always have a little bit of advantage. That's the privilege.

About having a relationship, it's more deep thing, it's beyond the outer beauty. So it doesn't apply that much there. Yeh you can attract the people with your beauty but afterwards in relationship other things matters. What ever they can achieve what isn't considered that much beauty.

[StevenMcGarrett]

A lot of guys are in to Asian women. You'll find someone.