Base dating issues with online dating apps etc?

[Anonymous]

When I don’t have luck meeting anyone on dating sites, I just assume I don’t look attractive enough for women. Everyone uses dating sites these days. Also I read profiles saying looks is very important and a man’s salary is important. Is it fair then base every woman on that? Lets fact it, dating is so hard for men. And no we don’t chase the most attractive ladies. It leans towards women that do that because they have a load of options.

how is it women aren’t as visual as men then?

[Anonymous]

Please DON'T do that to yourself! I wish most guys wouldn't use dating apps because it gives the a FALSE perception of self.

There are very few truly ugly men. And I seriously doubt you're one of them. The REALITY is most women on dating apps have failed at dating in every sense of the word. Either by her selection of men or her lack of ability to connect with the opposite gender. As a result, these same women take this same failed approach online. The difference is, where these women would give 10% effort IRL, online she'll give maybe 1% or maybe none. These women (most of them) are hostile about being there. So as a guy you're already fighting uphill battle. These women (most of them) are dbl'ing down on thier failure and only willing to accept a unicorn. And here you come along and you're reading that as her rejecting you. Dude! Chris Hemsworth likely never had a chance with this woman unless he was absolutely willing to go all out for her.

If I could make a recommendation for all guys dating online it would be

1. Never message ANY woman first. You have to understand that dating rules as far as approaching women is inverse online. IRL men do the approaching and women can feign not being interested. This is one of the reason women HATE online dating. They CANNOT HIDE why they are there. Why do you think so many say in thier bio, "just seeing what's out there". Because in a bar she can say she's just having a night out with her girls. She cannot do that online.

2. Your pics are paramount! But not because she's looking for some guy who looks like THOR (some are don't get me wrong, and that's why those women are and will stay single 😆). But because you pics tell a story. She doesn't know you from Adam. If you post all selfies it tells the story that you're a recluse with no friends. You don't have to be the life of the party. But at least post pictures that show you are capable of a personality. Go out, go to ball games, camping, even include a formal event (a wedding, a graduation etc.) Something that shows you have a suit and are capable of wearing it. And bring along your camera.

3. Leave your bio BLANK! I'm not kidding on this. You're not Goddamn Ernest Hemmingway. Don't try to write a bio like you are. You're most likely going to FAIL! One irrefutable truth about women especially the type of women on a dating app., is they are all HIGHLY judgmental. The only thing you'll do buy writing a bio is most likely turning them off. Women when they look at your pics on your profile being writing the story in thier head. Why would you want to get in the way of that? The reality is most women do not make good choices. You can be there next bad choice if you keep your mouth shut. Say only what you have to. Nothing more!

These are all proven techniques. Good luck man!

[Fireguy17]

first get off of those sites and apps.
Try a pay to join sight, like It's Just Lunch, or eHarmony, or other similar sites if you are serious about finding someone.
The vast majority of people on those sites are serious about being in a relationship. And yes, there will be some on there that are looking for a free meal, or to just try to get laid, but those are in the minority.
You still have to do a lot of work, communicating with each other after you tell the site yes, I would like to talk to them, endless first dates, but if you put in the time and work in most cases, you will find someone.
That is where I met my wife, I live out in the sticks and the choices were slim to none, and I have a cousin that found his wife on a Christian dating service/site.

[Asker]

Yea I think you’re right 👍

[Nikki1989]

“Everyone uses dating sites these days.”

Where in the hell did you get that idea from? I have never known anyone to use a dating app, ever!

[Angel_ica]

Woman are visual we also like hot man more than ugly man

[Asker]

That’s all women want. Is average guys have zero chance

[Angel_ica]

With many woman for relationship you can have chance but for fuck I will pick hottest best fucking man

[Asker]

Well if he turns out to be an asshole and gives you an std, don’t come crying to me. All you ladies friendzone guys to boost your ego. Your not much to looks at. FYI

[Angel_ica]

I never friendzone it is just man not good enoug thinking they get a chance some day

[Asker]

You sound high and mighty in the looks department

[Angel_ica]

What you mean?

[Asker]

Average people are below u

[Angel_ica]

I know I look good and I not will settle for less than I want

[Asker]

Ur looks will get you so far. They’ll fade as you get older. Soon men are going to want someone younger than you

[Asker]

Anyway I’m sure ur a guy using a girls profile