Have you ever made out with someone really attractive to see if you felt anything?

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if you haven’t read my last question, here’s the update. I’ve been celibate for almost 3 years and haven’t had a sex drive for the last couple of months. I got really spooked because for me that was so drastic. I reached out to this really hot marine that I know, and has been back in town. We got lunch/drinks Then went back to his place And made out for a bit. Long story short he’s so attractive, and if I felt the spark I would’ve hooked up with him. I felt nothing and now I’m truly scared.

DeeplyintoU · Accepted Answer

It's because U expect to be intensely pounded n juices flowing everywhere n lol n don't be worried about that, let's be open like me ha ha , I've been single 16yrs hmm n I think like U , but U must be 2 ways a 1 yours only n let's work out way up n is there room for your thoughts guys are very excited but lazy n don't let chicks have the same stuff, toys might be a no , chick friend or 3 some no or yes , you gotta know your not stuck n shut out of the circle n does he care , ok so it's just a date , condoms n safety a friend as well you gotta know ,2 you can be very happy to do n show what U enjoy n you want on top lol but will he warm you up to operation temp so your just soaked lol n wildness lol if you watch porn you see them lose it there wild n into it that's what others miss , I see it n point it out to a mates misses n she like wow my mate didn't worry or notice because it's in n blow n I'm good see , so selective focus on your thoughts or you'll be depressed n blame yourself , was that his best oh then look out more more hmm, but if that's is his best are you gonna train him or yourself , I did n damn I'm good lol but it's finding your fem side n video to just to watch n learn did U get off then wow , did U see the tease or restricted feelings it's about being free n finding a way. Get rid of old sayings from churches or people ideas U see , I learned to be sensual oh sey stuff damn girls got the good stuff but role play demands fun n adventure, for the X but I don't say no I'm not gay but I found this a good way to get the freedom, feelings , arouses the thoughts n slow down , toys n then , lol electrical pulses hmm, yep places do orgasims over nover but no blow , oral jelly hmm cocks buzzing don't needucg , see some ice yep oh ozzes out n the touch yep so there U go your long way to go for your time , flavours n courses to become a wild babe n explosive hmm so I'm still single but I can tell U this , not many like me lol but U hope that took U to a whole new way to train n play n consider the right time n place for the guy U want cause really if they don't think it then it's a rootine lol tell me what U think ,

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

It sounds like you need more than just hooking up and having sex with someone , that you find attractive , you probably need to feel chemistry and connection as well for you to really be in the mood for sex. The thought of someone just getting off on you, probably doesn’t really sit well with you? . Have you experienced any sort of trauma in your past? I just recently found out why I am the way I am , when it comes to having sex with girls’. It mainly

stems down from my past trauma of being molested by an older woman when I was a little boy, from the ages of 9 to 11 , for many of years , I never thought it impacted me , because crazy to say , I kind of enjoyed it even though I remember being nervous as shit , but the more and more it occurred , I got use to it and enjoyed it , after that ended , I just buried it away like it was no big deal , but apparently it was a big deal that I didn’t realize it was for a very long time. Bottomline , I can not have sex with a girl just because I find her attractive on the outside , I can only have sex with her, if I find her attractive in the inside as well and feel she has a good heart and feel she wants more than just sex with me. I could never just have sex with a girl for the Hell of it but I had a lot of friends’ that could , and I always wondered why I couldn’t , So For me to have sex with a girl , I need to feel attraction and I need to feel a real connection with her and I , whether she is being honest with me or not , I just need to feel it means something , if not , I won’t have sex with her , I might kiss her and make out and let her give me a blow job , but I won’t have sex with her , especially if I feel she is just trying to get off on me and then go to someone else. but if she keeps coming back to me and keeps wanting to see me and be with me , then I will start to feel comfortable with her , and then I will have sex with her. Most females’ don’t believe me when I tell them this , because unfortunately for them they experienced guys’ that just used them for sex. So when I do have sex with a girl , she isn’t being used , even though she might assume she is.

Simslover92 · Accepted Answer

Kissing never does anything for me no matter how attractive they are. Like the guy I'm currently seeing is extremely attractive. We made out but I didn't feel anything. I never do. But it's when we get more intimate (third base) I start to feel something. I'm sorry you didn't feel anything. That sucks.

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

My husband was a very attractive Italian guy and yes, I did feel something so much that we ended up marrying each other.
To be honest though, when your man is very attractive there are always other women desiring him.
One woman said to me "When you're done with him would you send him my way"?

AviatorTom · Answer

After my divorce, when I started dating, I often made out with my date. Most of the time, it was very nice, and we continued to date. One time, a very attractive woman and I made out, or at least tried to... no fireworks... we broke up a week later.

Summeroflove · Answer

Not really it takes time for me to know if I really want to do something like that with someone. I’m pretty selective who I touch much less make out with. But someone whose had no sex Drive asks a lot of very sexual weird questions and wants a tattoo of bible verses. Someone likes to cherry pick the verses they want to hear and ignore everything else that’s written.

ohsheeT · Answer

Mmm lol would I ever.. lol even tho I know she would be more than great,  I would be doing it so she could feel me , so we could both feel , what it felt like. When becoming one with each other.

Miristheiss · Answer

LOL.

The obsession with feelings. The west making all of the relationship decisions based solely on feelings and being in love over the last 50-60 years has been a disaster.

The thinking, rational, logical side having no say. Clouding the wisdom and judgement by having sex too soon and getting feelings based on chemical reactions because you gave it up to some player after 1 date or 2, someone you shouldn't have anything to do with but now you have "feelings".

Would they be a good father? Good husband? Are you compatible religiously? Finances? Religion? Views on sex? Relationship boundaries? Life goals?

Just whether you "FEEL" something. Here is a fact. Feelings will always FADE, they'll always CHANGE and FLUCUATE. Well, you don't "FEEL" so let's divorce.

That is why there needs to be commitment, loyalty, service, devotion, your morals and standards, goals, values need to align. You make a wise choice and then you stick it out and work on it.

Feelings are an idiotic way to make major decisions and life choices.

OneViewpoint · Answer

Could be related to physical health. Could be a psychological issue. What's been going on in your life, say the last 4 years? Relationships, work, family, money, health. Have you looked at that overall view of yourself? Have you talked to a primary care doctor about it?

About the marine. You said he's physically attractive but, do you even like the guy? It takes more than looks for me to get turned on. I can't just get horny for a woman I met 20 minutes ago if she's a total disaster as a human being no matter how hot she looks.

7Phoenix7 · Answer

Before all of this, did making out with someone just based on physical attraction do anything for you?

Because maybe you need to be emotionally checked in before being turned on.

If that's not the case, I'm not sure...

Shiprex · Answer

I did at university one an event we had between two nearby places and this lass was fabulous and we were all over each other on the bus back from the event that was held in a castle. She had on this gorgeous ball gown and I had my kilt and it was quite the fun times that evening.

Iron_Man · Answer

Yeah when I was younger in my 20s I was on the dating service phone, dating it’s not that I needed it it was just very popular at that time so I tried it out and I met this Female that looked like Pia Zadorawe we made out in the first 60 seconds when she came over I didn’t feel that much for her. I just know I wanted to kiss but I had a strange feeling come over me when she left so I went out and got a small bottle of wine It was late at night Everything else was closed so I had to go to 711 and get that little bottle of wine and squish it Around in my mouth and spit it out to kill the germs because I don’t know anything about her but later on, I had found out that she only has kissed two males And I was the one of them so I guess I was pretty safe. I just didn’t know anything about her So I got paranoid, knowing that I made such a quick move like that, even though it was only kissing I don’t usually do that for girls that I like

nawtee_me · Answer

Maybe what you need is a single father because it is not just you now and your mother’s instinct has you in protection mode. You don’t want to feel anything because you are not sure about letting anyone close to your child. If you are involved with someone then eventually you would have to. So you can’t let anyone get close….

Sunrising · Answer

Sounds like the marine wasn't as good as you thought he was.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Don't be scared your just a grown woman meaning you probably need more that good look to get you hoing. You probably need to have a real connection that's a good thing. That's called growth...

WhitneySnow · Answer

Yeah once at a party. I felt a spark but I wasn’t ready for a relationship and neither was he so I didn’t go any further (though he would have if I wanted to).

Sick_Soul · Answer

Man, sometimes you gotta take a wild ride and see what sparks fly, there's more to that crazy story than meets the eye!

Ferngully2000 · Answer

Probably just haven’t met the right person.

Yeah I hooked up with who was considered the ‘hottest’ guy in my school year. He was very attractive to a lot of girls, I could see why but no he just really didn’t do it for me.

Then I met a guy out of the blue recently and boom! The mutual attraction was unreal. I found it cliche was when I least expected it and it doesn’t happen every day no.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

No, I never made out with anyone to test that out. I usually feel pretty into someone before I make out with them lol

IslaTheWitch · Answer

definitely not this order :D I need to feel something and be sure about it to do anything else :D

PeterLegg91 · Answer

Gawd knows, not a closet lesbo and you don't know it yet? Lol 😆

TallAnon · Answer

No, but I've been the other person, lol; A win is a win

WonderingManII · Answer

You could go to the doctor and ask to have your hormones tested. It's just a simple blood test. I got mine done.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I just enjoy making out. I don't need a reason to do it.

Jay-_- · Answer

I have no idea. Could be a couple reasons, most I won't mention... Lol

msc545 · Answer

I have. What I felt was an instant desire to have sex with them.

Eempriyanka · Answer

Not a fan of physical touch without feelings.. at least a little bit of emotions must be there for me to get turned on

Babebytheshore85 · Answer

No, I don't swap spit with just anybody there are stds out there

Massageman · Answer

Other than a case of the hots? No. I looked for other things, and ultimately, that turned out less than perfect, as it was.

SunnyRS · Answer

It could be nothing maybe you just didn't feel the chemistry with him. Or you might have low drive right now. Or you might want to try something new to feel the rush again.

Jove79 · Answer

You went all the way back to his place, for a kiss.. sorry I’m not buying that, no way you just kissed lol

blackeagle007 · Answer

I dunno bout you but when a woman strips down to bikini, I’m totally ready

QuestionObsession · Answer

Should have let him eat you out. That would have turned you right on

smahala1991 · Answer

I did with my ex, the first time it wasn’t really anything, but second time led to sex

PaleDale · Answer

Depends also on size/girth and knowing how to use it.

alice55 · Answer

I never kissed anyone so no

serious · Answer

No. I never did anything like that.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope but celibacy is a great path, I'm on the same wavelength, it's entertaining to watch the breeders fail

JasonOrlove · Answer

Yes I made out with my girlfriend but the more I make out with her the more I want her..

exitseven · Answer

I never put that much thought into it.

chrissykerdock · Answer

kissing always leads to getting fingered

LiamJHayden · Answer

When I was a teen.

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Yeah, I guess. And I did 😉

Jltakk · Answer

Not really, if I did, I'd be slapped.

Sluttt · Answer

I felt passion but i felt other women too

Jerre · Answer

For me, making out always leads to sex

Anastasia86 · Answer

When I was 13.

ravagesavage · Answer

Yeah

Anonymous · Answer

Nope, never, I have no luck in love.

Sam1133 · Answer

You're sexually dead 😪

chocolatetwopointo · Answer

no im 16

eagle1951 · Answer

yeah

yotaman99 · Answer

I know how you feel

Have you ever made out with someone really attractive to see if you felt anything?

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